I find myself coming across a lot of couples. Some seem to be made for each other, while others seem like they need to just move far, far away from each other. I have never been in an...intimate relationship in my 21 years, but I may or may not have been close to one. As of right now I don't see a relationship as being anything I want right now. My friend on the other hand wants one though...why? What is in it for him? What's in it for you?
2006-10-12 18:06:22 · 7 answers · asked by Richard H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Alot of younger people want relationships so badly because they are insecure with themselves and are unhappy single. You shouldn't need someone else to make you happy, however.
A lot of young couples stay together when they shouldn't for the same reason - theyre terrified of being alone/don't think they can find anyone else/ etc etc.
I'm sure this happens in older relationships at times as well, I just see it constantly in younger couples/individuals.
You are secure enough with yourself, and understand your values and goals at the present time enough to not need a relationship to feel complete - that is perfectly ok.
(I am not trying to say that anyone in a relationship does it because they are insecure - just USUALLY the people that stay in horrible relationships, or people who are single and DESPERATE for a relationship all the time - many young people and young couples have perfectly healthy, good relationships for the right reasons)
2006-10-12 18:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by bumbleleigh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone dates/matures at different ages. You may have other goals in life that are more important than a relationship right now- while someone else may view a relationship as a added bonus to thier day. Some feel better being a 'couple' while others are happy independent. You may meet someone tomorrow who turns your world upside down and you want a relationship- until then focus on yourself- and the right person will find u.
2006-10-13 01:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by KA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt confined in my marriage, always bowing to the other's whims. I am free of restriction now, divorced, but there is only one thing I would like from a relationship at this point, and I never even had it in 20 years of marriage. I would like to be able to lean on someone. A shoulder. A snuggle. A hug. Sitting watching a football game together, or just to hold hands at a movie. Being in the same room and comfortable enough with the others' silence not to have it filled with clatter of conversation about nothing relevant.
I do not know what to tell you about your friend. I suppose he feels that he is wanted, needed and loved, and that is how those things are supposed to work. As you can tell, mine didn't. My ex gave me 4 beautiful girls, but he was not soft enough with me. Got up when I would sit next to him and find another chair. That is not being wanted and needed and loved.
I wish you all the best of what the world has to offer.
2006-10-13 01:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by H2Ocolors 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like it's different for everyone. You may not want a relationship or commitment but maybe your friend wants to be really close to just one person. Some people are in relationships just for the physical (so they can parade their boyfriends/just have sex all the time)...you know the kind, they pick up their dates in bars. Then some people really just want to care about one person. I'm not particularly popular, just a small group of friends, and I really like the idea of sharing everything with just one person. It's not just the lovey part, although you do have to think about the fact that we're social creatures and intimacy is important for many of us. The other person also gives you a sense of security, and keeps you from being lonely. It's nice to think that there's someone else who considers you the most important person in the world to them...at least for me, it is. And then most of us are all a little afraid of being lonely the rest of our lives. =)
So what's not in it for you?
2006-10-13 01:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by Dumblydore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is for some but some like to be still independant.If you dont wont to be in one tell your mate NO!Your mate may wont you to fit in with them as it is hard if he takes you along to a party and your single as you may be a thret to them
2006-10-13 01:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by staffie lover from Aussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mate :
7 GLANCES - 1 SMILE
7 SMILE S - 1 MEETING
7 MEETINGS - 1 KISS
7 KISSES - 1 PROPOSAL
7 PROPOSALS- 1 MARRIAGE
1 MARRIAGE = 777771 PROBLEMS. So better we should be away from so many problems.
2006-10-13 02:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans are social creatures. It's human nature.
2006-10-13 01:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by methodz1218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋