feeling vry lonely and depressed?

Question

i am staying with my hubby, i am 24 yrs old.i feel vry alone and depressed sometime i feel like dying or shouting bcoz in my family relations r effecting my health n our relation.there is alwayz quarel goin on. in this situation even i cant work bcoz i have a 5month old baby

Answer 1

Your life situation has changed. Even your hormones have changed with the pregnancy and recent birth. Your responsibilities are greater. A discussion with a doctor might help. Getting into a support group might help. A group of friends where you can discuss your feelings might help. Try to get help from a doctor first. God bless you.

Answer 2

Wao, your situation is really sad and I am sorry to be so straightforward but that's just the way i am. First if you so hate it, then why stand it - you were born to live and enjoy your life to the fullest and not be a sad one who can't even have a peaceful moment at home were every one likes to relax and enjoy the rest of the day. I tell you this because I'm a father and a recent one and every time i look at my little girl damn, I want the best for her and protect her during her entire life even if i have to give up everything, but in your case you are old enough and i can tell you that if a parent does not have the balls to raise their child with love and a good home environment, then what kind of parent's are those? they don't sound like even "parents" to me, they just sound like the cold heartless bastards that they sound like and you described. My advice is the next: if you are to have a happy life and enjoy the rest of it, i suggest you speak of it with someone you truly trust and ask your most trusted friends for help - because a true friend would never give you their back when you need them most or you could just your boyfriend to help you, but what I'm basically trying to say is that you should "leave" that house and search for a new life around those who love you and whom you love. I am not saying you should hate your parents or any family member - I'm just saying that you should not be around someone who has never loved you as they should have. So if you want a new life, just do what you always wanted to do and i think you know what it is, you're old enough to do whatever you want with your life, make your own choices and choose what you want to do with your future.

Answer 3

Hey sweetheart,
Theres hope for you, I promise! I know of many women that feel just as you do right now. And each one has been able to engage life in differing ways to create a window of hope in their lives. The trouble does`nt always go away but the way you begin to handle all the issues begins to take on a different understanding.
The Moms day out programs are working well in our area, look into those and get out of the house and meet and mingle with other women who are finding it to be liberating to get out of the house afew days a week and away from the children. Find a good book on the topic`s of complaining people ie,,,Imperative People,,, Get into the Bible and begin to study the prayer of Jabez in 1 Chronicles 4:9 and then go to Psalms 139: 13---18 and the Psalm 91:1, I call that one our 911 for problems such as what you are experiencing. Your spiritual side must be fed on a regular basis if not then you will certainly begin to bog down in the cares of the world and surely suffocate, as you are already starting to experience. You were created to be a very special woman and you are. You may not feel that way at the moment but you can. Enough for now, go focus on the prayer of Jabez and in a week contact me I know beyond a shadow of a doubt you will have a positive report for me.
Many Hugs,
Jim

Answer 4

I was diagnosed with panic disorder, social anxiety, anxiety attacks, major depression. Been on meds for the last 3 years. When I was in the US Navy, I was hospitalized for 2 1/2 weeks because I was suicidal and homicidal. I have suffered from depression and social anxiety for the last 13 years. I only got help 3 years ago. I'm a guy in my mid 20's. You should see a psychiatrist asap.

Answer 5

Hey Pooja. I would like to talk to you. I too am an Indian, 25-year old, married female, living in a joint family & in the same situation. I too have been feeling suicidal, lonely & depressed for the past 1.5 years with no one to turn to in this city (away from my home & parents). My familial relations are affecting my health very badly. I never used to be this sick or ill for so many times in a month. Wish we can talk it over. Send me a message & we will try to work out a solution that is good for ourselves & our family. Be optimistic & share your troubles, they will only decrease & not increase if you share them.

Answer 6

hey thats sad for you ...
look in marriage this all happens quarrel and all, its part of life.
i had the same problem in my life. it all depends how you take it.
since you also have baby, you have to think of the baby's future too.
so what i can suggest you is, just dont care of the quarel whatever happens, just think of your life and the baby's and go on. i know indian women (some of them) do not talk back or retaliate with these things, but you need to do somehting or just bare it or divert your mind somewhere else. pray that your husband will change and you will get more tolerance.
you can mail me if you need any more suggestion
all the best and take care

Answer 7

Come on dear sister, Don't be depressed. There is no one in the world rich or poor, eduacated or illiterate, god fearing or athiest who don't have problems. For that matter, it is impossible to find a couple who don't fight with each other and have perfect understanding. Good to know you got a sweet baby to look for. Cheer up and don't keep bad feelings, impressions in your heart. Look upto nature's lovely creations, the colourful flowers, your own baby, teh singing birds. Live life for that moment. Things will change. If you can develop few good friends. Throw off the depression and enjoy life's every moment.

Answer 8

be strong now a days this is the common problem due to vexed life.u have to overcome all these obstracles.take support from a counsellor.if u have any problems regarding thoughts please mail me.i am ready to answer u anytime.i had a great respect for married india women.dont try to commit suecide as u had a child.think about babys future with out mother.i had the experience of facing society with out parents so be strong.my id is [e-mail]

Answer 9

You need counciling.
You cannot be alone as you have 5 months old child to look after and husband to lead happy life.
It may be slight change in the assessment of what you have.
If you are in Tamil Nadu try to contact SKY Meditation Centre.
You can live happily, you can be helpful to others (to begin with to your child & husband) and be memarable.
It is all in yuor hands.

Answer 10

Have peacefull mind, do not worry, stop thinking deeply, do some hobby work, keep yourself busy in some work always, finish all your household work in time or in advance so that u become enough tired for a good sleep with your small toy which will give you a new happy change in future.