so yeah... got a job, fell for a boy, my 1st time actually going out by choice, he dumps me after 2 weeks to go back with his ex who has feelings she denied before... I work with them both, it's been a week, and I'm totally over him... but I'm not really finding it necessary to socialize with either one. He's an asshole who totally played me and she's a ***** for acting like one to me when I was going out with him. so question is - how should I act in this situation? I've been doing well avoiding both of them - talking, interacting and such... When I was leaving work today, someone made a comment about her and I said that he shouldn't ask me since we dont' get along .. of course I said this so she could hear it and my ex/ her boyfriend. she completely tried to make conversation with me tonight, but I avoided it. it's so much drama, it's lame, but I'm thinking I have the total right to ignore both of them, even tho I'm over it, they're just not peopel I care to get to know.. any advice?
2006-10-12 18:51:05 · 5 answers · asked by TashaSSS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't sound to me like you are truly over it. There is no need to avoid these people and be uncivil. If you are going to work together, it will be best to get along, and you are only hurting yourself by holding a grudge.
You don't seem to know that you are holding a grudge, so I would say your first step is to recognize that. Your second step is to think about how much it really matters, 2 weeks is not very long, and they likely have a history. He's obviously confused, or possibly a flake, as is she.
Let them have their fun. If they make no effort to connect with you in a civilized manner, I certainly don't suggest going out of your way to make amends, but if they talk to you, why ignore them? Ask yourself: Does it really make you feel better?
2006-10-12 19:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by JouLe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It costs you nothing to have eye contact and say "hello" when you run across them. It takes more effort to ignore them. Just be civil to them and move on. I'd be uncomfortable to go beyond that.
Try not to be bitter...because if you do, you'll be the one suffering, not them. Not everyone who comes into your life stays. We have to learn to let go and wish those who go well.
2006-10-13 03:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by KIT J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even waste the effort to ignore them. Never worth it: be the bigger person and just carry on like normal. In the long run it'll do you good.
2006-10-13 01:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by johnd1215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 2 weeks is a very very small time period. and if you plan on staying there awhile then you need to become friends (and only friends) with both of them... best of luck... youll need it
2006-10-13 01:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by ks_stud_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're handling it just fine...too much drama that you don't care to have in your life.
2006-10-13 01:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋