to have their own way and let them rule the roost..it is very bad.Parents need to be in controll of their childrens life let them respect you. Where i came from in the caribbean you disrespect your mamma and pappa you get a smack or punish always respect your elders that was the rule even if you don't want to
2006-10-12 21:31:05 · 35 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-10-12 21:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to step up for the parents of these little terrors...... some parents are just too scared to discipline their kids. School nowadays teach children that if they get smacked they should call the police and their parents will get in trouble. The governments have made it hard for parents to discipline kids as well. And the kids don't realize there is a difference between a smack on the backside compared to a beating and they threaten their parents with calling the police.
Kids dont understand the true nature of those threats and what the consequences can be, so instead of allowing their kids to get ripped out of their homes the parents allow them to get away with it.....
But of course there are those parents that just have the kids for the welfare cheques... and let the kids do what they want when they want.
2006-10-12 21:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that used to be the case here a s well, I was always taught respect and brought up pretty strictly, but when you have a government that wants to make it illegal to smack your children, have it soo its possible to report your parents to social services and divorce them in the courts, where police have no power over kids under a certain age no wonder they see that they can get away with murder and there is no power weilded by adults to control them. I live in an area where gangs of kids are a problem have had confrontations with them and made it clear that If they want to confront or abuse me as an equal I will reprise the same way I would with an adult they always seem to back down.
2006-10-12 22:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to change tack slightly for a moment, I can't believe the number of people here that are advocating smacking kids. I was hit (let's stop calling it "smacking" and refer to it as what it really is - i.e. hitting) on a semi-regular basis as a child and it actually made me violent - I was constantly in trouble at school for hitting the people who bullied me because that was how I'd been taught to solve that kind of problem. In Sweden, they've banned smacking and they've got some of the lowest crime and teen pregnancy rates in the world, so that's obviously not the problem. Maybe the trouble is that parents are behaving badly themselves and then trying to be hypocritical about it?
2006-10-14 05:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by chemical_sister_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There seem to be two schools of thought on ths one...
The middle class view is to let the child develop their personality etc but I see this just as the lazy option and they have far 'better' things to do than bring up their children properly...I have a hotel so see lots of families of different nationalities and the English are the worst parents I have come across. They just let their children do what they want.... My children were brought up to behave and have respect for other people and this took effort...something people don't seem to have these days!
2006-10-12 21:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when I was younger -I was scared- I don't mean they beat me - of my parents one look of my mum and that was it we froze to the spot- my mum did smack us if we were naughty and my dad only ever smacked us if we'd been really naughty- I suppose we knew were our boundaries were and when we'd pushed them enough- Children now have no boundaries- they get far to much- they have no respect for anybody or anything- everything is easy come easy go- I blame the children's programmes ie Tracey beaker for a lot - also I think as most parents both have to work now there is more money or mean to get money to buy them everything they desire and we feel guilty at not being with them so we buy affection instead!
Also smacking is frowned upon now - but how many times have you been out and seen a child performing and thought to yourself "what that child needs is a smacked ar*e"
I have a six year old - who is a nightmare- my fault- she doesn't bat an eyelid when I threaten to throw toys away- she has too many- but times are changing in our house- otherwise we are setting ourselves up for a big fall!!!
2006-10-12 21:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you in so far as parents should be in control of their kids not the other way round, your kids will not respect a parent they think they can manipulate. You can be loving to your children without becoming submissive, but maybe it is a cultural thing, I was brought up in a big Irish extended family where parents where in charge and kids got up to mischief behind their backs. I don't slap my kids though mainly because I think it does no good, I was hit as a child and thought it was humiliating.
2006-10-12 21:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by Nobody200 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are not all like that i have 2 children and they know that we are very much in charge they have been brought up to respect other people not to create in public and just general all round manners and they know that if they want anything they have to work for it by doing chores around the house just as i was brought up myself they are not angels but they know how to behave and they know they difference between right and wrong people even comment on how polite they can be and i for one am proud of what i have achieved with my children so not every parent parents lets their child rule the roost
2006-10-16 09:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by ikklealsum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was brought up with British parents and me and my siblings were always taught right from wrong.my parents would first try to find some type of punishment for us but when that didn't work they would smack us.i am now in my twenties and everyone tells my mum what a good job shes done. i also have many friends(also British)who were brought up in the same way and they too, respect their parents. i have lived in a few different countries and i have friends from many different countries and in each country there are parents who try to control their children and parents who let their children get away with murder.its not good to generalize.
2006-10-12 23:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem does not only exist in the UK , it also exists in the USA, and im sure the rest of the world to some degree, parents and or guardians have lost site of the importance of family, they have , but not all, lost the values that come in raising a family. They have become lazy and and to not have any problems with there children they let them do anything they want...
2006-10-12 21:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to generalise about a whole nation. My children have never been in control and yes there are some parents who don't set boundaries and let their children walk all over them but that is in every country. You don't need to give a child a smack to install respect and boundaries.
2006-10-12 21:40:10 · answer #11 · answered by Saskia M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋