My step dad is hated by every one his kids my mum me all our neighbours, my mum wants to split with him but she is going through torture so the kids have a dad i grew up without a dad and i turned out fine, im 18 and i just want to stand up to him but im scared what the out come with be he shouts argues and occasionally hits but i do not no what to do help me please.?
2006-10-13 01:50:54 · 13 answers · asked by tracey a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are right! A evil step father, is a 100 times worse than having no father at all. My Dad was a very impossible, and had abusive behavior, all my life. The out come of my Mother putting up with our Father all those years, because she too, felt like we needed both parents, is the wrong answer. I will admit, my Mother feared for her life, because my Dad threatened if she ever left him, he would find her and kill her. After all of us finally left home, we took all the emotional scars and emotional condition with us in to our adult life. This abuse has affected our family mentally, for the rest of our life. My Dad died years ago, but the essences will remain with all of us threw out the years we live. My brother, eventually ended up committing suicide to find peace, and one of my sisters has attempted suicide. This is the "real life" out come, of a child raised in a abusive atmosphere. We all still have terrible nightmares and even though he is gone, we are stilll haunted by him and his actions, that has been mentally branded into our memories. I have no answer for you, but I do send my "compassion" for you and your family. Your mother has to make the decision to leave. I blame my mother for not leaving my Dad, and we have a strained relationship because of this. I eventually have learned to deal with my past threw humor. No matter how bad things are, there is always humor to be found in the worst of situations. My Dad, must of been mentally abused also. They say abusive adults were generally abused children. Its taken me years to learn to control my anger, and not pass it on to my own children. But I am sure with Gods help, this has been made possible. I hope your family a "happy" outcome. Never underestimate the power of prayer and keep faith in God for protection for you and your family.
2006-10-13 02:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know just how you feel. My step mother is evil. She's like my fathers lord. He listens to everything she saids. She gets to spend all the money,( that's the only thing she cares about) and whenever I ask for money from my dad,there isn't any. Once I stood up to her, she told my dad that i'm on drugs. He beleved, without hasitation. Of course testing me for drugs was out of question, for there isn't no money (not for me,no!). So I had to learn to live with her. But just for 2 more years! I'm 16 now, and in my country, when you are 18, you are not a minor any more. Then I will put up my fight! And if you are no longer a minor, you do it too. Nobody can stop you then! Good luck,best wishes, i hope your nightmare is going to end soon.
PS : What ever you do, please tell us. I would like to know what happen. Once again, good luck! And be brave!
2006-10-13 02:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up with an abusive biological father, if I knew then that I had options I'd have left earlier. Get him out of there or at least your siblings, growing up with an abuser is FAR worse than growing up with a single parent & affects your future choices. The damage takes years to overcome...I'm 45 & still deal with it to some extent.
I ended an abusive relationship with my daughter's father because I wanted the cycle of abuse to stop & not be an issue in her life.
If necessary listen to the other folks here & call the police...get them out!
2006-10-13 02:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by Ivyvine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you are grown you need to help get your siblings out of there before someone gets seriously hurt. your mom makes the decision to stay with him but she shouldn't because they are all being abused. there are plenty of helplines for abused families and sometimes we have to make up our own. try to get your family out as soon as possible. if he hits you you can press charges against him and have a restraining order put against him. i'm sure you have plenty of friends and family that are willing to help
2006-10-13 02:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first get out of there you are ole night now. second you need to fine away to get your brothers and sister out even if you have to go to dept of social services. i would hope you could fine a family member but they do not need to be abuse. call the police on him stared a fight and has his *** lock up.
2006-10-13 02:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hits, that is domestic abuse and you and your mom shouldn't put up with it. Call 911 and get the bastard arrested and then get a restraining order.
2006-10-13 02:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he abuses his family, it is not okay. If your mom won't take a stand, you need to seek help elsewhere. That's a serious thing, don't let him do that to your other siblings, let alone your mother and yourself.
2006-10-13 01:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by cree siempre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be patient and try to convice ur mom to seperate with him beacause u say that his own kids hate him si they will be better to leave far from him(only if they want to?)
2006-10-13 01:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by supernolwen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when his a ss falls asleep grap some dog s hit a rub in his face and gets some in his mouth that will solve your problem
2006-10-13 01:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
call the police or a victims advocate office
2006-10-13 02:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by Robert K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋