I am legal guardian to two of my grandchildren both boys 9 & 12. My daughter is bipolar. She has a 3rd child, she is married to this childs father (the two I have are from previous relationships). 8 months ago she was in and out of the hospital ever other day. Her husband took his child and moved in with his parents, now the three of them are living there. They have no room for the boys (they are better off with me anyway). Since she married this jerk he always come first before the boys! She collects checks for herself and the kids from social security, I do get the boys checks each month which is a whole $ 270.00 a month! She is also working partime and her husband works too. They have 3 incomes coming in to my one. They pay no bills. I am working two jobs and still in debt, they feel they owe me no child support what so ever, Besides in debt I have no life ! I have no one to turn to and feel so alone. Do I have any rights to any support money, someone come and save me!
2006-10-13 02:41:27 · 17 answers · asked by badbackone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-10-13 13:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Sweetheart, I admire your loyalty to those children. Lets look at two approaches here, first in the secular realm try calling afew attorneys offices and ask if they handle any probono work, no fees up front. I feel there are avenues for you to take but it will depend on the state you are in. try calling the state child welfare group and the health dept and make inquiries on other points of contact all of those calls should be free. At some point you will need to either convince them to create an auto draft from their checks in an agreed upon amount bi weekly or monthly into your checking account so that you will have monetary means of supporting the children and yourself. You will need to attempt to get custody, I see you are a guardian but that is not full custodial care in some states. Then you have more teeth to bite with legally in gaining child support.
Secondly go to the Bible and start focusing on the Prayer of Jabez in 1 Chronicals4:9 ,,, I`m being serious, where is your spiritual life and in what shape is it in? If you havent been faithful in the Word don`t expect things to change regardless of what you do. Focus on this little prayer and meditate on what the Lord wants you to hear. Focus daily each morning on the Prayer and watch what the Lord will do for all of you. The answers are all right there just beyond your senses, but they are there. Let me know in a couple of weeks what has happened, I assure you it will be in a positive way and affect you and the children personally.
Hugs
Jim
2006-10-13 02:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have legal custody, you can take her to court to recieve child support. Also you can get assistance from your Dept. of Social Services to help with food or a little extra cash. Also I would ask for daycare vouchers so that you can get the children a daycare even if for evening hours so you can get a lillte time for yourself to get some resecptable friends. I do wish you the best because I have almost the same problem but they are my kids and their fathers feel the owe me nothing and don't need to watch them ever. So I'm trying to hold on to my job with a bad daycare, and living in my mothers house. So ask for assistance, and if you go to Social Services they will most likely make you take her to Child support. And I know taking your daughter to court maybe hard but her kids come first! Good Luck!
2006-10-13 02:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your the legal guardian I feel you should be entitled to some sort of support money wise from the parents. Check with social security or childcare and find out all your entitlements and rights. Also, local churches may be able to point you in the direction of support, money, food and spiritually. There are also financial councillors who would be able to assist you with arranging a better way to either pay off your debts or even combine them into one loan with smaller payments.
Good on you for caring and taking on the challenge. Not many people would! You should be proud of yourself.
2006-10-13 02:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by red260z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I understand the laws correctly, if one is a legal guardian that makes one responsible for all care and maintenence without getting support from anyone else. You probably could try to take them to court and get money, but it might be dificult. And her husband has no legal responsibility to kids that aren't his. Can you track down the boys' father/fathers and try to get money from them?
You might be able to get on some sort of public assistance and get food stamps and other help from the government.
If she's signed away her rights to the boys and it is too difficult for you to care for them, you may have to make the hard choice and give them up to the state, no matter how much you love them.
Good luck
2006-10-13 02:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter has to be sick in the head to allow her own mother to go through all this.
You really need to talk to a lawyer and learn what you can do. I know you love the boys very much but I wonder how your daughter would act if you simply dropped them off at her front door.
I dont think she understands how hard it is to take a care of these children so she needs to probably keep them for a month or two.
You really need to do something because this is not fair at all! I hope everything works out for you really soon. You are a wonderful person for doing this and I know wonderful things will happen for you!
2006-10-13 02:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by Melia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to petition family court for child support immediately. She is working pt now and your entitled 2 monies other than soc sec. You are the legal guardian of these kids and your state should have paid u kinship money by now. You are entitled to that subsidy once a month for both kids. If they were in foster care they would have paid it to another family. Get a lawyer and take them 2 court.
Good Luck!
2006-10-13 03:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by BK1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the legal guardian of those two boys, go to the court house and ask to speak to the family law facilitator and also go to your local district attorney's office and see what you can do. Hire an attorney and take them to court. It's not fair what is happening to you or the boys. You DO have rights.
Good Luck
2006-10-13 02:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by Zodiac_Child 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OHHHHHHHHH GRAM, YOU ARE A PURE GEM, YOUR DAUGHTER HAS NO IDEA HOW LUCKY SHE IS!!!
O.K. LETS TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND FIGURE THIS OUT, I'M A 55 YO MOM OF FOUR AND ALL
ALONE TOO. SO I HEAR YA!! BEING IN DEBT IS A GIVIN', SO WE DO OUR BEST TO KEEP UTILITIES ON AND A ROOF OVER THERE LITTLE HEADS!! I PAY ONE, TWO BILLS ONE MONTH, THE OTHERS THE NEXT, IF SOMETHIN'S GOTTA GO IT'S CABLE T.V. FOR
AWHILE!! IF YOUR WORKIN, I'M SURE THERE IS SOME ONE YOU CAN HANG WITH, JUST INVITE THEM OVER FOR COFFEE, 15 MINS, WITH ANOTHER ADULT CAN BE A LIFE SAVER!! NOW, GO TO COURTHOSE OR CALL, MOST HAVE A LAWYER THERE, THAT WILL ANSWER YOUR ?'S FOR FREE!! THEN GO TO COURT AND MAKE THAT UNGRATEFUL DAUGHTER OF YOURS PAY, PAY, PAY!!!!!!!!!! ONE STEP AT A TIME,,,,,,,,,FIRST THAT COFFEE WITH A FRIEND!!
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GOOD LUCK GRAM, AND GOD BLESS YOU,,,,YOU KEEP THOSE BOYS SAFE AND DO THE RIGHT THING...YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-13 02:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to support money. If your daughter will not take care of her children financially then you need to take her to court. Good luck with this and raising those two boys.
2006-10-13 02:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely talk to a lawyer and get child support from them. You will win the case without a doubt.
2006-10-13 02:44:05 · answer #11 · answered by apriljm76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋