We are having a family oriented reception with lots children present and grooms grandmother would not come if alcohol present so we were considering an adult after party. Was wondering if anyone had ever done this or heard of it being done.
2006-10-12 18:40:11 · 9 answers · asked by tiger4mel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Apparently, I did have a wedding party, only I was not in on it, LOL. Most of them were drunk and I was to nervous to really notice what was going on around me! 'Course, being 4 mos pregnant kind of squashed the party on my end as well!
Okay, what is the normal protocol in your area? Do you want all the fam there, including kids? I'd write a list of what I want and def. don't want. Absolutely do not worry about hurting feelings. This is nobody's wedding but yours.
2006-10-12 20:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by my2cents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I had a "party" wedding that was Hawaiian themed.
My brother was graduating at the end of May in '04 and my wife and I had thought about a July wedding for that year or '05 but decided that since we were going to have the family all in town for his graduation that we would get married over the Memorial day holiday.
Since we (my wife and I) are both not overly religious we decided that instead of the stuffy traditional wedding we would have a Giant Hawaiian Luau party with a wedding procedure thrown in for good measure. Our guests attended in hawaiian shirts and flip flops. A good friend of mine got ordained through the Universal Life Church and officiated our wedding and then we partied well into the night. Though it was not an afterparty type event as you are suggesting it was still a great time none the less. Though it should be noted that we had booze and alcohol as well catered food and all the luau decorations and games one could ask for.
Friends and family to this day STILL talk about our wedding and tell us what a great time they had there. My brother in law shows every one that comes to his house our wedding dvd that we had made. Though it was everything but traditional my wife and I are super happy with the results and the fact that it turned out soooo awesome. So I say go for it....
2006-10-13 03:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by Andy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're set on pleasing the grandmother, then an adults-only after party would be great. These are VERY common in Japan and called "Nijikai" or "Second Parties." They're an opportunity for the bride and groom to unwind with friends and bask in the glow of being married (with a drink or two). They can be VERY fun...some couples incorporate games (with adult-only prizes), music, etc. Enjoy!
2006-10-13 01:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by WonderingWanderer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have. My cousin got married, had the reception at the church, where my aunt is a missionary from, and later that evening it had been "pre"arranged that we would meet up at a real nice cocktail room, where there was drinks, band, dancing. We had a blast!! I would definitely recommend it.
2006-10-13 03:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going off on a bit of a tangent here - What's up with the grandmother? I guess it is easy for me to say because it is not my grandmother, but if anyone said to me (about anything) "I'm not coming if (blank)". I would say "Sorry we'll miss you".
2006-10-13 12:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by Adoptive Father 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just don't understand why people don't think they can have a good time (or as good of a time) unless alcohol is present.
2006-10-13 02:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by meothefaerie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have definatly heard of this before! And even if it has never been done before it is your wedding and you can plan it however you and your hubby to be want it to be.
2006-10-13 02:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by ctjones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it's your wedding you do whatever you want. Just word it appropriately in the invitation. Most people get it when you say cocktails will be served.
2006-10-13 01:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen it done before and it works out great . . . good luck and congratulations!!
2006-10-14 10:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋