Me and my x-boyfriend went out for a year and a half it was a very seriously relationship, he was going into 12th grade and decided he didnt want a gf bcause he was stressed about senior project and he just wanted to be single. I was very upset begged for him back and he wouldnt take me back. He promised we would always be friends no matter what,He had this friend zack, and me and him started getting really close and now we go out but my x-boyfriend is no longer friends with zack nor me, he said he hates me and he wants me out of his life i dont understand why we cant be friends i mean do you think hes not over me and thats why hes acting this way?
2006-10-13 02:16:47 · 18 answers · asked by megan c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your B/F said he just wanted to be single? HE's already single!
Your single. Don't get all serious at that age. You have a college education to worry about. They'll be plenty of time for men after college. In the mean time, have a good time (not serious) with Zack. If your ex don't want to talk to you, SO WHAT?? Move on.
2006-10-13 02:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing your age or level of maturity, this isn't easy advice to give. So, assuming you're about the same age as you're ex, you should see the situation for what it is. The ex doesn't want a commitment, yet wants to assume ownership of your affection. His decision to "just be friends" is simply a desire to test the waters..... to see if there is something else out there for him. Obviously, he hasn't found it. That should bring the question, "if he isn't good enough for anyone else, why is he good enough for me?"
Remember, getting attention from someone isn't a good enough reason to commit. If a guy doesn't prove to you that he likes you for who you are, the real you, and not the you that tries to be ther person you think he wants you to be, then move on. You and Zack may be better off without this friend.
2006-10-13 02:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by woody sims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very spoiled. He wants to keep you hanging on the side so that when he feels like having you then he will. He doesn't want you to be happy because he's not happy. Just consider it his loss and you and Zack go out and have fun together. Pretty soon he'll realize what a jerk he's being and that he lost two good friends. Good Luck
2006-10-13 02:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by Trinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels cheated on. If he was the one who wanted the break up and didn't want you back, this means that he was really determined to break up with you, and now he is just being jealous why you date his best friend.
Even though he may not feel anything about you he still feels bad about that cause Zack has been his friend and now going out with you...He kind of feels he has been cheated on twice..once by you and once by his friend.
It's better if you talk to him, just to sort things out.
Ask him why he is behaving like that and explain things to him. It is always better when you clear things up.
Anyway don't worry that much about it all. You deserve to be happy and the fact that he is being selfish should not stop you from enjoying yourself.
Good luck
2006-10-13 02:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be taken 2 ways. 1st he dumped you with the 'lets stay friends' crap 2nd you are seeing his mate.
Either way his loss. he may feel hurt that you have moved on which seems a lot harder for him seen as thought it is with one of his friends. He may have used Zack as a friend to talk to so now he has effectively lost 2 friends. Give him time to adjust to his new situation, he will either come round to the idea or cut the pair of you out of his life.
2006-10-13 02:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is upset about you and zach, no doubt there. but, take this into consideration. yes, he may still love you but it wasn't enough to make him stay. its hard to hear, but if he loved you deeply he would have done anything to keep you close to him. if he was willing to push you away because he was stressed, i seriously doubt he's going to come back for you. as for friends, no. give it some time adn then see what happens but don't bank on it. when emotions are that damaged, people just don't wnat to be slapped in the face with it. does zach know you are not over him yet? ex's are ex's for a reason. i'm sorry cause i know this is so not what you want to hear.
2006-10-13 02:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by kajunprincezz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is upset that you'd go out with his friend...the only way to solve it is either to break it off with Zack, which is unfair on you's two because he broke it off with you OR keep seeing Zack and leave your ex to come round he can't drop you then decide your love life for you! hope that helps
2006-10-13 02:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by xx_lush_xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 06:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by gangwer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you .. but i think he never wanted to be friends it's hard for a male and female to stay friends especially if they went out ... if you just let him be he will realize later what a mistake his made!! move on with your life you are still young and you have your whole life in front of you to fall in and out of love .. i know you hurt but it will pass just concentrate on having fun school and your friends ..female friends.. ♥
2006-10-13 02:23:10 · answer #9 · answered by Don't get me started 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did not know what he had until he saw Zack and you together. He is hurt and it hurts him knowing that he let you go. He needs to get over this on his own.
2006-10-13 02:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by miss bean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋