Is it wrong to ask my boyfriend to dress according to what I like?

Question

He feels that I am trying to change him by telling him what I like and what I thinks looks good on him. He feels that if he always pleases me I am going to take advantage of that and always expect him to do what I say.

Answer 1

There's give and take with a relationship, but yeah...his fears a legitimate. Granted if he has horrible style, then you should help him. But I do understand where he's coming from.

If you isolate it to the subject at hand (what he wears), then okay. If you spill over into other parts of his life often (telling what to do), then his fears are justified.

You lose part of your individual identity in a relationship, he just doesn't want to lose it all at once.

Answer 2

Well, you could go shopping with him sometimes and just "creatively" find a way to get him to try on things you think he would look good in. Or, you could just buy him an outfit or a piece of clothing every now and then. He is not likely to take offense to that. I buy my wife things and she buy me things. I don't take offense and nor does she. In fact, I think it's pretty cool. It would be a mistake to try to force him to dress the way you want him to, though or even to come straight out and ask him to dress how you want him to. It may come across or be perceived as belittling or condescending.

Answer 3

Yes and no. I mean yes, because you should let him be him and wear what he wants cause you aren't with him for how he dresses are you? And it may start with the clothes then turn into more controlling things. On the other hand, he may dress the way you like on his own because it gives a kind of attraction for you. But let him be him and make compromises.

Answer 4

My girl has me dress in clothes that she prefers me to wear, but at the same time, she gives me the freedom to wear my favorite clothes when I want. I never make fashion suggestions to her, although she always looks beautiful and great in what she wears, but everyone needs their own identity sometimes. I can understand if your man dressed like a bum or a slob. Be very very flexible with him. My girl is flexible with my clothing options, and I love her for it.

Answer 5

I let my wife dress me because I don't have any fashion sense at all. Just make sure to not press to much about anything that he want to keep. I have a favorite pair a shorts and a sweatshirt. She knows better than to try to get rid of them.

Answer 6

yes it is.
I think that it's okay to point at something and say I think you'd look nice in that, but don't try to force or even ask him to change into it. If you don't like his style you're obviously attracted to his personality which is good, but you need to accept him.

My boyfriends ex used to do that to him, and he's still bothered by it. He said it made him feel like a trophy that wasnt quite shiny enough for her.

Answer 7

Yes it is wrong to ask him to dress according to what you like. He is an individual, has his own style and therefore entitled to wear what he wants. If this bothers you then your not the one for him and he deserves better then someone so damned shallow.

Answer 8

Depends on what u r doing/ were u r going, but generally y change a person? u went out with him for him, so yes i think its slightly wrong

Answer 9

I think it is. He is his own person and you wouldn't want him to tell you what to do. It is a control issue. A bettor idea is go shopping with him and get him to try some clothes on you like and see what he thinks

Answer 10

to an extent i think hes right. if he does everything that u want him to then u'll always expect to get what u want. and when u dont get what u want it will hurt u. but i dont think that its wrong for u to tell him what u think looks good on him or what u think he should wear. ur entitled to ur opinion and u should share it but dont always expect him to agree with u.