Ok, so theres a guy that wants me to come to his house to "mess around". We definatly wouldn't go all the way. He lives just down the road from me so I can just walk to his house with noe problem. I don't "like" him, but I'm a teenager with these dumb hormones that make me want to do things and to feel wanted. I mean I already feel wanted, but i don't know how to explain it. He says he wouldn't tell anyone, but i've learned only to trust your best friend. We've only been a little more than aquaintences for about a year and a half now. My rep at school is the goody goody, teachers pet, straight A, never smoke, never drink, never swear. You get the picture. I like my rep, and I think if i go and mess around I'll lose my rep. I don't want to be known as a slutt or anything. That would suck, because thats not me. Neither of us want a relationship either, I'm pretty sure. I'm so confused! Please Help!
2006-10-13 01:52:39 · 28 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THERE WOULD BE NO SEX! The one thing i can do better than him is run.
2006-10-13 04:45:38 · update #1
Between girls here... stay home and learn what masterbation is all about... seriously, dont even go there with someone you dont "like" and as far as being wanted... well you are if hes inviting you over... not if you go... would you like to be the kind of girl thats "wanted" or the kind of girl thats been "had"... know what i mean?? To him its all about getting you there and getting you in the mood... i bet you a hundred bucks if you go there and start fooling around his intentions are to try to have sex... or he could of bet one of his other guy friends that he could "have" you because he has it "like that" or what ever... you never know... wait to fool around or mess around with a guy you know you can trust really well... tell that guy thanks but no thanks...*always* remember that if you work a guy up to the point of a good hardon its going to take a TON of self control on their part to walk away with out getting sex... and i dont think a teenage boy has that kind of self control... do you want to be in a situation where you really dont want to do it but in some way you feel obligated to do it because you got him to that point and he doesnt look like hes backing off anytime soon??(possible rape situation??) Yeah that staying home and dealing with your own hormones sounds better dont it??! You are wanted.. keep it that way!!
2006-10-13 02:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by chrystal_lynn2002 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With your grades I know that you have the intelligience to realize that you WILL be going all the way and probably doing something you don't really want to. Be proud of who you are you have worked hard to earn so much respect to waste it on a guy who is going to tell you whatever he thinks you want to hear so that he can get his rocks off on you. The biggest LIE in the world is "don't worry I'll put in only the tip". I have been married a long time and though I may not intend going all the way at a particular moment the passion takes over always.
If you don't want a relationship the LAST thing you should do is sleep with someone for experimental purposes. Hormones is an excuse. DON'T GO OVER THERE! If he doesn't respect you enough to make you his girlfriend and then put in the time to romance you and get to know you and then commit then he is not worth it and you are selling yourself short.Don't do this you will always regret it and never be able to take it back. You are not a public bathroom so don't let him use you like one just so that you can "fit" in. That is a group you don't want to be a part of. Trust me. Everyone will know exactly what you did or didn't do and you will not be able to make a defense against it. They will choose to believe the boy always.
2006-10-13 02:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is real simple here, Kitty - just don't do it. Yep, I know all about those pesky hormones - but I was just like you. I had a squeaky clean rep & was always a "good girl"; that is, until a guy I kissed (and that's ALL we ever did!!) told everybody that we messed around & did all kinds of things! Yep, he made it all up &
he really had a good imagination - but the point is, he ran his mouth a lot. To as many other guys as he could. And I got a seriously bad rep after that. Never doubt for a minute that your bad boy would do the same thing to you. Just say no & find some
other way to deal with your emotions & feelings, if you want to
keep your reputation!! Once it's gone, you can't ever get that back.
2006-10-13 02:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already know what you should do. I mean, you said it yourself. You don't want to be labeled a slut so don't be one.
We all have hormones that dictate our sex drive.It's natural and there is nothing bad about having a good and safe sex life.
You are young and I can feel where you are coming from. I think most of us go through that stage of researching our sexual desires but, it's only when we act upon a bad sexual fantasy that we go astray. You sound intelligent and I do not think that you are ignorant regarding right or wrong behaviors.
Ask yourself a few of these question: Is it right or wrong? Is there someone else involved that would be harmed? Would you want to be treated so cruely over a hormonal urge that last five minutes?Would you feel like a slut or whore if you cheated on your lover?
If you know in your heart it's wrong,then it's wrong.follow your heart!! Has anyone told you that they loved you today??
2006-10-13 02:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by ziggideeboo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not worth the risk if you ask me, and I guess in a round about way you did. You're just asking for trouble going to a hormonal teenage boys house to fool around without going all the way, especially with someone you don't "like". You would lose the reputation that you've built up over the years, if it doesn't work out what's keeping the guy from spreading rumors around school about you, and what happens if he decides he wants to go all the way once you get started? It's too dangerous.
2006-10-13 01:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by simplyrelaxinginblvl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello? anyone home??? Messing around isn't going to make you feel loved or accepted... Trust me.... I have seen the results from this kind of thing, it's not pretty...
And it's hard to know when to stop , one thing can lead to another, and you might do something you will regret... If you don't like him then he is just using you, and you would be doing the same thing. Messing around to satisfy hormones and desires that go along with them will just come back and bite you in the end.
You will be alot more respected if you , keep your reputation...
2006-10-13 01:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by virtual_mercenary_cod2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, just say no. This is an easy one. For girls, hormones can be a real b****. Most girls can get it if they want to anytime, the same cannot really be said for guys. You will have to keep it more in check. Don't ruin your reputation by messing around with a guy you don't like. It will be spread around the school, I assure you. Wait for the one who is special, and you will be very happy you did. If you hormones are really kicking that hard, have you thought of taking care of those needs yourself..? It is safer, natural, and no one to spread rumors except yourself. That's what I would recomend. Good luck
2006-10-13 01:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by Craig B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same position as you are. Straight A, no bad reputation. I do feel like doing the same as you, being driven by the hormones but my reputation is much more important to me and that made me stay away from doing anything silly. Just wait for the right guy whomyou really like and trust. Its not that hard.Trust me.:) Good LUck!!
2006-10-13 02:22:25 · answer #8 · answered by 123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok...you have a really good really good rep honey don't mess it up you sem like a good kid. And messing around wouldn't be the best option i am 19 years old and i have waited...yeah i wanted to "mess around" when i was little to trust me i was really into it... but i thought it over i thought i have a good life and i'm good in school so why try to mess that up...honey you have a whole life ahead of you there's no need to rush...i'm not yelling at you or anything i'm just saying take it slow and enjoy life while you can...I have gotten engaged at 18 and still waited i got married at 19 and that's when i felt the time to "mess around" I mean yeah people made fun of me at school for being normal and waiting but it's your choice and i'm just trying to give you advice you mess it up now you will regret it later for a long time my friend was in the same boat but she went with it and she regreted it so just take your time be a kid if u don't like him then do just go with him be strong and be yourself strong and willing to give yourself time! Good luck! and God Bless!
2006-10-13 02:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be thinking about your reputation at school. You should be thinking about yourself, your morals, your self-respect. Don't do it. Take my advice in saying that messing around gets you nowhere. Guarentee of getting hurt, losing him after he gets what he wants, and THEN your repuation will take a downfall. I'm only saying that he'll leave after he gets what he wants, because the situation you've described has made it obvious to me. He asked you to come "fool around," not even to "chill," or "get to know one another." That's not the guy you're looking for. I understand your hormones, I have them too. Hold them for the right guy. Or atleast a decent guy who respects you and isn't looking for the gold. Ultimately, just be smart, okay?
2006-10-13 01:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by cree siempre 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋