Me and my ex were going out fr a year and a half. I had my bad times were i kicked up fuss about things etc and we did argue alot abut pathetic things apart from that i feel i was a very loving girlfriend and never would have done my ex wrong. He feels that it wasnt enough for him when everyone says he is being selfish and wants too much from someone. He wants to be friends with me but i find it very hard not to talk about us and what went wrong and how i want to try again prove it could work. He says the whole situation isnt simple and he is finding it hard to. He says he knows it could work but he not sure because he cant just go by whta im saying. He wants to see me as friends and he sed if something came of it then it would. But he doesnt want to be with anyone right now not becuase he wants to go out and pull becuase it seems i have done that but to have freedom. I really do miss him but he hates talking bout it now i wana prove it can change will we ever be back? movin on is hard
2006-10-13 01:15:27 · 8 answers · asked by moi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let it go. Let him go, let the friendship go, just let it all go. You will get over it. Occupy your time with something other than him, talk of him, chats of him, ask of him. Just let go.
2006-10-13 01:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by kyle g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all the experience I have had with break ups, the absolute best path to take is to cut all ties for ad least 3-4 months. After a break up both sides are usually in pain, even if it was mutual, and you mind is always trying to keep us from pain (eventhough it seems like it isn't sometimes) and when you stay friends right after a break up it seems like the easy option to feel better is to get back together. Often restarting the cycle.
It is hard, especially if the other person really wants to stay friends, the truth is, you really don't think that clearly right after a break up. So the best, but hardest, solution is to say ' Things didn't work out for whatever reason, I think you are a great person and absolutely want to be your friend, but right now I need to say good bye. If it is meant to be it will happen in time, but right now I need to get away from you for a while.'
It really is super hard to do, but if you can remember that plan when times are tough, the pain will disappear a lot faster. Plus, if you broke up with them for their behavior or the way they treated you, or if they broke up with you because of a dumb reason, being able to walk away after a break up will send the signal that you are not their for their enjoyment and make them really think about what they lost.
Will you get back? Time will tell, maybe, but if you look at getting back together in order to eliminate the pain, it is a bad reason.
One more suggestion: A lot of people get over someone by deamonizing them. They focus on all the bad things in the relationship to prove that is wasn't worth it and you are better off without them. However, this is what creates baggage. When you do this, you will automatically compare the next person you date to your ex and see if they have the same traits, or after you get into a new relationship and a situation comes up that reminds you of your ex, most likely you will judge them handle it based off the outcome from the relationship with your ex. Where these traits and situations are not what really cause you pain, it is simply just the loss that cause the pain and you will be cutting yourself off from possibilities by putting up these "requirements" for a lover.
Good Luck and find another date. Remember, the hard times in our life are what mold who we are.
2006-10-13 01:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by tightlies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of your closest friends end up bein the fakest ones. Over time you will learn that you cant hang wit a lot of girls anyways because its just drama. it is hard to find true friends because not that many exsist but its always a true friend out there for everybody well thats wat i believe. you shouldnt trust all friends only certain ones so find out which ones you can and which you cant then start to tell them things you wouldnt tell just anyone andd see how true they really claim to be
2016-03-28 07:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, you messed him up. as a man, i hate drama and petty little crap that women/girls always want to bring up, mostly brought about by there insecurity. he doesn't want you because it takes too much work. I say stop calling and show him that your change is that you are moving on, he will be attracted to that, but it has to be real or you will be exposed.
2006-10-13 01:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by Angry Insightful Black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's making a fool out of you, wake up! you don't have to be friends with him just because he said so. look what he's putting you into! distance yourself from him, and don't talk to him, and see if he misses you in your absence, but if not, well, it's so obvious that he's just using you for whatever selfish reason he has.
2006-10-13 01:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by Inquirer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over hem
2006-10-13 01:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone elde..and will be much easy..!
2006-10-13 01:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no zhit
2006-10-13 01:17:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋