she said she's talked to a phsyciatrist and it didn't help. I dont know what to do about this if she does this to herself then im gona go crazy and im going crazy already she's one of the only good friends that i have left and if she goes then idk i was just starting to find my way in life but if this happens idk WHAT TO DO!!!! WHAT DO I DO!!!!!!!!! OR WHAT CAN SHE DO she said that if she gets sent to a special home then she said "im done with my life" WHAT TO DO??????????????????????
2006-10-12 16:42:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am sorry that you have to gothrough this... my friend commited suicide and none of us saw it comming. but just tell her that you love her and all of that... talk to other people she is freinds with just be there for her....show her there are still things to live for and that there is sooo much good in the world ♥
2006-10-15 14:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by Lexee M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got crisis on ur hands...
*Call hotline #
*Tell a trusted Adult
*Keep besides her at all time, and help boost her self esteem
ALWAYS tell her that her life is meant like the whole world for many people, including you. I'm so glad you're there besides her. Tell her she's not meant to be taken mistakingly, and look at all the positive blessings she has.
NEVER tell her to do what she believes in doing. It'd only make her more assure of her suicidal thoughts.
OFTEN suicidal teens/ppl DO NOT want to die, they're really crying out for help. So help her get the help she needs. And compliments here and there does not hurt. It can only help.
KEEP a look out for her, and adults are the first stop to a successful pit. Tell them no matter what. Her life is basically in your hands if you're keeping it inside.
DONT tell her shes crazy. Shes gunna like go twice as crazy if you put her up in a bad mood.
OH and calm down. If you're going crazy and she's going crazy, looks like the mental hospital for special people have two new buddies. KEEP IT CALM... talk it out.
2006-10-12 23:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by geml0vely888 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her parents and/or loved ones. She needs immediate help. Survivors of Suicide have a website with a video of their national conference where people who were left behind after a suicide talked. I watched it last year....you might want to find that site....they may have resources that you aren't aware of.
I went to a funeral a little over a year ago of a young cousin who died as a result of her own actions...my family is still grieving over her. Be glad that your friend is reaching out for help...that isn't always the case. God bless you.
2006-10-12 23:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by vgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how can i say this i'm suicidal or rather was your friend isn't in imediate danger some one that is going to kill them selves doesn't seek help and they won't put her in a special home they put suicidal people in mental hospitals in an antisuicial room where they watch you shower she may be down about life and even think on death but she doesn't understand what it means to be dead dead is not a release i was in a coma and let me tell you when i woke it was the most wonderful thing in the whole universe and babe you aren't going to go crazy if she dies your going to die inside too its going to devistate you i have lost 11 friends to suicide it cripples you it even can make you suicidal so to say that you don't know what to do there is nothing YOU can do she has to do it she has to find something in her life that is worth living for even if its a little thing it needs to be something though and only she can find it tell her you love her and talk to her why does she want to die has she had a hard life is she having problems have her email me talking to someone like her may help but remember its her choice and if she really wants to kill herself no one can stop her i know that isn't what you want to here but trust me suicidal people always find a way we think we want death but really we just don't know what we want at all and we are to scared to make a desision because we may make a mistake i was lucky someone found me in time and saved my life. my email is makingmyown@hotmail.com i am here to help you and her god bless you too talk to her if she is your good friend she might just listen love you guys
2006-10-12 23:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by going2md 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i were you, i would try and find out why she wants to "leave" this earth. and once you found that out, help her find a way to get her mind off of that. take her out of town for a weekend so she can clear her thoughts... and express how much you would miss her if she commited the suicide.
The pshyciatrist may have not worked, because, she might just need a really close friend, to just hear her out, and to know she is cared about.... with out asking for it
hope everything turns out great.
2006-10-12 23:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Refer your friend to a competent Hypnotherapist that is qualified to use Parts Therapy. This can be done after an age regression to find the true cause of the suicidal tendencies.
2006-10-14 00:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mystic-Blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you poor sweetie! So much on your shoulders! What a good friend you are to want to save your friend's life. You are in one of the worst situations known to humans. You sound quite young and have no adult that sees the depth of this problem. I don't want to sound all churchy, but when God allows a human to go through dark times it is because they (you) are so important to him. Sounds stupid, but God's way of looking at life is much different than ours. All he wants is for you to make it through this life's tests, pass, and shower you with every beautiful gift your heart could ever want. He pulls close to humans with deep hurt and pain because he knows they can understand the pain he felt. Physically, mentally and almost all of his closest friends walked out on him when he needed them most. There is demon activity and they hate for God to love a soul so they target souls with deep passions and messes with their minds. Depression and fear are actually legions of evil forces. Don't give in to their smoke screens. Nothing is as bad as it seems. When you get older like me, these times you are going through won't look the same. To get to know God just say
"If you are up there, let me get to know you...I want to."
He's very sensitive and shy so wait on him .( It's hard for him to trust humans cuz they use him when they want something, then when they get it they forget him.) He will come through. He did for me one dark night when I was ready to end my life and my friend wanted to also. You must be someone special because you are the one chosen to help your friend. If she is bipolar, this is a normal part of the illness. If she has her period or in the week before her period, it's hormonal. If it's around 12 to15 days after her period it ovulation time and that is hormonal. If you feel there is no hope please talk to an adult. It will get better and if you can get through this, you are being chosen to help others that are in pain for the rest of your life. What an incredible and valuable person you are. I am praying for you and your friend right now and will pray more. good luck and God Bless sweet sister.
2006-10-13 00:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by belladmma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please take the pressure off of yourself and ask for help from your parents. I know that I would want my daughter to tell me if she was having the same problem. You are being a wonderful friend by being concerned. But you'd be an even better friend if you helped her seek help. And I mean by telling your parents. They can get in contact with her parents or know what else to do. If all else fails ask them to call the police. I'll pray for you and your friend. God bless.
2006-10-12 23:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she gets sent to a psych ward, her life won't be over. If you aid her in getting out of being sent and she kills herself, your guilty of it too. She needs professional help and sometimes it takes being away from everything and everyone to concentrate on your own problems. Not to mention you aren't trained to do anything for her.
2006-10-12 23:46:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
offer to go to counseling with her maybe
find out what makes her sad and happy and how she deals with either and see if you can find ways to make dealing easier.
but most importantly - you need to be less dependent on her and understand how to deal with your own feelings.
Life is all about dealing with bullshit. Simple as that. You have to deal with it, and you have to find ways to deal with it in ways that are positive.
my best friend and i were like that a lot - we actually made an agreement that she wasn't allowed to kill herself if for no one's sake but mine. i don't know if that was what worked or not - but she's very happy and successful in life now - 2000 miles away from me!
2006-10-12 23:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by Chelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋