This guy i've been in a relationship with from the past 2 months has now left and gone to some other country for further studies. Though he is a nice guy but after he has left, i've realised that i don't really feel for him the way one should to keep a relationship going! Though he does call me up and talks to me but i don't wanna drag a relationship just for the sake of it! He is a nice guy though and i don't really wanna hurt him. I cannot find a way and a reson to end this thing. I know he would surely freak out once he gets to know this. I am really confused!!!!! HELP!
2006-10-13 00:41:37 · 16 answers · asked by Hotfreak 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is nice of you that you don't want to hurt him but think about yourself too.
Just tell him it won't work. It is hard to do but for the better.
2006-10-13 00:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain you feel the relationship might be very difficult as a long distance one and you feel it would be better to leave it for the time being. If you really like him would you be prepared to wait until he comes back (if he comes back)? I think you just need to be honest with him. You don't know how he is settling down with his new life - he may have a lot of opportunities and you could be holding him back - sorry that sounds horrible and I don't mean it to but do you get what I mean? He may be pleased if you may the first move of splitting up. Long distance relationships are not easy but if you want to continue seeing each other you will need to be strong to make it work. Good luck to you.
2006-10-13 00:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him. although it will hurt for a little while, the fact that you respect him enough to be upfront and honest will mean a lot to him.
he will understand that emotions come and fade. besides, long distance relationships are nearly impossible to nurture (due to the lack of not seeing the other).
give him a call (or next time he calls you) and explain to him that you've had an important issue weighing on your heart and mind, and that after much consideration, you feel it is best to end the romantic relationship. do not drag it out much longer than that, just be clear, firm, but still loving about it.
good luck:)
2006-10-13 00:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you don't want to hurt him.
IMHO NOT telling him, and letting him go on believing you DO feel more for him than just friendship, is far more hurtful than telling him the truth.
Say he's a nice guy, but you don't love him.
Tell him it isn't cuz he did something wrong, you just realized you don't love him, and feel it's the best thing to not stay in touch anymore.
He WILL feel hurt, there's no way getting around that....but at least you have been honest to him, and once he's gotten over the hurt, he will realise and appreciate that.
Good luck! (Please call now.....IMHO that's best for you AND him!)
2006-10-13 01:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by Joshua 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be as honest as you can be with him. Even if he's crazy about you and it will hurt him, you will end up hurting him more if you drag it out. Just resist telling him anything you don't mean. It may be tempting to say something like "we can try again when you get back", but if you aren't being sincere, you're just leading him on.
If he's really a great guy, he deserves to hear the truth.
2006-10-13 00:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by Emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel, but let him down GENTLY. Just tell him it might be possible for both of you to 'explore your options' whilst you're far apart. Tell him clearly that you haven't found someone else, and that you still intend to stay as friends. The longer you procrastinate these things, the worse it tends to bite you hard on your @$$.
2006-10-13 00:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by JackAssBuster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, ask him if he still loves you, if he does then i think you should carry on. Since you don't really feel for him the way you should be then i think this is not true love. End it once and for all. Do not hurt him further.
2006-10-13 00:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mermaid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. No point in leading him on, once your mind is made up. Tell him kindly, but clearly that it's over and that, given the distance between you two, it's for the best.
2006-10-13 00:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on... you've only had a relationship for two months and now you are in separate countries.... You don't even have to break it off, just let it fade away....
2006-10-13 00:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by Andy FF1,2,CrTr,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a chat to him. Explain that you don't feel the same way. It won't be easy, but it's something that you have to do to be fair to both of you. The quicker you do it the quicker you can both move on with your lives.
2006-10-13 00:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by Funny Bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋