My older sister is mom's favorite and can do anything! Dance, make her smile, Cook, clean you name it she can do it and mom loves her for it. Mom buys her cute stuff and I get the discount rack. Dad loves my younger brother. Being the only boy he babies him and so does mom. My brother is a genuis! He get's straight a's and has skipped 2 grades. I have no idea how/why I was born into this perfect family. Anything I do isn't as good as my sister they never say that but you can tell. I've never gotten below a B on a report card but I still get threatened with my grades. Now what? Please help!
2006-10-13 03:05:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you get a chance to talk to your mom tell her in a positive way how you feel. If you run out of the room yelling it will get you no where. I was the apple of my daddy's eye until my younger sister was born. I am number 4 in the family right behind a son who could do no harm. If they can't be proud of you be proud of yourself. Do things that are positive and make you feel good about yourself. I'm sure that it feels like whatever you do is never enough and when you're growing up it's really tough. Don't sweat the fact that your brother gets straight A's he's probably not going to get them all the time and if he does who cares. Relax and enjoy being you because resentment can make your parents back away from you not to mention make you miserable. In another 10 or 15 years your sister and brother will be getting on with their lives and I'm sure far from perfect. I went through school with clothes from the discount rack and now when I have the choice I will pick comfy over trendy. Of the 5 of us I am the one that accomplished the highest level of education I think due to the fact that I was always over shadowed by my wonderful brother and my beautiful sister. I didn't have to work at being beautiful or smart just at being myself.
2006-10-13 04:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't supose to be a competition with siblings in the family.. I hate to say this but most familys the first born is a favorite.. and your haviing your youngest and it being a boy will naturally be a fathers dream.. to have a boy.. There is a spot here for you.. you just have to find what you are good at and do the best that you can.. You are appreciated you just aren't noticing it.. Stop worrying about your brother and sister being favorites.. and do what you do well and you will get the recognition that you are wanting to do.. you are already getting good grades. do you play sports of any kind or excell in anything that the others don't..
do your best in everything that you do.. And enjoy what you are doing so it isn't like a chore to you.. You are in this family for some kind of normalicy. You must remember that most familys don't have what you have.. they have the good one. the normal one and the troubled child.. don't compete with everyone.. just be yourself because that is what is so special about you..
To my way of thinking you have the best part in your family.. Your sister is constantly trying to impress you mom. your brother will constantly have to keep up with he is doing and you just get to do what you do normally.. give yourself a break and just know that you are loved. there is no competition..
enjoy your life.
2006-10-13 03:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just sounds like your Mom and sister are closer than you and your Mom. I'm the blacksheep in my family, too, but it seems to have gotten better the older I get. Try to do more things alone with your Mom or Dad. Try asking them to show you how to do something special or your Mom how to make something...this will give you some good alone time with your parents and show them that you are ready to get the attention you've been waiting for.Be proud of your B's...those are good grades and you should be proud to bring them home to your family. Don't compare yourself to your Brother or Sister. You are a unique individual with your own special qualities and I'm sure your family would be lost without you in it. If everyone is the family was the same...wouldn't it be boring? You each play a special role in your family and there's room for all of you. You should think more highly of yourself.
2006-10-13 04:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Middle child syndrom... I'm a middle child too. My older brother is very smart and went to college and is now a high school teacher. My younger sister was always mom's favorite because she's cute and funny and when she grew up she became just what my mom wanted her to do - got married and had 3 kids. Me, on the other hand didn't go to college, got married - had a horrible marraige, got divorced and still do not have a real career or kids. I did have dreams when I was young - but my parents didn't agree with my choices. So, I gave up on those dreams and became a big nothing! Tried to make them happy and ended up very unhappy... My advice to you is you need to stick to your dreams, do what you feel in your heart is true to who you are. Be the best you can be - being yourself... You'll be alot happier in the long run. Believe it or not your parents do love you - but you might not realize it till your much older. Best wishes.
2006-10-13 03:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk 2 your parents & tell them the way you feel. Let them know that this is hurting you.This happens many times to the middle child. They start to feel left out or like the black sheep. When you have your talk make sure it's with mom & dad. Both of your parents need to hear what you have to say. You shouldn't have to feel like an outsider in your own home. Parents should love all their kids equally without favoritism. Remember even though they're behaving this way, I know they love and adore you 2.
Good Luck!
2006-10-13 03:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by BK1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me too, i'm always compared not only with my siblings but also with other people. Before, i felt like i was a nobody but then i realized that i am who i am PERIOD!!! So what if you are not as good as your siblings in academics or if you don't get cute stuffs, thus it make you less of a person? Don't dwell on those things, those are material things that you can acquire maybe not today but in the future. You should shine!!! prove them that you are special and that depriving you of their attention and affection is such a loss for them. Make them realize that, You may not get a medal in academics but you are the child who has the brightest personality.
2006-10-13 03:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by cncrned 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have middle child syndrom. You need to sit down seriously with your parents and tell them how you feel. No matter what you think, they love you unconditionally because you are their child. I'm sure if you asked your other siblings they would feel they are left out as well. All children do at some point in their life. Talk to them, everything will work out fine.
2006-10-13 03:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sure your parents love you. everyone is different,ans no one is perfect. i am sure there
will be something you find you can do better than some of the things they do. no everyone can do the same things equally. everyone is different for a reason. can you imagine how boring it would be if we all were the same. it's hard some times when you are the middle child.
but hang in there, things will get better. have you tried to talk to your parents? Let them
know how you feel.this is the best way to be close with your parents. talking to them is a very important step. just ask them to talk to you
without your sibling being there.
2006-10-13 03:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by Bobby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ley your parents know how you feel. You are the middle child and I know it is unfair but often middle children get this kind of treatment. Everyone looks at your sister as being the first born so she is "special" and they look at your brother as being the "baby". All I can say is life is very unfair but just try to explain how you feel.
2006-10-13 03:09:40 · answer #9 · answered by faybe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also a middle child and know exactly how you feel. I was very surprise though to find out mum's put me as executor for her will and my other siblings all see me as the 'grown up' one. Being the middle child can have its benefits! Your parents probably think you are their best because you don't need heaps of compliments poured on you to get good results.
http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/development/birth_order.htm
2006-10-13 03:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by nangari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋