I love my gf. She is great in so many ways. Only hard part is she is so damned independant. She always has 12 things lined up for herself and I feel like I am lucky to make the list some nights. She works a lot and is very social, so I am wondering; is it selfish to want to see more of her? I want to ask her, but I know I am asking her to give me what she doesn't have; time.
Anyone else have a good night?
2006-10-12 19:44:08 · 6 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she was there all the time, you would probably take things for granted, as you say she is very independent, she likes the fast lane, whatever you do don't try to hold her back...she wont thank you for it, it's how she is...you almost sound like you feel left out, remember she is an individual...just a question though what are you doing?...sitting waiting for her every call, if you were out there doing your own thing sometimes, maybe you wouldn't be so clingy, and selfish, and then when you both meet up you have more to talk about and enjoy each other to the full, without one or the other feeling left behind. it's like having clouds, and sunsets without any rain in order to appreciate them. Good Luck.
2006-10-12 19:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a female and I don't think its wrong in you wanting to ask her for more time...but remember Spending time independently of each other is a healthy part of any relationship. You need time to process your thoughts and dreams, handle stress and just unwind and be yourself. It has nothing to do with not wanting to be with the other person. Everyone needs a little personal space, and it's a huge sign of respect towards your partner when you encourage and support their time alone.However Sometimes a partner can spend too much personal time on a project. Instead of making them feel guilty about it, arrange for a time swap. Agree to a set amount of time they'll work on the project each week. In exchange, they have to offer you that same amount of time to do either something on your own, or together. Get creative and you can both get what you want.Best Wishes!
2006-10-13 02:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time you get a chance to be close to her ... make it as special as possible ... Try new ideas to impress her everytime .. Show her all colours of life that she might admire ..
Try being the one she likes ... (or atleast pretend honestly) ...
She'll definately notice and will like your approach.. eventually she'll start giving you more time and attention..
Its human to fall for such afffection and care ... as the girl is kinda busy type, she needs to ... Make her feel that she has no other option but to crave more for your love.. and be honest enough to actually acheive this...
Its wont be difficult if you really love the girl and know her more than anyone else. But the most important thing is to first know that you really want this girl before actually making her go ga-ga in your dreams..
Best of Luck, Bro!!
2006-10-13 03:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by Explorer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking for someones time is not a lot to ask! You are in love with her so you are not being selfish! a fair night-Good night!
2006-10-13 02:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wanting more of her time and asking for it isnt selfish. Demanding it is.
2006-10-13 02:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by saturn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The girl has a plan, and you are not sure if you are part of it. better ask, only she can say, and you may be put in abeyance
2006-10-13 02:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋