My bf has a lot of ex girlfriends that where strippers so he is into tricks during sex. Everytime we do it he wants me to try some weird or silly trick that makes him feel good. Dont get me wrong I am a very big freak and most of it I do enjoy and sex with him is amazing and wonderful. Now he wants to video tape it so he can play it back on his projecter when im not around..... Of course I said no. And even worse he has asked me to be in a threesome. I said no but he keeps pressing, he has even gone so far as to say that he will have the girl hide in a closet and when we start having sex when im in doggie he will have the girl come out and in that position I cant say no any longer. Although I am considering saying yes I dont think I should......
2006-10-12 18:50:40 · 17 answers · asked by Laprincessa1182 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You control your body not him. If you're not comfortable doing something tell him and if he cant respect that you dont want to do something, he truly doesn't care for you.
In my experience a threesome no matter how fun the guy might think its going to be.. If done in a serious relationship will only complicate things.
2006-10-12 19:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you feel comfortable. If you want to do what he suggests, tell him you will do it when you feel comfortable and not a second sooner. If you feel uncomfortable, you won't enjoy it. Tell him you are considering his suggestions, but you don't feel going through with them at the present time, but might do so at some point in the future. Your bf shouldn't pressure you into anything you don't want to do.
If he does, you should consider having a serious talk with him about your relationship, and if that doesn't work, try getting a new boyfriend.
giddyupgirl136, get a life. That's an immature brat response.
We are not all of the planet pig. There are roughly 3 billion or so males on this planet, and you know each and every one of them well enough to make this generalization? Should it be assumed all females are golddiggers then, who don't really care about the
male they are with, and they are only using him for what they
can milk him for? The negative stereotypes work both ways.
2006-10-12 18:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Answerer17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's so addicted, he can't get enough of it. He keeps needing more, and more different stuff to excite him, to fill his desire for sex. It might not be a bad idea for you to deny him sex, just for awhile. Tell him you might consider doing some of the stuff he wants if you stop sex for awhile. Then just stop having sex, until he wants sex really, really bad. When he's begging for sex again, tell him you're not sure you want to do the video taping and threesomes. He may not care, he just wants regular sex, and then he'll be happy to just have that.
2006-10-12 18:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by Empty Skies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you don't want to do this, so why say yes aganist your better judgment?
Also, when he was just begging/nagging/whining, he was annoying enough, but now he is actually threatening to deliberately go against your wishes and bring someone into your bedroom without your permission. You must tell him in no uncertain terms that if he even thinks on following through with this plan of his, it is the last he'll ever see of you.
2006-10-12 18:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously is used to pushing limits with these other gals, and isn't taking you too seriously, might want to with hold the kitty for awhile till he wises up, or call it quits, I can pretty much guarantee he sees you as a stripper, as far as respecting you, sexuality, your wishes and desires, and what not....
2006-10-12 18:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by Joker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True, and you shouldn't even be doing anything at all, not being married. Get rid of this jerk and tell him never to come around you again.
You wanted a man's point of view? He should should be glad that you're not my daughter. And I don't see any other people responding that could actually be called men, so mine is the only answer to your request.
2006-10-12 18:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He can't make demands. He can ask, and you can refuse. And theres basically nothing he can do about that. You cant force people into anything, especially in a relationship. So if he can't respect your likings and dislikings, there won't be a future for you two.
2006-10-12 18:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by Bastard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do anything you dont want to chic. im not a guy but why would you ask a guy they are all of planet pig,when it comes to that stuff. if he loves you he wont push you. never do something like this when your not 100% sure or you will com to regret it.i know guys that show that stuff off and the chic never knows or knows too late. dont do it.
2006-10-12 18:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-28 03:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation... Is he just a **** buddy or do you like him? If hes just a **** buddy then leave him in the dust. And if you like him, then hes gotta like you back and he should respect your decsions to be only 75% freaky... lol
2006-10-12 18:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by ks_stud_2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋