What's their rationale?
Shouldn't people be able to decide who they marry?
Is this just another example of how Muslims exercise their need to CONTROL everything?
I hear some of them even marry their cousins!
Too bad "Allah" didn't tell Mohammid what happens to the gene pool of families that INTERBREED!
Yuck! When will Muslims ever learn?
2006-10-12 20:52:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
They still live in 14 century.
2006-10-13 19:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
First, arranged marriages is part of the traditions. And you would only understand that if you had traditions based on your culture, but I doubt you do...Anyways, Muslims don't like to control everything, and I suppose who they marry is something that only them can decided. I dont think some Muslim asked for your help on whether to marry his colleage or cousin...Second, Allah did tell Prophet Muhammed everything you could ever imagine, and more than what your imagination can reach. Third, cousin marriage is only common amongst certain areas of the Islamic World. And sir, Muslims are the base of all learning,,,CHECK THE HISTORY
2006-10-13 03:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by AG 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well It is their choice whom to marry..
They can have love marriage but being in their morals....
I am going to marry the girl I love...
I just told my parents to arrange it for my...
make it formal...
thats it...
Muslims can marry the person they like or love....
there is no stopping...
And as far as marrying cousins is concerned,
I say that
How come Marrying 1st cousins is bad....
Muslims know that there are complications in offsprings...
but
it is not bad...
Actually the gene problem starts in 2nd generation cousin marriages.......
And what about those greeks & Eygyptians before Islam ...
Why dont u people target them???
I dont understand why all non-muslims have something stuck in their throught when they talk about Muslims...??
They r so much racists!!!!
2006-10-13 04:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by just curious 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Muslims have full authority to accept or reject anybody before getting married.
Arranged mariage does not mean to accept someone who you dont' like at all.
There is a misconception about an arranged marriage. People think that it is like enforcement by one's parents. That wrong.
Parents/Gardians put their choices in front of their dependents, it is the dependents decission whether to accept that or not.
On the contrary, in a love marriage, parents have nothing to do with that and their dependents get married by their own choice.
They never get benefits of their elder's experience that is why most of the love marriages are failed when most of the arranged mariages are successfull.
2006-10-13 07:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by A muslim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not mix religion with culture. Islam does not encourage arranged marriages. Arranged marriages are practiced in some cultures. Some people marry their cousins to keep their wealth within the family. Try to understand the difference between CULTURE and RELIGION.
2006-10-13 04:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by Isis 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You compare their situation and culuture to your Western standards. Fact is, they have their own standards, they've had them for decades, centuries, millenia. The Eastern cultures are totally different to the Western ones, so comparing theirs to ours will not work. For example,
"Shouldn't people be able to decide who they marry?" I want to pass that question back: Shouldn't people marry who is suited best for them and is able to guarantee them a stable relationship and life? I'm not a fan of arranged marriages myself, but I grew up in a Western culture and therefor this would mean a lack of freedom for myself. For them it's probably the way things go.
Just like we get a job, are working 38 to 40 hours or more a week. What's the point in that behaviour? We would say we do it so we can afford a nice life. What would a buddhist say? Wouldn't he probably say we're sacrificing our spiritiual life for economy? That we focus on money instead of our soul and our selves?
It's all about the point of view, it's all about culture.
About interbreeding, we've also had it in the West. Kingdoms were interbreeding all the time.
2006-10-13 04:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by nik 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
er....guy....i think it's only some of the Muslims and not all...just like some other culture who also continue such a thing....i believe every culture will have...believe it a not u may...if u think ur people of the same religion don't...it's called ethnicentrism!!!
i know in Malaysia and SIngapore that the muslims there do not practice such a thing in majority at the very least, if not all!
and i think your Q is rather insulting to the Muslims! I am not a Muslim btw!
2006-10-13 03:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by junnyo 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think its a cultural thing not just a Muslim/religious thing.
I would also say that every circumstance is different and not all Muslims are forced into arranged marriages
2006-10-13 03:58:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
because they do not want Mohammed's clans to be mixed up with others as they claim they have divine blood line and according to Islam Mohammed's clans only should be the royal of Muslims this going on for almost 1300 years it was brook by people force in some nations like Iraq and to some extent in Saudi, while it is still valid claim by Islamic government of Iran and Jordan.
2006-10-13 22:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by Nabil 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
how very naive of you. my parents had a Love Marraige and they are not from West, they are very much Muslims. i preferred an arranged marraige for Love stuff didnt work out for me -- i cant please any guy, thats not for me. i wanted a person who will accept me the way i am and i must say my hubby Arman is the best in the world. i just celebrated my second anniversary and we are gonna have a lot of fun together.
on the other hand i wish people like you did a little reading before they write or say crap. also if u beleive in -- TRIED AND TESTED POLICY -- where they try and test men/women like products from a store or boutique -- then thats total DISRESPECT for a person's INDIVIDUALITY.
2006-10-13 03:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by marissa 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
yeah islam is very complicated man.when i am asked i say 'yeah i am a muslim'' but i am against lots of rules and traditions of it.
but you r wrong about this arranged marriages is about islam:it is not about it.it is about the traditions of lots of country and being muslim is just a chance and concidence..anyway i am also against that marriage between cousins.and it is not also about being muslim.cuz islam prohibited to get marry like this.it was only possible between ''adem and havva'' and children of them.u know the first people :) but i agree with you.sometimes people cant decide who they will marry. islam contains lots of stupid rules like all other religions...
shortly it is the difference between religious dogmas and stupid traditions.
i think i dont believe in religions :)
i hope i helped u. lol
2006-10-13 04:02:11 · answer #11 · answered by Frollo 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋