Teen parents?

Question

As a woman who parented her first child at 17, I am asking from a point of expierence and true interest/concern? How many of you had no idea what really lay ahead? How many of you thought it was all a big game where you got to decorate, shop, pick names and eat up all the attention, good or bad and then were smacked in the face when reality of the responsibilities set in? I think if more of us spoke up honestly some of these poor girls asking RIDICULOUS questions may think twice the next time they want to have sex.

Answer 1

i was too a teen parent i had my daughter at 18, but pg at 17. I never thought it was going to be hard after i had her. by hard i mean getting up in the middle of the night to feed and change her diaper, but the bad thing is that i had to set my alarm clock because she was not waking up by herself in the middle of the night... and this was at like one day old... it was dr.'s orders because i didn't do that she could dehydrate. I never knew how much i appreciated my sleep till i had my daughter... but i learned to make do with the sleep i got... it was hard, but i had no other choice. My mom offered to help me at night, but i didn't let her because it was my baby and my responsibility.. I did it all by myself too... a single mom. living with my parents.

Having a life of my own was not even thing in my vocabulary... all my dreams had to be put to a BIG HALT FAST... My college application i through in the trash... My life was "over" it was not about me anymore...I had another life i was responsible for. I was working at a place only making 8.10 a hr. and i had been there for 10 years... So, i up and quit one day becasue i was not making enough money. I found a lot better job 2 months later making way more money. I was tired of the struggling to make ends meet every month. My daughter deserved more then what i was giving her. Now, I am in college persuing my carreer. I have 1 1/2 left of college... still making good money. Work pays for my college and i can go to college for anything i want. does not have to pretain to where i am working. So, i had no choice but to take advantage of it. It was not easy to get to where i am in life now...now it is 10 years later and i could not be so thankful for God helping get my own place and car. I have been out on my own off and on, but the last 5 years it has been permanant... I thank God everyday for the help...

IF you are a teenager thinking about sex and having a baby...Don't do it... Live your life to the fullest becasue once that baby comes you life is over and no more fun... it will be put to a complete stop faster then you can say WAIT.....

Answer 2

I also had my little boy at 17 got pregnant at 16. I helped raise my cousins when I was younger. 9 years old gettin up in the middle of the night to feed them and tend to whatever they needed. I thought it would be easier than it was. The older they get the more you have on you'r plate. It gets harder in different ways everyday. Don't get me wrong I love him to death and would give anything for him, but it is hard to provide for him the way I would like sometimes. The father has never helped any and probably never will. It is not a easy task, I wish I would have waited just for the simple fact of I could have finished school and got a better job. He has everything he needs and a lot of what he wants, but it is hard getting on you'r feet and out on you'r own. I have lived at home until here recently with him. Believe me it is better to wait no matter how experienced you think you are at raising kids.

Answer 3

I knew it was going to be no bed of roses. Never did I think it would be all fun and games, but then again, I was raising by siblings at the age of ten. So i knew what lay ahead.

I had my son a month after my 19th birthday with plenty of practice behind me. I won't say that the fact that I knew what I was in for, prepared me in any way more than others, because it was still difficult tending for him sometimes, but I love it. I love him and his father is crazy about him.

His father, my fiance, wasn't all that aware of what lie ahead but was eager to learn and it was great teaching him all the different things and to watch his face when he was with our son.

BUt I do know that so many up the girls up here think that its all about dressing up the baby, showing him/her off, and buying tons of things for the baby. Boy, are they in for a rude awakening, for a while all i could afford to buy for the baby was the essentials. Formula and diapers, lol.

Answer 4

I agree my friend knew this one girl who was having a baby at 12, 12 now she is like 16-17 with a 4-5 yr old

Answer 5

i become 15 as quickly as I had my infant, Age does play a ingredient on condition that there's a huge adulthood point from being 15 or 17 whilst in comparison with being 27. i think in case you have been noted superb then there are not any questions with regard to the affection you have for a toddler whilst it quite is born no remember what your age is. If i ought to turn lower back time specific i could have waited yet abortion become on no account an determination yet i become blessed interior the reality that i become in a position to assist myself financially on condition that I got here into allot of money $3 hundred,000.00 whilst i become 15 from an vehicle twist of destiny previous to conceiving so as that helped extraordinarily and took allot of concerns off my shoulders and my father and mom. I had a super help device and loving kin it quite is very important having a toddler youthful. i do no longer think of at any age you're waiting for the household projects a toddler desires and you learn as you pass.. you may make it and be high-quality and the youngster can enhance up and not be effected via being so youthful once you had her have self assurance me, my daughter is 10, at once A pupil, I went to varsity, stay to tell the tale my very own and characteristic been on condition that i become 19, I do it on my own with the help of my kin and husband.. superb of success to you and your infant and don't enable a number of those posts get to you, they dont understand you or your up bringing..

Answer 6

SOME OF THE GIRLS REALLY HAVE NOTHING ELSE TO TURN TO
I KNOW IT SOUNDS CRAZY BUT LIFE IS SO NOT EASY AND UNREASONABLE
SOME PARENTS ARENT THERE MOST AUINT FORTUNATE ENOUGHT TO KNOW GOD FOR THE GREAT HE IS
AND INCIDENTS HAPPEN TO KNOCK U DOWN OR MAKE U STRONGER SO ITS OK TO GET THEM THINKING BUT NOT TO JUDGE THEM

AND SO MANY PARENTS ARE AFRAID TO TELL THEIR CHILD I LOVE U OR EVEN SHOW THEM THATS WHY THEY TURN TO TV THE UNREAL DEAL THE FANTASY LIFE AND THESE STREETS TO SEE WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO BE LOVED BUT THATS NOT WERE ITS AT ITS IN THE ARMS OFMOMMY DADDY OR JUST THE ONE THEY KNOW CARE FOR THEM NOW YOUR LIFE IS YOURS AND THE PAST IS THE PAST BUT LETS NOT LOOK AT THE PAST DREAM BIG FOR THE FUTURE.

EVERYONE FALLS SOMETIMES BUT THE ONLY TIME U ARE AFAILURE IS WHEN U DONT GET BACK
EITHER U FIGHT WITH A GOAL OR FIGHT WITHOUT ANY STRENTH TO STAND.
CIRCUMSTANCES ARE DIFFERENT FOR EVEYONE THE OUTCOME IN THE CAUSE AS WELL
SO TELLING YOUR STORY WILL NOT HELP MANY SOME BUT NOT THOSE WHO TAKE IT INSULTING.
GOD GAVE U YOUR STORY FOR U
AND HE WILL GIVE EACH AND EVERY SOUL ON EARTH THERES WITH NOT ONE THINGS
ONE THINGS ALIKE

SO TAKE YOUR TELL AND TELL IT BUT LETS PRAY INSPIRES AND INFLUENCE

BUT GOD HAS HIS PLANS AND NOONE ME YOU OR SOME OF THESE CRAY PEOPLE ON HERE CAN CHANGE IT OR STOP IT
SO THANK GOD FOR YOUR LIFE EVEN IF IT AINT BEEN THE BEST.
BECAUSE EVERY LESSON IS A BLESSING

Answer 7

here here! I second that! Theres a lot of smart people on here today.

Answer 8

finally someone with something brilliant to say. Thanks, I was beginning to think I was a loner here!