I have mentioned this to the teachers .. but the seem not to care. What to do?
2006-10-13 04:11:41 · 15 answers · asked by therojoman 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Preschool
tell her that that isnt nice to say that they cant go to heaven saying words like that and the next time they say it ignore them so they wont get the arousal they expect
2006-10-13 04:18:02 · answer #1 · answered by MS. NONA 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I agree with Andrew H, fear is not the way for your child to learn. Offer an explanation of why you do not use those words in terms and ways that the child can relate to. Try explaining that those words can hurt, ask the child if they know what they are saying means, or so on.
The words are probably getting a reaction or attention... to a 3 year old attention is attention, positive or negative it really does not matter. The teachers probably do not care because they do not want to give it attention, sometimes ignoring problems like this makes them go away. If the teacher gives one child attention for the potty mouth, another will follow for the attention and so on. The attention also comes from the children.
Reinforce your family values and talk to your child about things they can do instead, just do not threaten things that are abstract or they can not immediately see. Any corrective actions or consequences have to be immediate and concrete in terms that your child can understand.
2006-10-13 05:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by Krispy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can a couple of things. When my son started coming home with a "Potty mouth" I sat him down and explained to him that these words were not a nice thing to say. Give them a reward for everytime they don't say these words. For example get a dry erase board. Mark on the board the days of the week and for every time they say a "potty word" the get a check mark. For every check mark they lose time. Whether it is that they end up going to bed early or they lose out on a certain activity that they enjoy to do. It will teach them that the more they say these words the more they lose out on. I have also found that if you can't get the teachers to do anything about it then it may be time to change preschools. No one wants to have to do that but every child needs to be in an environment where they are going to learn how to interact with people the correct way and not by saying these "potty words".
2006-10-13 08:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Ann D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you mean curse words, just one bad word, a phrase? Either way the kid will tend to use it more at that young age. While in elementary, I had a thing with using bad words. The phase lasted two weeks. However your kid is only three, and that can be extremely effect the way the child will speak throughout life. ESPECIALLY IF THE CHILD IS RAISED WITH 'POTTY MOUTH' SURROUNDINGS.
Don't stand at the sidelines, be a participator. Let your child know it is wrong, find a new word to use, and keep contact with the teachers along with other parents about the situation.
2006-10-13 04:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
On the teachers defense, She can't control what comes out of other childrens' mouths and what other parents allow their kids to say. Now if it is coming out of her own mouth that is a different story, but she has no control over if a kid says it or not, but some kids don't listen even when you tell them not to say it. So you are going to have to teach your child that those or words that mommy doesn't want you to say and let the teacher know you want them to correct her if she says them and hopefully that will work
2006-10-13 04:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by Hi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answers already given seem to be good ones. Another thing you can try (if you need another solution) is to have your child repeat the word (or words) over and over. And over and over. And over and over until the child is so tired of saying it that there is no interest at all in saying it anymore. The child could "run it out of his/her system" and have no use for it -- and along with the other suggestions of replacing it with some other word.
2006-10-13 08:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by dexter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because I "talk like a trucker" I have always taught my kids that those words are for grown-ups to say, not children. This way, my kids don't make a big deal when they might here a grown-up say it, but understand that it is not appropriate for them to say. Teach your child right from wrong, help them make better choices, and both of you will be ready for the even bigger questions next year. "Mommy, what's a lesbian...masterbation...B.J.?" My personal favorite was having to explain to my then 6-year old what ***** means and that it is not nice to call someone that. Our babies grow up too fast!!
2006-10-13 08:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Emilia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
each her not to say those words and ask the teacher to kind of look out for her. You do not want her growing up to be saying those things.
2006-10-13 12:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by i've got the answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First don't let any of those kids near her. if impossible take her into a diffrent class or school. Or even tell the teacher to keep them apart.
2006-10-15 16:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by cheetger 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what i try to do with my niece, is this:
whenever she says a "bad word" dont make a big deal out of it. like if she goes. "f*&k!" i go, What happened?? And then she tells me and i go. "oh boy!" or replace the bad word w/an interjection that is not bad.... it works most of the time.
2006-10-13 04:51:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take something away from her each time she uses a bad word and explain why it is naughty.
She should get the hint.
2006-10-13 10:22:57 · answer #11 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋