The last time I dated someone, I was 16 yrs old and it didn't work out. I'm 19 now. I have a good personality. I'm in college, have a job, a car, good friends and family, but no boyfriend. Is it because I'm a little shy or just not looking? Why can't I find a boyfriend?
2006-10-12 16:41:53 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
+ just chill and do the things that make you happy. You might try doing some things that maybe some guys like, so you can meet some. Some guys like to meet a girl at church or the like, so they know that they have some moral qualities, but you don't need to. You are not going to find too many guys at a cooking or needle point class so try something that they and you might like. How about a bike riding club or a kayaking club or a white water rafting place. Then just go and have fun. If you are enjoying yourself and approachable (I mean don't kick them just for offering you a coke or something), you will be very attractive to them and you may see them come back. A good thing to do is to show some interest in what they do. Ask about there work or where they like to go? (It does not mean you have to go there, but at least you showed that you were interested) You can always start with a comment like got enough dirt on your shoes yet? (if that's the case) or Think you can keep that clean and eat spaghetti at the same time? I think you get the idea. It may not happen all at once but eventually you will get there. SO don't sweat it and have fun.
2006-10-12 16:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by Clamdigger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only you can say it you are looking or not. If you are shy it is more than likely why you are not approached by guys.
When you are shy you give off the impression you want to be left alone. Guess what....for the most part you are.
If you are really looking you know what you are attracted to.
When you find him all you need to do is make sure he knows you are interested. This is far easier for women I think than for a shy guy because a guy will make the move. But you have to be available.
Place yourself where this guy is as often as possible. If he looks at you smile....try not to just look away. If you look away he may feel you have no interest so that will be that.
Of course you can't be too obvious but you really don't need to.
If a guy try's to talk with you, no mater how lame his pick up line, try not to run away but just talk. You may find your guy where you least expect it.
2006-10-12 16:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you said that you were not looking. What do you do to socialize? You can't meet people sitting on your couch watching TV (or your computer, unless you are Internet dating).
And you don't have to wait for guys to ask you out, you know. You can take your fate in your own hands and introduce yourself to people that you think that you might want to know.
Try not to act too needy or too desperate. Sometimes if you act too eager or too happy to meet someone who is a complete stranger, then it comes across as needy. You want to be friendly, but not so friendly that you come across as a potential stalker.
2006-10-12 16:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a little shy tends to make people a little less approachable.
just go out with some friends join different activities you like and have fun. That's when the right guy will notice you and approach when you least expect it.
2006-10-12 16:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by gypse76 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well all i can tell you that you shouldnt stress about not having a boyfriend, one day prince charming will find you but until then keep on with your studies and prepare for your future because you will need it. but just to let you now if i new you i would date you because to me you sound like a very smar,and good person,and how ever finds you first is going to be a lucky guy, just be carful with those hounds babe!!!!!
2006-10-12 16:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by jcslimer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably are a little bit of both.
Next time you see a guy you like try your best to go up to them and just talk to them.
But don't look for someone purely just to be in a relationship.
It will never work out.
Usually things just fall into place.
But, don't be too eager.
If someone likes you they will say something.
Good Luck.
2006-10-12 16:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't find one because you're simply looking too hard. If you just lived life and were happy you would find yourelf just fine. You don't need a man in your life, but some day soon he'll come and surprise you and you'll be glad you waited instead of trying to push love. I know it worked for me.
2006-10-12 16:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt worry about not being able to find a boyfriend when the right guy comes you will know!
Good luck on finding the best :)
♥Meg
2006-10-12 16:43:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got some guys attentions, but I don't think they really want you for who you are. I am a guy & I am single. I am almost 26. I have never dated. I doubt you will do a thing about my answer. I am being truthful.
2006-10-12 16:45:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all need to love and to be loved.
Most of our issues could be solved fairly easily, if we have our loved one supporting us.
If you are hurt by a former ex, well you just need to get yourself up and start searching for someone who deserves your love.
Don't ever be shy .. that won't ever help you .. and you'll have lots to lose. Do what your heart tells you it's right.
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2006-10-12 16:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋