Hi everybody this is my first question ever so I'm pretty excited. Any way I am at my first semester of college, and I have been acting like a giant wuss bag for the first 18 years of my life. I was basically watching TV by myself tonight, and I was like wow this has to change now. I've never been on a date or even had a kiss before but I am determined to change that. I don't want to become a Pimp or anything, but I want to know that if I see a woman I'm attracted to, that I have the confidence and conversation skills to talk to her. Anyway I was wondering what everyone's advice was, and to the ladies what's going on in your mind when a guy approaches you, is that cool if he does etc. thanks everyone
2006-10-12 18:27:53 · 6 answers · asked by Kansas City Shuffle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
man, you have to take risks, its time to act, so what i think you should do is trying to make some friends (girls), start, talking with them, also, try observe others talking with girls and learn from what you see,
2006-10-12 18:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by i_r_macintosh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm glad you are starting thinking maturly at that age!!!! No offence really, I just never saw a mature guy that was 18! Anyway, If a guy approaches me and I know that he acts like an idiot most of the time I will just tell him to leave me alone with a nasty tone to it. If a guy that tries to talk to me is looking somewhat professional in the way he is dressed, and from seeing him around I know that he is treating everybody nicely, I'll go ahead and be friendly.
Don't get me wrong about the dressing thing. If I see someone that is so so casual dressed maybe ocasionlly baggy clothes or something, AND, here is the main part, he acts like a grown up, and treats everybody around him nicely without any of that perverted upsetting inapropriate jokes and immature stuff, I'll concider that person as my safe list person.
2006-10-13 01:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by Desert Rat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hoorah for you dude. Do you know how rare you are? Don't rush into anything with just anyone. Continue the way you are. Any girl in this world would be honored to meet a man like you. Just don't expect them to be as pure as yourself. Don't go out with the only thing on your mind to get laid. It isn't worth it, with all the diseases and viruses that are going around. Stay true to yourself and when you meet the right girl you will know. My wife and I fell in love at first sight and have been married for 22 wonderful years. The only thing that could have made it more wonderful is if we had never been with any one else. Stay pure and whole and then and only then will you truely understand what being loved, being in love and making love with someone is all about. Don't rush it , you have the rest of your life to devoted to one person, but I gaurantee you it will be well worth it.
2006-10-13 01:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by GREG G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1)Pretend (Or act real if you do like her) that you are really really interested
2)Ask as many questions as you can, and listen to what she has to say, be a good listener.
3)Don't talk about yourself at all.
4)Observe her body language toward you.
Subtle cues to look for:
1. Eye contact: Is she maintaining eye contact, looking away, looking at you.
2. Touch: Is she touching him on the arm, hand, forearm, shoulder, etc.
3. Smile: Is she smiling, at you, when you speak, when you look at her?
4. Speech: Is she nervous when she's around you? Or does she talk too much?
^ I got this from somebody else on here, it's been pretty helpful to me..
I got this advice when I was 16...tried it on a girl, and she became my GF.
Other then that just be yourself as in be a nice guy, don't be a pushy, maintain eye contact (Not like a weirdo, but enough to tell that you are paying attention to her) and when you feel the time is right slightly push it by asking her out.
Also..dont wait for them to talk to you, that rarely happens. If you like a certain girl you must approach her, she wont approach you.
2006-10-13 01:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by FeverLust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go check out www.daviddeangelo.com his programs will help but something tells me you have heard of them . Im in the process of doing the same thing because it gets anoying doesent it . Im 21 and never dated and no one belives me lol . Youll be fine dude .
2006-10-13 01:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by badass-mofu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woman are looking for a special guy, become that guy
2006-10-13 01:32:17 · answer #6 · answered by menguss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋