When you first get with someone, they act different. They are nice and sweet and then when you are with that person for a long time, they just stop noticing you. It feels like you aren't there anymore. Why is it like that most times?
2006-10-12 18:05:12 · 14 answers · asked by Pinky 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
for one thing being with anyone over a period of time will make you see the real person, when you first start dating everything is new and exciting and you are getting to know the person, but once you know them for a while you start noticing little things about their personality... there are good and bad qualities to every person... theres no mystery. Also when ever people start getting comfortable around that person, they dont try so hard to impress each other because they dont feel the need to try to get you to like them...
2006-10-12 18:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people take each other for granted after a while. That first 'rosy glow' doesn't last forever. But, people should work on it. It should last in my opinion. And it could if people would only work on it. I shouldn't have to tell you how. Just think about it.
Infatuation is not love. And when the first stage wears off, it doesn't mean 2 people are not compatable. Anyone who says so is part of the 'throw away' society and a very shallow person in my opinion. A good relationship IS worth working on.
2006-10-12 18:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on who has the upper hand in the relationship. If the boy has more influence over the girl, then the boy will probably have a change in attitude, and vice versa. I actually went through that. People just think that they own the other person after awhile and that they will stay with them no matter what! But u just gotta let them know that you want to be treated right!
2006-10-12 18:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by ks_stud_2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
beacuse in the begining of a relationship you have to work at it. Your not yourself, you are what you think the other person wants.
over time the real person is let out. Also over time relationships are taken for granted. They believe that the relationship has been going on this long it will continue and I don't have to try so hard. ost people forget that all relationships take work all of the time.
It's like a new car. at first you baby it take care of it all of the time, but as time goes on you do less and less to it. Relationships are the same way.
2006-10-12 18:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many phases in courtship and such. When we are first dating someone, psychologically we partly become who they want us to be. Once the newness wheres off, that is when the true love can start. Many people can't survive in a relationship without the hidden "rush" or thrill someone new brings to them. This feeling, when it fades, makes people feel as though they are being ignored or their needs aren't being met. When in actuality, often times, your partner is just so comfortable and trusting that your relationship is based on something deeper than attachment and instant gratification.
When you find the right one, you won't feel that "fade" as you will love them for what the bring to your life but not need for the "courtship" and obsession to carry you through.
2006-10-12 18:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by stefanie from Maine :) 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is partially because they take you for granted. It also is a normal human behavior to not want to be with you every second of every day after dating or being married for a while. When you first meet and start dating, it's the rush of something new and exciting. After the relationship is established, there are more important stages you move into like commitment, security, etc.
2006-10-12 18:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by MightyManMichael 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they get comfortable and lazy. They start taking the other for granted and don't take the time to appreciate the person that they are with, usually not until that person is either gone physically or emotionally from the relationship.
2006-10-12 18:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Wanting to know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infatuation lasts about 3-4 months. Most couples should end it at that point, but they insist on "working on it" when they're simply not compatible, nor really all that interested in each other.
2006-10-12 18:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they have gotten comfortable enough to show every side to them, good or bad. That neglectful side is the most challenging, but with a little communication and understanding, it'll all suffice.
2006-10-12 18:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by UVRay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you finally get to see the real them. They're comfortable around you. They feel that they already have you so why do they need to be on their best behavior?
2006-10-12 18:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by yblur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋