Hello People i have a beatiful gf .we spend a lot of time together we know each other from 2 yrs till now she didnt allow me for sex. maximum she allowed me to kiss her not more than that.I tried so many times but waste.Once forcefully i tried she slapped me from that day we were not talking .I got a new girl now but my old gf saw us together cried and went away. my old friends are telling that she is not attending her classes and didnt write exams they told that to go with my old gf. I tried to speak with my old gf but she reluctant to talk and started crying again? what should i doo i love her still
2006-10-13 01:46:06 · 29 answers · asked by call_it_when_getti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say leave her alone, you've done enough damage to the poor girl as is. You love her, and yet tried to force yourself on her? Stay away from her, and be thankful you didn't get the crap pounded out of you by someone that actually loves this girl.
2006-10-13 01:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by simplyrelaxinginblvl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything, you should think hard about sex. Why is it so important to you? Is she worth waiting for? Could you be with her and abide by her rules and still be happy together?
Then, if you still love her enough to go back with her, break it off with the other girl and TELL your old gf that you still love her, you're sorry, and will respect her wishes (make sure you mean it, or you'll just hurt both of you later). Don't push for any more than she's ready for.
She obviously still has feelings for you...just hope and pray that you haven't hurt her too badly. Be honest with her, tell her how you feel, and if she's not ready to get back in the relationship then let her know how you feel about that. (are you willing to wait for her to be ready, or are you going to move on?) Don't leave her with any false ideas.
That girl will be the most loyal and trustworthy you'll find. Probably, part of the reason she won't let you (and let herself) go any farther physically is because she'd feel like she's cheating on whoever her future husband will end up being. If she's that loyal to a man she may not have met yet, think how loyal she will be to you if you treat her right.
2006-10-13 09:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by Mad Tinkerer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should have been patient with her. She not having sex with you didn't mean that she didn't love you but wants to keep herself for that day. You should have respected her decision and kept your trousers zipped. Fine, you're only human but she's also human as well. Now that you have a new girl, stick to her and leave the old one alone as you've hurt her so much already.
Even if you go back to the old one, she might be compelled to give herself to you and when she does and the relationship doesn't work out, she will hate you for it. So, think or look carefully before you leap. Give her time to adjust, then you can be friends with her because as it is, you will still want sex so just be friends with her so that she won't feel so bad then continue with your new relationship.
2006-10-13 09:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hurt her, if you truly love her you would wait just like she wants too. Sex is for marriage nothng more. Okay now for helping you if you keep that in mind.You have to fix what you did, so be cute. Write her a poem on how sorry you are and how lost you feel without her. Leave her an e-mail everyday, with different wording, saying I'm sorry I love you please talk to me, I messed up. Tell her you will wait for sex until you get married, and if that's whaat she wants that you can do that because nothing is more important to you than her. Communication is key and in this modern world you can do that. E-maiul, letter, poem... Just don't go through your friends with her, bad idea!!!
2006-10-13 08:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey buddy i had the same problem with one of my many x-girlfriends. And the best thing to do would be to give her some and time to think, and slowly start coming back and around her and when you feel the time is right talk to her about the problem. Hey it sounds crazy i know but that's how i did it and guess what i went out with my x 2. Good luck buddy i hope it all works out for the best.
2006-10-13 08:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter... tell her how you feel... tell her that your sorry you screwed up her trust in you... tell her you will never do that again to her... It sounds like shes still in love with you also... maybe a sinsere letter to her will be the fix... dont be shocked though if you have to hold her for hours while she calls you a b@st@rd for tring to push her into something... let her know you know you screwed up and your so sorry you put her threw that... you know all the stuff you feel... you might gether back... if you dont... well you know the outcome of what you did and HOPEFULLY the next time you have a girl you wont let your penis take over the situation... no pun intended
2006-10-13 08:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by chrystal_lynn2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hurt her pretty bad, You need to understand that sex for her is very valuable. She is a good girl with great principals if she had waited that long and you need to value her for that. There is more to a relatioshiop then sex. Go apologyze and tell her that you love her, but you need to calm down and wait till she is ready and then it will ge a great experience for the both of you.
Good luck
2006-10-13 08:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One GF at a time. You've done what you can to make things work with your ex but she was unable to meet your needs. You should be a good friend to her and look after her but if she's upset about the break-up perhaps the kindest thing you can do is give her time and space to sort it out.
2006-10-13 08:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your brain out of your pants and treat her like she wants to be treated. If she doesn't want to have sex and you tried to make her, what does that say about you. Taking up with another girl because you couldn't get your way? I feel very sorry for your former girlfriend, you don't deserve her. With hope she will get over you quickly and never give you another thought.
2006-10-13 08:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go back to her. She might want to wait on having sex until she is married. And you should respect her decision. But if you are just using her to try and get some sex you do not need to waste her time or yours move on.
2006-10-13 09:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋