I live with my boyfriend and we have a 4 year old daughter together. He introduced me to a friend 2 years ago and just recently that friend and i have started seeing each other. I really like this friend a lot and he likes me too, but he will not have a relationship further than dating (w/ benefits) right now because he has a really bad history of being hurt. I talk with him everyday and spend all my free time with him but i still live with my boyfriend. I have tried breaking up with him but he keeps coming back. I tried to be firm and told him i dont want to be with him and he tried to kill his self in my kitchen. After 6 years I still love him but I dont have feelings for him anymore, and if I leave him the friend may not be with me anyway, he likes just being my friend and my benefit....... What do I do??????
2006-10-12 17:55:15 · 11 answers · asked by Laprincessa1182 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FIRST THING YOU NEED TO DO BE HONEST WITH YOUR
BOYFRIEND, HE DESERVE THAT SINCE HE THE FATHER
OF YOUR DAUGHTER.. AND FOR THE OTHER MAN, IF
YOU REALLY WANT TO BE WITH HIM, THEN TELL HIM
BUT BEWARE OF THE PATH THAT YOU MAY BE TAKING
THE GRASS IS NOT ALL WAY GREEN ON THE OTHER SIDE.
AND YOU HAVE A DAUGHTER TO THINK ABOUT AS WELL.
2006-10-12 18:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must be a wonderful role model for your daughter. Living with 1 man out of wedlock, screwing another "friend" without commitment, stringing both along, some fake suicide in your kitchen. I'm sure youre child is learning a lot from you-- in between the time you're spending with these 2 men.
What do you do? Getting your own apartment and some self-respect would be a good start.
2006-10-13 01:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee you really are in a sticky stituation aint you.
Be a friend to the one you were introduced to,as just remember you have a daughter to your man!!!
It usually doesnt work when you fall for someone else when your boyfriend has introduced him to you, as he is only tryig to split you but not take on commitment,it sounds like he is useing you as a shoulder to cry on,but getting sexual with him will only make things complicated, and your man needs to know who you are doing this with as you are still in a relationship with him
goodluck
2006-10-13 01:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by staffie lover from Aussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand the conflicts that go thru your mind right now........but.......my dear, I've to say you are either......... not a nice person at all... ......or just a very weak & spineless 'sub-human'!
You have lived with your boyfriend for years...............n even have a daugther with him........... does that not count for anything?
N.........the so-called friend of your boyfriend............he is
either........a true friend of your boyfriend and a gentleman in not wanting to 'further' his relationship with you (out of loyalty to your b.f.?)
or a very cunning, shrewd & smart 'predator' waiting (with the best cosmetics!) for the right time to strike!
I can only say...........WATCH OUT!!!! n be very very careful!
Why do u need to talk to this guy everyday n spend all your free time with him?............n listen & believing all his sad past???
Try this.........stop talking & seeing him for a week or so ................yes go thru the first few difficult days (difficult for you........as I believe..... you are just human............... & you have a little bug in you that craves to talk & see him everyday!)
When your mind is back to normal & rational i.e. cleared of the mumble jumble cobwebs that he had spun around it............... you may find that you dont need to talk &see him anymore.......... and in fact you may tell yourself .......why the fcuks you had to pity or sympathize or ................... give your heart & soul to a full grown man who couldnt handle his own miserable past!!!
Think of your b.f. & duaghter..........have you neglected them becoz of this 'wonderful, gentlemanly & absolutely nice friend who needed your warmth, friendship and faith'?
Wake up! You'd been charmed! Do you want to break up for some axxhole that you know you are going to dump once he takes off his mask! or you'll dump once you find another nice gentlemanly guy who needs your shoulder to lean on!
I am sure this maniac will waste no time to knocking you silly between your legs once he's got you............dumps you on the first garbbage heap when the next sympathetic feminine ear comes along.......
............any full blooded guy who acts against normal human instinct (e.g. ".......no.........I am a saint.........I dont need sex or relationship.............I just enjoy your company .........& appreciate ...........& respect your friendship".....& acts like a perfect gentleman while stealing a friend's g.f. is a clear cut case of a true predator on the prowl!
O.K. I've spoken enough...........now lets see if you are a smart girl or just another 'blonde without brains' sort of person.
2006-10-13 01:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by sandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married.
I feel very sorry for your kid because he can never enjoy a perfect family like other kids.
And she will grow up doing the same mistakes that her parents did because she never had a good example anyway...
So sorry for you...
2006-10-13 00:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a child, that is a commitment you made with eachother. I agree with aprevious poster that you should grow up and get married to your boyfriend.
2006-10-13 01:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by Dmsask 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move to a diffrent state.
2006-10-13 01:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Read n' Write 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...forget about that guy(ur bf's friend) cuz he wont date u and u know u it right? so...if u don't love ur bf anymore...then u gotta break up with him and move on...cuz whether u stay with ur bf or break up with him...his friend wont date u...so dont fall for him...
2006-10-13 01:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by /\/ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW this is a tuff one. ID try to live on my own if i were you.
2006-10-13 00:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try honesty ur screwing everybody around u.to tell u the truth i think ur a scank!
2006-10-13 01:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by sandy k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋