After being hurt and humiliated by a guy I have been dating off and on for the past three years.....I can't seem to move on and not want to call him! What is wrong with me?
2006-10-13 02:07:47 · 16 answers · asked by Lisa Marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you are not crazy to feel that way, it is a natural emotion since you still care, give yourself time to grieve the lost relationship, but do not give in to the desire to call him. Each time you feel like you can not keep from calling him, find something to do, > it can be as simple as writing down all the humiliated things he has done to you. Also, try to avoid going to places where you know he is. Keep in mind that if you contact him or let him contact you, the humiliation will eventually start again , and remember, you deserve better in life than what he is putting you through. Start new activities, go out with other friends, a movie, to dinner, shopping, etc.Given time your pain will pass, you can do it, you are stronger than you realize, you will find someone that respects you, do not settle for less.Life is a long journey,make it a happy one.
2006-10-13 02:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by RY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hurt cuz of this humiliation. Your mind can't accept it. But remember, everyone in life moves on, you have to leave few things on time. If you were sincere with him, he'll regret it one day.. otherwise... chill out... life is like this... people come and go.. There is nothing wrong with you... you are just perfect .. being a human it is quite natural to feel this way.. Get it over with now... that guy can F*** Off.. you deserve someone who can give some respect.
cheers
2006-10-13 09:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by cold_hard_freak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, you need to try to forget about him by going out with friends and family, distractig yourself with a hobby (which can be looking for other guys) being with optimistic friendly people, working, studing, doing things you like...b/c he is not worth your time or the second you spend thinking about what use to be and was no good!!! Good luck sweetie and don't worry the right guy is out there and believe me true love waits!!!
2006-10-13 09:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 22 she has a method for getting a guy off her mind. When they do something dumb she deletes their name off her cell phone and from then on refers to him as "MF #1" if they call pleading they will do better she may add them one more time, if they mess up she deletes them one more time and from then on calls him MF (mother f**ker) #1, then moves on. The next guy that messes up she calls MF #2. She says it works to get over a guy that way. And honey it's such a waste of time to let a guy rent space in your mind like that for so long.
2006-10-13 09:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you, except that you are crushed, feeling rejected and abandoned, you are going through the feelings, and they hurt. But it will get better, if you don't allow yourself to stay in the slump. The best revenge is looking good---( I don't mean physical beauty) show him that you are moving' on and forward with your life, Good Luck!!
2006-10-13 09:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get into a comfort zone and tend to want to remain in it. You have to move on. Try and find something else that will take up your time such as going to the gym or a hobby.
2006-10-13 09:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ur not crazy ur just attched........and thats not a bad thing if u date a guy for 3 years than u cant help but to be attached......but mabey u should call him once or so and if he dont answer leave him a message but dont keep callin him cause then he'll get annoyed but if u love him and he loves u then everything should work out
2006-10-13 09:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by lil chic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, that's so common- going out with someone whom u know is wrong for you.
Well, what about starting some hobbies...and going out more with your own girlfriends. Will help take ur mind of things. easier said than done tho. I know.
2006-10-13 09:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we've all had a strangle hold like that...i'm recently tearing myself away from a situation similiar to yours...and that's all you can do is wait and each day tear a little bit of yourself away from them...there is no quick painless cure, you just have to wait it out
2006-10-13 09:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by Maestro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not allowing yourself to move on--broaden your horizon and check out what else can replace him--not necessarily another guy, but spending time with friends, playing a sport or take up a hobby. good luck.
2006-10-13 09:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋