I have no goal in life can anyone help?

Question

I feel demotivated and tired and I'm only 20something.

Answer 1

It sounds to me like you could be suffering from depression. I would not suggest getting on meds for it at your age though. I would recommend reevaluating you life and pinpoint what is making you unhappy. It is a lot easier to change whatever it is that's making you unhappy now while you are still in your 20's. You are in some of the best years of your life you just need to stop long enough to enjoy them. Don't sweat the small stuff.

Answer 2

The good thing is that you are only 20 something. I am many other people have gone through that 20 something crisis of "What am I going to do with my life?" The good thing is that you are young and have time to search around. I am 32 and I went to school for many years eventually getting my MBA. I thought this will make everything better. I will enter the corporate world and make good money and be on the fast track. Well I was happy at first but, I soon realized that money and a good job title did not make me happy. So I started searching around and trying different things. I tried music, I tried writting, I took classes here, I tried things there. Finally, I took an acting class and boom I found my passion. For the last few years I have been studying acting and now I do some professional stuff on the side and hopefully later it will become a full time thing. My point is you have to do some searching around to find out who you are and what you love. It might not be acting, it may be teaching, whatever. But, go out there and find what you love to do. It doesn't always come easy. You may have to take a class here or go to a seminar there but, you have to search around a little. That is part of the fun. The 20's are a confusing time and it can be depressing at time but, if you make it your goal to figure out what you want to do in life you 20's can be quite rewarding.. Good luck in your search.

Answer 3

Don't worry too much it's only a 'blip' the reason your feeling like this is because maybe your childhood has caught up on you. Did you have a happy child hood or has something happened to you that has been 'brushed under the carpet' now its time to find out and deal with the past then I guarantee you will move forward, you will then feel motivated. You are most probably at the crossroads of your twenties, don't worry you will choose the right path, follow your instincts. Give yourself a little goal each day and reward your self (ie getting up 5minutes before you normally get up) fight with your mind it will be saying whats the point of getting up there's nothing to get up to' set a small goal even if its like putting clothes away, walking to shops rather than the car. You will then felt youve achieved something and your goals will become bigger because you are feeding your brain with more positive and happy things. I can guarantee the more positive things you do, you will bring more positive things around you, like a magnet really. Don't aim your goals too high like I am going to run the marathon next year, just try, I will get those brochures to find out about a different career or college, you don't have to look at the brochures but the fact you've done someting in the right direction.... Talk about your feelingsit to people who will understand too... most people have gone through what you are going through at some point in their life but they got through it which you will too :). Tonight write yourself a list of what you would like to achieve tomorrow, if you tick one off well done! You will feel great! If you tick them all off, then make a bigger list the next day....Iand give yourself a big hug and a reward of what you like maybe...its a big step in the right direction.... I wish you lots of positivity and I know you will do it xxxxx

Answer 4

Demotivated and tired? I empathise for you; although I have goals in mind I feel the same way (I'm 19 by the way). I believe it has something to do with depression, but I also have an insecurity problem. I sometimes feel that my goals may never be achieved.

Answer 5

I guess the easiest answer is to got to your doctor and see whether you suffer from depression, it might help.
Why do you need a goal in life, I guess because it keeps you going, same with me.
Is there anything you really love? Any hobbies?
Or is there something that you hate so much that you want to change it? It has to be something that you can't live with. You know, those kinds of things that make you sick when you see them or think about them. I personally find it easier to find those negative things, but once I act on them, they turn into positive action and I have set a goal without even knowing it. The most important thing in my view is to have the goal to have taken chances and not to have to ask yourself when close to death: "What if I had done things differently."
I am myself on Antidepressants and was scared of them at first, but now I just respect them, so would never abuse them. They help me to have the energy to feel something, whether positive or negative so that I can get up an act on it, but they are just a tool, not the solution.
I wish you all the best and good luck on your journey :o)

Answer 6

You sound a bit depressed, and you really shouldn't especially at your age, do you get plenty of excercise and eat healty regularly?

I would suggest you tell your doctor about the way your feeling and tell him about your lifestyle so he/she can try and point you into a better direction, so you are a happy person again.

I'm not sure any of us on here can fix you just by writing a paragraph. We can just advise you that it is serious and you def should make an appointment first thing next week to talk about this further.

I really hope you come out the otherside a happy and motivated person, all the best.

Moto: Try to keep a smile on your face and try to laugh atleast once a day

Get out there and sort it out, don't let life pass you by.

Answer 7

Do what my brother did, He got my parents to pay for him to travel the world in order to find himself. He's 32 now and still looking but has had a great time doing it. Don;'t worry about not having a goal life is for living and it does not always need a plan to work just take it each day at a time. As one door shuts another should open

Answer 8

Instead of having no goal in life you may be stressed out from being bombarded by too many goals! You simply don't know where to begin. Pick one or two small things and go to work on them. A little progress goes a long way. Know that people who have great jobs, great lives, people who invent great things are just people. And so are you. You can do anything you see others do.

Answer 9

People so far sound about right, you could be suffering from depression. I know its pretty dull advice but you need to start with the basics, Eat right (5 a day fruit and veg, ditch the junk), sleep right (7/8 hours a night trying to get to bed before midnight), and drink enough water (about 2 litres a day, in small amounts not in pints!), get regular excercise (consult your doctor if you're worried about your fitness level), stop taking any recreational drugs, drink alcohol within the recomended limits. Like I say, I know it sounds dull but give it a few weeks, it really is the best place to start.

Answer 10

It's a bit normal at your age. Still no goal found to build your life around it :) But if it persists, then, I'm afraid, you should react.
Here is a motivating article to begin with:
http://rabahqial.blogspot.com/2006/10/attitude-accelerator.html

Find an aim and go for it patiently. The higher the better.
good luck dear :)