what should i do if my gf wont put any effort into our relationship, and by that i mean that she never does anything for me, she never comes over to see me, she never wants to drive me anywhere or anything, but yet she will drive her friends places though. anytime i want to see her i have to be the one who drives over to see her, i have to be the one who drives everywhere when we go places. i mean the only thing she makes an effort to do is call me. otherwise im stuck doing everything else. but as long as im the one putting in the effort then she is willing to go places and do stuff with me. she wont put any effort though. is the relationship worth keeping? what should i do?
2006-10-12 23:47:02 · 16 answers · asked by darkinmate16 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok she will kiss me and hold my hand and stuff like that all the time and in public
2006-10-13 00:00:48 · update #1
been there, done that, i can tell you it sucks a mean one. i hate to tell you bro, but it sounds like a convenience thing for her. it's not gonna be fun, but it's probably time to give up. drop her. you're being used, because she knows you will do stuff for her and you won't dare find another woman. if you continue any longer you may give yourself false hope, and the longer you stay the more it's gonna hurt in the end. you really care about this girl, or you wouldn't be doing all this stuff for her. trust me on this, there are plenty of women who will do their part in a relationship, and, in fact, usually it's us guys who are the ones not putting forth any or enough effort. you sound like you know how to treat a woman, so get rid of her, take some time off to be alone for a while, and when you're ready to try again, try to find a better one, but not until you[ve given yourself time to heal. that doesn't mean that you can't meet other women right away, that will be good for you. but i'd stay away from relationships until you can stop thinking about her as much as you probably are now, otherwise you'll be comparing other women to her, and that's not fair. so drop her, put her behind you, take this a positive learning experience (now you know the signs you should look for), and when you've been able to do all that, try again with another one.
2006-10-13 00:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by That Guy Drew 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. How long you two been going out? Does she know you're her boyfriend? If you really like her, tell her what's up, and if she keeps acting that way, you're just going to have to decide for yourself if she's worth all that effort. It's a decision you're just going to have to make on your own, but look at it this way: At least you know your limits, so even if the relationship is over, you at least learned something about yourself. She, on the other hand, will simply continue leeching off someone else.
2006-10-13 06:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be straightforward and just plain tell her how you feel. Sit down and have an open and honest discussion with her about how you are feeling. Tell her what you said here. Ask her how she truly feels about you and if she truly does want this relationship to work out. Do you truly want this relationship to work out. Basically you two just need to talk it out and get on the same page, whether that means staying together or not. good luck!
2006-10-13 06:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by rxtech05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok check...ur girl might be embarrassed 2 be with u...i dunno. but listen she could be usin u know.. I mean ur the one who's drivin her around and who knows maybe she's jus tryin 2 show 2 her friends she can get dude. Does she kiss u in public? I mean if she doesn't den she jus doesn't like u she's usin u. I mean all she does is call u, u need a gurl who'll want 2 b commited in a relationship...PS if u wanna try and make this relationship work try talk 2 her...but she might break up with u
2006-10-13 06:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by Vix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. I mistreated a boyfriend and looking back I see he was the love of my life. Someone got a really great guy, but my mind wasn't with me on that one.
You can't change a person's behaviour, but you can change your behaviour. If you react differently to her then she cannot continue to take advantage of you. You can be unavailable to her every whim. Change yourself and you will see a change in her. It's like banging your head against a wall and wondering why you have a headache.
2006-10-13 06:54:05 · answer #5 · answered by peppermint_paddy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy then I think you should break up with her. If you feel close to her and don't quite want to end it, try talking to her about it.Communication is the key. But honestly she sounds like well, not a good girlfriend. Life is too short to waste time on her. Good luck.
2006-10-13 06:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her why she does that? if she gives a reasonable answer, continue with her but I think she doesn't want the relationship, but she hasn't found another to really call her own or you are the handyman so she's just using you untill mr. right comes along.
2006-10-13 06:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man boy. You got to screw her to keep her with you. Give it to her and let her enjoy it fully . Then see she will always cling to you.
2006-10-13 07:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by Spider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something she has gotten used to & has become habit. You can force her to change by changing your routine, but she might not want to.
2006-10-13 06:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by skymastergolfpro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just back 4 sometime and see want is goen happen
2006-10-13 06:56:03 · answer #10 · answered by damstar2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋