I am due to have a baby girl in the next two months and my 6 year old son is having trouble adjusting to the changes. We have tried to make him a apart of things and have discussed how he can help mummy with his baby sister. He thinks we are having another baby cause we no longer love him. Does anyone have any suggestions that will help me to help him adjust? No stupid answers either please I do not tolerate people making fun of my son or my family.
2006-10-12 22:31:50 · 10 answers · asked by silverthorn73 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
first undertand what he is feeling. its hard for him to accept that there will be a baby coming who he thinks will divide his parents time for him. he was used to have all the attention - praises, love, toys everything. he sees the baby as threat . explain to him that even there will be a baby soon, your love for him will never change.
when i was due to my 2nd baby. from the very beginning i told everything to my son, thats why when the baby arrived he wasnt shock or sad. here are the things i did:
1. i let him see babies, explained to him how they need attenion and love from me his dad and him as her brother.
2. practice makes perfect. we practiced as if there is a baby. i got my old doll and play pretend.
3. let him buy a gift for "his" baby. yes tell him it his baby too.
so that he'll be excited to give it to the baby.
4. when the baby arrives, involve him. in diaper change, let him get it. make him kiss her. make him watch the baby say u'll go to the bathroom. but hey, this is not for real huh. hide only!
5. show him love and care more. so that he will do to his sibling.
6. alternate. say u for the baby, hubby for the eldest. vice versa after an hour.
happy parenting!
2006-10-12 22:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by johannea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose we cannot really know what is going through the mind of this child. But he is a teenager, and those hormones could be flowing. He could be jealous - I know you have been careful, but there's only so much care one can take at the end of the day, babies need attention, and love. He must come to terms with this whether he likes it or not. It sounds like jealousy and if the 8 year old wants to come for Christmas, encourage her to do so, as she should not suffer for the whims of a teenager. Continue doing as you are, don't make special allowances and he will come round, it sounds like teenage angst and playing up. I hope it works out.
2016-05-21 22:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Involve him now, have him help picking clothes and toys and decorating the room. Try taking him to some of the visits like listening to the heart or the ultra sound. Just keep him involved as much as possible and let him know that he is going to be great big brother. Have him make some pictures or other type of art work to put in the baby's rooms.
2006-10-12 23:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep him involved and when the baby arrives still keep him involved and give him the attention he's always had. It will be quite hard at first but you will all be happy. Maybe give him a time out for a few mins with mum and dad once a day like story time.
2006-10-12 23:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by jinglebells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
`give him time! 6 years is a long time to be the no 1!!!!
` it will take a while for him to adapt, perhaps a homeopathic consult would be best straight up
``or try -go to the health shop and get 12x1 biochemic cell salts
` (these are not salts as such, i gave them to my boys often, any time they requested, plus when i thought they needed them)
```evening primrose oil with fish oil should help tremendously also
`if there is still even a slight problem, dont think it will go away, as it wont, take him to see a homeopath, who will make a special formula to help him adapt.
`like i said 6 years is a long time to get used to being mum n dads only little boy
2006-10-12 22:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by jojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son is the same age and ive just had another baby i worried about the reaction he would have but when my new son arrived my oldest was great just remember newborns dont need that much attention and just make sure people who visit show your oldest son attention first that way they still feel special i also bought my son a gift from his new brother it worked wonders for me
2006-10-12 22:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him a doll, I did this with my son, we dressed it and bathed it just like real baby, so when my daughter was born he just accepted the things that we were doing.
2006-10-13 03:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i did was when by baby was born i bought a gift from the baby for my daughter and she was then very pleased that the baby was here lol
2006-10-12 22:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by sleepwalker69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should beat him, and lock him in the closet for 3 days. Do this everytime he does anything the least bit wrong. After that he'll do whatever you say to avoid the beatings.
2006-10-12 23:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell him hes gonna have someone to play with and protect
2006-10-12 22:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋