My daughter has asked me to baby-sit my 1yr old grandson while she works frm 7am till 4pm, i would be saving her a ton of money, my sisters' are advising me against it, what do you think.
2006-10-13 01:50:16 · 19 answers · asked by glasgow girl 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OMG heck yeah!! Think about how much extra time your going to have with that baby!! Think about how awsome it would be for you to go and do things with your grandson, you know way more then i do how fast they grow up... i miss my two sons being that age all the time and now they are 4 and 2... like i said you know way more then me.. not only that would you rather your grandson go somewhere where hes not getting shown the morals and values you believe in?? I think it would be very wise of you to watch your grandson! You know hes getting taken care of, your daughter wont be parinoid... and your grandson will always be around his most favorite person of all times... i moved a hour away from my mom... my sons dont see her as much... they miss her so much... i hope you know how much you grandmas mean to to them.... definitally take it on!! You will have a total blast! Talk to your daughter though and come up with a way to talk about problems if they come up.. and both of you keep in mind you BOTH are only looking out for the childs best interests... you might have differnt oppinions but its out of total love that you have one to begin with... talk to your daughter about what ever your sister has had to say openly and honestly and talk about ways you two can correct those problems before they happen...a whole lot of good can come from this situation... and alot of security on your grandsons part... i would much rather my kids go to my moms house over a "daycare" where sickness runs around rampid and what not... stop watching him when he needs to be around other kids... i would say 3-4 but for right now soak up all the extra time you can get with that baby ;)
2006-10-13 02:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by chrystal_lynn2002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm facing a similar situation, only she's my stepdaughter. Presently, her mother is babysitting but has started making noises about my husband sharing in those duties.
My suggestion is that you baby-sit your grandson on a limited basis. I'm sure you love him, but you have to be realistic about your time and patience. Be honest about how much time you're willing to give up. Consider what routines and activities you'd be giving up to accommodate him. Being a grandparent isn't what it used to be, and you do have a life that exists outside of your kids and grandkids. How long does she expect you to babysit? A year? More? Until he starts pre-school?
There's sometimes an assumption that grandparents are built-in babysitters, with a non-profit status. If you didn't live in the same state or area, your daughter would still have to find child care. At the risk of sounding insensitive, these are all factors to consider when deciding to have a child.
I would say give it a test run, and make sure your daughter knows its a temporary situation. Commit to sitting him for two or three months, or a couple of days a week for a couple of months. See how it works for you. Make sure your daughter provides what you need to reasonably take care of him (bottles, food, snacks, diapers, change of clothes, etc.). Make sure that she respects your schedule (No calling at 3:30 to say she's having a drink with her office pals and will see you "later") I think she should pay you a modest sum.
Taking care of your grandson will give you a chance to bond in a way that maybe you haven't before. You have the patience and wisdom to teach him so much. The thing I would be concerned about would be 1) Being realistic about how much of a commitment you're willing to make and 2) Making sure your daughter doesn't take the situation for granted.
2006-10-13 02:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to do this, then what your sisters say is really not important, but sitting a young child full time is a big ask when you have already raised your own kids. Is there a time limit? Like, say, for one year, while she gets on her feet?
I would look at offering to care for him 3 days a week with reliable child care for the other two. That gives you some time with your grandson as well as some "YOU" time, and still saves her a lot of money compared to paying for full time child care.
2006-10-13 02:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by belmyst 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes for sure..set guide lines on the table from the start and advice her that if they are not followed that she gives you no choice but to stop babysitting your grandson..Grama's are the best babysitters a child could ask for and then mom to feels safe knowing that her child is in great care..There are to many horror stories about nasty day-homes and day care centers out there..I have baby sat all my grand-kids ,,including alot of overnights and I cherish that time because they do grow up and hanging with Grama won't be a cool thing...Take the time now enjoy him...Life can be to short and these memories will last a lifetime..
2006-10-13 07:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by char bear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously you're a homemaker. Why not? He's your grandson. It's a great way to bond with him. I understand that there would be time that you'd want some free time alone, so maybe you can hire a babysitter for a day or two. Honestly, if i have a baby, I'd want someone i trust to take care of my child if i'm incapable, and who's better to care for my child than the hands that raised me!
2006-10-13 04:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by Hanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
set a time limit for your childcare. you need to consider whether or not you are willing to pretty much give up your entire day to babysit. what happens when you have an appointment to keep who will babysit then? i don't see anything wrong with helping your daughter out for a little while especially when there is so much going on in daycare. i personally wouldn't want my kids in a facility with so many other kids at that young of an age. he's only 1 so he really can't speak up for himself and if something happens to him he can't say who did it.
be sure its something that you want to do because you will be giving up a lot of your personal time and won't get a dime for it. i know you want to take care of him but you need to see if this action will hurt you. i was always taught "its good to help others as long as you're not hurting yourself"
2006-10-13 01:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its good she trusts you with the baby but if she can afford to go to work she will either have to pay a childminder or you, dont go takinf your grandson just because you have too your using your time and energy make sure you get paid you have had your kids and done your bit so get something out of it too.
2006-10-13 01:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ian S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is what family does for one another. Its a win, win situation. You get to spend precious time with your grandson and at the same time help your daughter out fincially. Not to mention the peace of mind she will have, knowing he is in the best of hands. As one grandmother to another, I also watch my grandson for the same reasons. I am not doing it for my daughter as much as I am doing it for me and my grand baby. I am getting a gift that is priceless. They grow up fast! Remember? :)
2006-10-13 02:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you and she was my daughter I would do my best to help her. The only reason I see not to help her is if I myself can not care for the child because of some illness. I would not care what other people say even if they were my brothers and sisters. My sons and daughters would come first.
2006-10-13 01:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by WarWolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That happens very often however after awhile she may start taking advantage of you ie being late, not paying you anything...which can lead to tensions...if you would like just set some ground rules...ie be on time or you bring the food and diapers...or a small fee...soemthing to let her know that she wont be able to do that...I see it often with family members...
2006-10-13 01:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by laguna_beach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋