Ok well I have been in a correctional facilty for about 8 months now. I just got out not too long ago and I still havent seen my sister yet. Since Ive been locked up my mom told me that my sister is disappointed in me for what I have done and dont want no part of me. She used to be my best friend and we were very tight. She's coming to visit me this weekend and Im very scared and ashamed of what she thinks of me. I dont want to loose her. I want her to see past what I did. Can someone help?
2006-10-12 17:23:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yea... print out your question above and let her read it. And remember, she **is** making the trip to come see you. That should count for alot.
2006-10-12 17:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Nurcee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother should never have put it that way. Whether your sister is disappointed or not, she should have been helping you build confidence instead of putting you in an even more depressing outlook like that. You've been in a correctional facility because you did something wrong - not because you're a bad person.
My advice to you - open up to your sister. Tell her that you are sorry for disappointing her and that you are committed to being a better brother. Be honest with her. If she asks you a question, don't look all guilty and ashamed. Look her in the eyes and give her an honest answer. Show her you can be the man that God created you to be. God won't save us from punishment - he only promised to be there with us if we have to pay a consequence for what we did.
And be patient with her. She may be angry right now. If she doesn't open up to you the way you want the first time you see her then let it go and continue to be there for her. Show her that you are a responsible man now and have learned from your mistakes. Get involved in something responsible men get involved in - like being a tutor or going to church and helping people. This holiday season go help a food shelter pass out food to the homeless. Only people with hearts to change and bring good into the world will do that - and because you love your sister so much that is in you too.
Pray before she gets there. Ask God to give you the confidence to say the right words to her, and patience if she doesn't respond yet. Then keep praying for her. It's going to take patience. And if your mom starts in on you and being negative then let it go in one ear and out the other. Don't disrespect her, but don't let those negative words affect you. You are worth every effort!
Take heart kiddo - you've got what it takes.
2006-10-12 17:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by Stella Bing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you have had such a difficult time. You must be exhausted and overwhelmed. I would suggest that you let your sister start the conversation. Let her say what she has to say and try to listen quietly. She's been rehearsing her words a long time. When she's done, breathe. Then ask her to forgive you for disappointing her. Tell her you have missed her, and ask her to help you by giving you another chance. It sounds like you love each other, and you need each other in this difficult world. Good luck, and stay strong!
2006-10-12 17:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your sister truly loves you, then she will see past all your troubles, be honest don't push her to think your great right away and tell her that you are ready to put your ugly past behind you and you want her to be ready to do that to. let her know that since you have forgive yourself, she needs you to forgive you and not judge or criticize. tell her you need her there for you. the best way to do this is to give her some space but slowly talk to her. she will probably break through to you in the end. you can't change a persons ideas but you can try to. sometimes that is all that we can do. I hope that you and your sister will once again be Friends again.
2006-10-12 17:37:31 · answer #4 · answered by angela w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. Are you reformed? Will you do what you did again?
Tell her you want to earn her trust back, and ask her for a chance. Tell her that you care about her and feel badly that you dissapointed her.
Try to stay cool! You're out now and have a chance to start again without the trouble. Stay away from the people that you knew when you got in trouble, don't go around the places that you were in when you got in trouble.
2006-10-12 17:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by jfer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make people see past what you did. It's like saying I want to erase this from my past like it never happened because I feel ashamed. Eventually you may be able to gain her back by showing that you've changed. Unfortunately anytime you do something there are consequences to the actions. Some are more bearable than others.
2006-10-12 17:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by rowster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your sister she will not stray for long.Nothing can really tear the bond between siblings.You just have to stay strong let you sister know that you've paid for your mistake and learned from it as well let her know how important she is to you and that your moving on and you want her to be a part of your life
2006-10-12 17:27:23 · answer #7 · answered by smacksjones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet ? Be honest with her. Tell her what you've told us here. I'm sure she'll forgive you. She might not like what you've done, but I'm sure she still loves you. By the way, whatever you did, I hope you learned a good lesson and don't do it again. Turn your life around. It's worth it.
2006-10-12 17:26:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her what you just wrote, and be yourself, you could talk about the future and your plans. I think that it is great that you and her are about to be friends again. Stay cool and don't pity yourself
show some self-esteem and let your love for your family do the rest.
Hang in there parter
2006-10-12 17:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you made some mistakes in your life but have grown up. Tell her she means everything to you and you don't want to lose her friendship for some stupid decisions you made. Tell her what you told us. Be honest.
The truth shall set you free!
2006-10-12 17:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by MightyManMichael 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋