If you've read my other questions you'll understand what i'm on about!!! My fiance was assused of having an affair and he denies it, I believe him completely and i want to go back to him. But Because i didn't want others to think i've made a mistake by believing him, i've told them that the girl accusing him called me and said that she was lying. It's backfired!!! They now think that he made her say that?!!! Help!!! What to do?!!!
2006-10-12 23:35:56 · 30 answers · asked by Monster M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
go back to him if you really want to , at least if your proved wrong you'll only have yourself to blame. why lie to them? you've just made a bad situation worse
2006-10-12 23:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks if that's what you've decided to do. Personally, I think you're making a mistake because of your need to back up your decision and make your man look better, if you truly believe him you wouldn't feel the need to do that. Both of you need to just get on with it and be honest. Also, don't try and make the girl look stupid, if she's lying she'll trip herself up, but if she's not you just end up looking bitter and vindictive.
2006-10-13 06:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by Flossie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. Tell the truth and work it out. And before you go back, just for a precaution, get him tested for std's. If he is Innocent and loves you, he'll do it for your sanity. Really this will test your love and I think you need to be proven you were right to go back. It may sound strange what I'm saying, but what if he was lying to you, think about it?
2006-10-13 06:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by woman of steel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that he is telling you the truth and you obviously still want him back and marry him, then to hell with everyone else, because if they are really your friends then, if/when you find out later that he lied, they will still be there to help pick up the pieces.
Please tell that bloke of yours that the theory of cheating don't count in a different Post code applys to the Starting part of the code.
2006-10-13 07:05:07 · answer #4 · answered by d_andrews78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im presuming youre old enough as you're getting married so my question is what the hell were you thinking? You acted like a 5 year old - best way you can solve this is by coming clean and admitting you were lying - its not fair to put this on your fiance. xx
2006-10-13 06:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your life and your fiance - do what your heart thinks best. Its about what YOU think and not what others are saying to you. If you believe he wont do it agan thats all that matters. If people dont agree with your decision - tough. If they're true friends they will stick with you no matter what you decide. Good luck and be happy x
2006-10-13 06:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by starlet108 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just admit the truth otherwise your digging a deeper hole for yourself. If you don't want others to think you've made a mistake then your doubting your relationship with him already.
2006-10-13 06:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by caroline b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, let's be real . . . you are going to marry him even if he turns out to have 5 current wives . . . so just go get those STD tests on a regular basis and use birth control, so no innocent kids get caught up in this mess.
2006-10-13 06:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why cover up for him when he's not truth to you? He will always lied to you once you start helping him if you want to continue with this fiance continue but he won't change if there's any, it will ber for the worst, and you'll have your self to blame.
2006-10-13 06:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bend over and kiss your *** goodbye. How do you think you can get out of that? you should ignore everyone and get on with it! but how sure are you he didnt? if he did you making a big mistake. I have allways had the feeling if they are lying then it's over. you deciede
2006-10-13 06:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by Noodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋