I’ve been seeing this girl for a few months. I really don’t feel any chemistry between us but I think she really likes me. I would love to continue to be friends with her. How do I tell her without hurting her feelings?
2006-10-12 19:31:16 · 14 answers · asked by Y 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The truth??? What fun is that? Take my advice, kid, and lie through your teeth, after all, women expect us to lie anyway, so here's a tip that will not only let this chick down gently, both of you will win, and you'll look so good that chicks will follow you around all day. Now pay attention: A bit of acting is needed here, but she won't have a clue. Approach her at a quiet place and pull her aside. Tearfully admit that you cannot bear to hurt her feelings, but you have to tell her that you're getting feelings for her, then admit to her that you are in a long term relationship with a childhood sweetheart who lives in Denmark, and it would be "so wrong" to betray that precious trust you share with her, but the more time you spend with this one, the stronger your "feelings" for her become. Say something like "I was raised to respect all women and not to hurt them in any way, and being a man, and deeply caring for you, I will not be selfish. please understand that I need "time" to make this difficult decision, and need to be alone to do so. Please be patient. (you will look like the catch of the week, she'll have hope, and of course, worship you like a prince, and everyone else will envy you having a georgous Scandanavian blonde tucked away.) This works every time.....eternally yours,...The Rat
2006-10-12 19:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by Raptor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you would hurt her more if you keep letting her feel this way when you don't. The best way is let her know that you like her more as a friend then a girlfriend. Let her know that you feel like there is no chemistry between the two of you. She may think that someone else is involved. If there is no one else reassure her of that. You need to have chemistry between you and your partner. I am sure she will understand, and maybe she likes you the same. You do need to let her know. When you tell her be kind about it. Tell her you will be there when she needs you. Everyone does take things differently than others. You will not know how she will react. Yes maybe will can be hurt when you tell her, but she may understand too. Good luck.
2006-10-13 02:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by nbubbyjak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's already been a couple months, chances are you're going to hurt her feelings. But you need to tell her, what if the situation was reversed? Wouldn't you want to know before you ended up spending a bunch of money on this girl? Tell her you appreciate what you have now, but you don't see it going anywhere romantically.
I will say this: Chances are, if you change your mind, she'll be there with open arms.
There is a saying that goes "break someone's heart and they'll love you forever."
2006-10-13 02:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she likes u a lot she will be hurt no matter how u gonna talk to her, but u have to tell her how u feel because she can get more hurt if u continue it and she will fall for u more, so just tell her the truth, how u feel and it that it would be better if u just stay friends...
good luck
2006-10-13 02:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you like her as a friend...or do not show lot of attention though coz it might think her that you like her....so treat her as ordinary friend., and talk to her about other girls that you like, in that way she can sense that you are not interested to her. If you are good enough just tell her the truth that there is no chemistry between the two of you,,, but it really disappointing for us girls if we like the guys,, but better to know the truth than nothing.
2006-10-13 02:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't learned that girls are emotional beings you have a long way to go. Just tell her the truth but there is no garuntee that you won't hurt her feelings but guess what, she'll get over it. This won't be the worst thing that ever happens to her. Love hurts, life hurts...just tell her gently.
2006-10-13 02:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. It is better to be front with her right now then waste time on time with her. The faster you tell her how you feel the better. That way time will not go on and upset her more. Better to be front with her now, before she falls more in love with you. Also she may not want to be friends so that is something you may have to deal with.
2006-10-13 02:32:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is forced to be in a relationship they don't like. Talk to this girl, I am sure she'll understand u'r position. There's no benefit for any of you either if it wasn't meant to be. Tell her you prefer to be friends & if She doesn't like it, she can always move on. I'm sure she's bound to find her match out there & you yours. Stop wasting time just because you are afraid of hurting her feelings.What about yours?
2006-10-13 02:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by Osho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably hurt her feelings, but that is better than dragging it on. Just tell her now, or it will just get harder to do !
2006-10-13 02:36:35 · answer #9 · answered by g_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's damn near impossible. lol.
tell her you are gay...then have a guy right there to kiss after you tell her. that's the only thing i could think of that wouldn't hurt my feelings :)
2006-10-13 02:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by sexy law chick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋