I have been trying to walk away from a dead end realtionship for some time now. Everytime I end it and start dating other people my ex starts acting like he can't live without me. Which pulls me back to him. He is always telling me that I'll never know how much he truly cares about me but he won't be able to give me what I want out of life. I want to have children and he does not want anymore. He is 13 years older than me and already has two kids. Sometimes I seem to think I can't live with out him and other times it is easy for me to move on with my life. Recently we have been hanging out and he gave me **** for dating this guy. At the same time I just found out he had plans with another girl this weekend and had sex with her. It has totally hurt my feelings and I am a nervous wreck. Why can't I walk away from someone that seems to get off by hurting me and messing with my head?
2006-10-13 01:35:24 · 19 answers · asked by Lisa Marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only time will heal all - but you will get over it eventually. Trust me i just got divorced and it was really hard, but i surrounded myself with new friends and it is getting easier every day!! good luck!! :-)
2006-10-13 01:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by JUST_ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. ive been in almost the same situation. its hard to forget about a person u really luv. my personal advice is try to date others. next time he acts like he cant live without you tell him you think its time you became friends or just tell him stay outof your life. he already has 2 kids and he's not worried about you unless u with another guy. thats a little selfish of him to want you and other girls. trust, he's gonna continue to hurt you, i know its hard but try to be strong. dont let him see you cry. im behind you every step if the way.
-liljesslove09@yahoo.com
2006-10-13 08:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by J*a*Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, let's summarise this:
1. He does not share your goals in life (kids, etc.) and has in fact openly told you that he cannot / will not give you what you want.
2. He, although this is none of his business, presumes to tell you what to do regarding your relationships with other people.
3. He, on the other hand, is doing whatever he darn well pleases with persons of the opposite sex without consulting with you first.
4. He is putting on this whole pathetic can't-live-without-you act for the sole purpose of playing with your feelings and keeping control over you.
MOVE ON ALREADY!!!
2006-10-13 08:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the answer to your question in your question. If he truly wanted to be with you, he would be. You are apart due to his decision basically. The best way to move on is to ignore any attempts he makes to contact you. He's a player and it's take so long to get over him because hes dangiling you some carrots to stay with him so basically he's getting what he wanted from the beginning.You are giving him no consequences to deal with. He still has you in his life, and he doesn't have to change his mind or answer to you if he doesn't want to. PLUS..he's already to move..you need to be the one to walk..he won't know what to do if you do. Good luck!!
2006-10-13 09:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by beautifully broken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey....move along to someone who's not into headgames....
He has kids and will prolly not want more.....but he likes having you there...that cat and mouse game that is played so often....
Walking away is so very hard....but man I walked away from an 11 yr ugly relationship....5 years ago......talk about hard....but here I am, and I am so much happier.....
I am still single....I want more than most men can give me... And I am very picky on top of it....but I want what I want....and it does NOT include a man who plays games.....
Meet other men...tell that ex to stay away.....it's hard, but you have to do it....otherwize he walks all over you again and again...
Be strong WOMAN!!!!
good luck to you......be safe....and well..
2006-10-13 08:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by Babsygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man this is a mess are you talking about age you know how old he was when you met him so its not that let him know you want them or you will end it i don't think you went to end it so you are going to make the best of it and have kids if he loves you like he tells you he will see your way you can't be hurting that bad to be going out so you still love him good luck to the both of you
2006-10-13 08:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to move on with your life, is not going to be easy but you will eventually get over him. If he makes you cry he really does not deserve your love and attention find some one else.
2006-10-13 08:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by chemdog23_2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are going through something very similar with my sister. She has been dating a guy for about 4 years, he is an abusive, deadbeat loser and my sister is a beautiful girl. You will get over him, you just need to sever all ties with him.
2006-10-13 08:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by JENNIFER G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows he is in control of you. That is why he knows exactly when to pull your strings, bringing you back to him. He's having sex with other women, and I guarentee what he is saying to you to make you stick around, is exactly what he is saying to her to make her stick around. Open your eyes, sweetheart. It's going to hurt, and you'll remember the good times, but moving on is needed here. Don't let him lessen you. Don't let him make a fool of you, and especially don't let him keep hurting you. HURT HIM.
2006-10-13 08:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by cree siempre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from this loser. It can take a year to get over bad break ups though, but you'll never be truly happy unless you find someone better (alot better)
2006-10-13 08:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by survival_paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋