Can anyone tell me how basic training was for themand who did u contact the most, mom or wife?

Answer 1

You're asking alot of questions about basic training and if they can cheat and contact home. I'm guessing you have a hubby in BCT and you feel like you don't hear from him often enough. Either that or a son, but then you wouldn't really be worried about him cheating. I can tell you, if you're this worried now (before he joins or while he's in BCT), you're going to have ALOT of problems and issues when he gets to permanent duty station and goes TDY or gets deployed.

As the wife of a Drill Sergeant, I can tell you that their contact home is very limited. Even during free time, many of them are just too tired to call or write home. Many of them spend that time going to church or just making sure their stuff is squared away. Contact home is about 50/50. There's plenty of married ones that let the parents know they're ok. The rest tell their wives to let the family know they're fine. BCT isn't band camp. It's rough. Training is intense. It wears you down mentally and physically.

Whatever you think the issue is, let your recruit do what he needs to do to make it through his training. He doesn't need extra stress. What he learns now could be the difference in him coming home alive from a deployment.

Answer 2

Take it from a women who has gone through basic training- it is harder than we let on. At first basic training is the hardest thing ever- physically, mentally, emotionally, etc. but as time goes on you get use to the environment that you are in and start getting to know those you are around 24/7. Be glad that she has found friends through all of this. I do suggest writing her and telling her that you miss her and that your feelings haven't changed and (if this is true) have grown stronger- because now you realize how it would be if she wasn't there everyday and that you hope she feels the same. Tell her all the things you miss about her (even those little things.) Towards the end I would mention something about the fact that you are so proud of her and are happy for her in finding friends- but you are feeling a little pushed away. Don't come down too hard saying things like you are pissed off- but just simply say you are feeling a little pushed away. Tell her you are waiting for her and you want nothing but her to be happy and you will continue to be there for her- but you need her to still be there for you too. Tell her that you feel like you might be on different levels- but you need to also state something about how this may be a test for your relationship, BUT you know that you will be able to pull through. It is hard to be away from the person you love and care about most esp. for so long. As basic goes on it gets easier (and in all honesty i had some of the best/worst times in basic!) Whatever you do don't send her a letter with all kinds of negatives- that will be the easiest thing to do. That could really affect her in basic- a girl i was in basic with was always overwhelmed with things from home and couldn't ever focus on what she was doing and eventually they ended up making her do a lot of things over and over again. Good luck to you- and just remember love is a strong bond between two people- if it is meant to be, it will!

Answer 3

Well, I hit BCT in september of 83 at Fort Dix N.J. Was 19, not married, and deffinately contacted mom the most. Course my experiances are probably little different then kids going in now. We where sat down, given a post card to write to our folks or family, then lined up at the phone and given 5 minutes to call and say we where ok. Then poof, I was so busy for two weeks I didnt even think about mail or phonecalls LOL And it was probably about that before I recieved any mail from home. the next phonecall we made home was probably half way through and once a week there after. Ofcourse wasn't as many phones availible as there is now and we where strictly controlled in terms of access. There was no phonecards back then, no cellphones which they still don't allow them to have until they are finished. No computers, so it was a different time. But they allowed us letters and enough calls to keep us happy.

Answer 4

It was very eye opening. You find out a lot about yourself and how much inner strength you have. I wrote a lot to my parents and girlfriend. Making it through was the most important thing I have ever done in my life.

The first couple of days are the toughest part and most traumatizing and it supposed to be that way to weed out those who cannot make it at all. Then it moves on to those who don't have the endurance for the military environment.

Which branch are you going into? I was a squid and I went during the coldest months of the year in Great Lakes, IL.

Answer 5

At the time. For me It was a let down. I was expecting more than what it really was. I was expecting it to be more physical than what it was. For me I remember High School Football being more physically demanding than Basic Training. As For who did I call More??? I Graduated from high school and then went straight into the Army so I called Dad more than anyone else. Of course I talked to mom too.

Answer 6

What can I tell you, it's a big pain in the *** as it's designed to be. It's a lot more straightforward and honest than the rest of your time in the damn service I can tell you. I contacted my mom once and I don't have a wife, but I wrote my girlfriend at the time a bunch.

Answer 7

I am certain all these posts are because you are upset over boyfriend/ husband not calling you ever day. What are you going to do when he goes to Iraqi, be the one who has worried him so much he makes a mistake? He'll write when he can, everyone is different. You do know the French Foreign Legion is only a step away?

Answer 8

i went in 87 to boot camp im retired navy you can write letters as often as you have free time most of the time its on sundays but i found that most write wives and get more letters from wives than moms and dads you get to call once when ya get there and right before graduation march so you can plan whos gonna come see ya

Answer 9

i went through navy boot-camp and the most we can do is write letters to home on sundays. i don't know about now when i went to use the phone, it was a privilege to use it meaning that we did good that week and we didn't screw up.

Answer 10

I was engaged to my now hubby when he was in basi and he called his mom and me about the same and wrote to me more. Since he deployed to Iraq he has called me way more he really doesn't call his family.