i began to flirt with her friend n had multiple chances to cheat o her bt i didnt. she found the texts in her friends phone and immediately broke up with me. ive tried to tell her i never intended to hurt her n i never would of cheated on her. shes nice but when shes heartbroken/upset shes adamant . im lost without her and ive told her all this. what more can i do?
2006-10-13 00:39:55 · 25 answers · asked by derren s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I always say you can't be totally happy in a relationship if you are looking elsewhere...BUT in some relationships that go a little bit on the rocky side it sometimes takes for something like this to bring you's closer together again. Don't get me wrong cheating is way out of order and hurts innocent people but you say you have not cheated so really you just have to follow your heart and if you really want things to work out with your gf...don't give up and shower her with all the love and affection you can give and maybe if you's BOTH give it 100% effort the trust will build up again.
Good luck babe I really hope things turn out ok for you.
People are slating you on some of these response as though you have cheated so therefore they are throwing insults your way. Fair enough you overstepped the mark and it is verrrrry easy to flirt sometimes people dont even know they are doing it. take care xx
2006-10-13 01:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by KT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if she dumped her friend as well??? A friend that would flirt with your boyfriend is not the kind of friend I would want to have.
I'm not sure there's anything you can do to save your relationship at this point. Regardless of whether or not you physically cheated, you emotionally cheated on your girlfriend. To women, emotional betrayal is almost as bad as physical betrayal. The fact that it was with one of her friends makes the betrayal even worse!!! In addition to being hurt, I'm sure your girlfriend feels like you and her "friend" have made her look very stupid for not realising what's going on. Women don't like to be made to feel that they look stupid!!
Hopefully you will learn from this experience!! NEVER, EVER, EVER flirt with your girlfriend's friends!! Especially by text message, which leaves documented evidence!!
Also, telling someone you never intended to hurt them does not really help the situation. In woman-speak it translates to, "I never wanted you to find out."
2006-10-13 01:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by ErnieBert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl u know that u love so much like this, why would u play with her this way. i mean Ur explanation is not straight but with Ur massage i understood that u really love her.
My advice to u is to keep on telling and explaining to her, u can even tell Ur friends that are much closer to her to help u and also her friends too can help the matter. but basically, what she need is time and u don't need to fold Ur hands. keep telling her how much u love her and it will never happen again. tell her that Ur live is not in any way normal without her. send her apology card, text massage, love card and flowers.
This is the tactics i used to win my girl friend and i pray it will work 4 u.
2006-10-13 01:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but what you did was just plain wrong! You may love her, but why did you start flirting with her friend? You had a good thing going for you and you ruined it. The best thing I can say is probably move on, cause you might be getting annoying with trying to get her back. Who knowes, maybe she'll decide to give you another chance, just give it time. I know if I found my boyfriend flirting with my friend, I'd kill him!
2006-10-13 00:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry mate, you deserved it. The intention of only flirting is still horrible for the other person. Imagine if she was flirting with your best mate, i bet you would not like that. A smile on the way past someone is ok, but texting one of her mates..... numpty
2006-10-13 01:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all - learn by it. If you love someone - what reason is there to go flirting to that extent with someone else.? maybe deep down you weren't happy with your ex.
second of all - ask her if there is anyway to repair the damage - tell her life isn't right without her in it - but that you will leave her alone if thats what she really wants as you dont want to upset her anymore.
take if from there
2006-10-13 01:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you shouldn't have done it in the first place. If you had no intention of doing anything y bother with the texting. You could have easily flirted and got that frill from someone she didn't know.
2006-10-13 00:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by janetlouise24 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you obviously are dumb - number one to flirt with her mate and number two for not deleting the texts. you totally got what you deserved - you may not have physically cheated on her - but what you did was just as bad. If she has any sense she wont take you back.
2006-10-13 01:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have been rather silly.
but u havent been a cheat.
let your girlfriend calm down. write her a letter, send flowers, gifts etc. in time she will come round to hearing your side of the story. no guarantee she will want you back but try and save your relationship and dont let yourself get into positions where you can cheat again!
2006-10-13 00:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by kiki_dees 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not much, you won't be able to change the jealous type just by talking to them... Either she'll come round eventually, or maybe her friend can tell her nothing happened - or that may be the end of it , sorry.
2006-10-13 00:42:53 · answer #10 · answered by cuddles_gb 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋