I've known this guy for a while well 2 years, he knows that my feelings for him are more than friends, but we have never got past being good friends which is fine with me. What i dont understand is when he starts flirting and acting like he does feel something for me and then goes back to acting like he doesnt. I'm really confused we have so much fun when we are together and get on really well but his actions confuse me..................help!?!
2006-10-12 23:34:10 · 18 answers · asked by life_vamp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cannot begin to predict what is going on in his head.
Sorry but there could be a million reasons for this behaviour and thousands of possible scenarios going on. His actions may be related to your behaviour too. It's really not worth my time or your time trying to work this out, we never will and if we did there will be a high probability that we will be way off the real answer.
My guess though ( I can't help myself) is that he needs to know more about you before getting closer. This does not necessarily equal a lack of confidence, just an appreciation of the real world and an acknowledgement of all the glitters is not gold.
If he is taking his time to make up his mind about you he is likely to be a keeper and you could have a good one, but remember to keep him you'll have to be good too.
What would help ?
* avoid playing any games
* back up your feelings with action, probably not overpowering action just action that mirrors his level of action when he's interested in you
* spend time with him
* if necessary ask him directly
Overall have courage and spend more time with him.
Good luck.
2006-10-13 00:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only suggestion is to just straight out ask him about it. Tell him that he is confusing you and that you want to know what is really going on. There are lots of possibilities that could be going on here and the only way to get to the truth is just to be up front and ask him about it. Just be careful and dont let him use you for attention just because he knows you have feelings for him. Dont let him play with your emotions. Good luck!
2006-10-13 00:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by rxtech05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just come out and talk to him seriously about this and just get an answer. Maybe you should just tell him that you really want to take this friendship to the next level. Atleast if you get down to the bottom of this once and for all you can know where you stand with him for sure.
2006-10-13 00:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what your going through . . . one minute hes all over you and the next he ignores you. i put up with this for nearly 4 years and in the end asked him what he was playing at! tell him how you feel and ask him out right. although it turned out he only liked me as a friend he stopped the 'teasing' and now were better friends then ever. although i cant say what hes thinking just tell him you wont put up with it no more!
2006-10-13 00:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant assume everyone has consistency in how he
feels, some ppl are just all over the map
as to how they feel everyday or even every hour.
its up to u if u wanna get involvd w this guy but be
ready for nasty surprises,,,,
i've known ppl who tell u they're ur soulmates one day
and gone with the wind the next day
2006-10-13 01:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by use 2b light 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well either your friend is just supressing his desires for the sake of preserving a special friendship which could, and probably will, get all weird and pressurised if he gives in to luv.
Or, he is a timid guy who is unsure of his actual feelings and needs a helpful reminder ;)
Or...yeah...he could be, well batting for the other team...
2006-10-12 23:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what is going through his head, but it is certainly not good for you. Perhaps he is just a big flirt and likes the attention. I would back up from that if I were you.
2006-10-12 23:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes being a bit of a tease and possible practising his flirting skills on you! Which isnt fair if he knows how you feel about him - being honest he doesnt sound that good a friend! xx
2006-10-13 00:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey ! after such a long time and he is not able to say something??? come on talk to him about what 's happening if not you will continue confused, sometimes guys are shy and maybe this is the case
GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-12 23:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by alfa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably a friend that wants fringe benefits, but nothing serious like a relationship. If he liked you in that way you would know it, let it go & look else where for a relationship.
2006-10-12 23:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by skymastergolfpro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋