I'm 5'11" and I've dated men who are shorter than me and I have no problem with it and neither do they, so why do people say stuff to me like "you guys look funny together" or "you don't match" and stuff like that? What's really the big deal about the man having to be taller. I'm thinking it might be a security thing, like the woman wants to feel like the man can protect her and vice versa, that the man wants to feel like he can protect the woman. Is this the reason, you think? Or do you think it's because of something else? I mean, I'm 5'11" and a black belt..... if something goes down, I'll have my man's back, you know ;o) But seriously, what do you guys think about this?
2006-10-12 16:38:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh how I'm soooo annoyed by that "c g" clown!
2006-10-12 16:41:29 · update #1
"Marty K" You don't like me because I'm a female black belt? Hey, I don't see anything wrong with a woman being able to protect herself.
2006-10-12 16:42:59 · update #2
"-bLaKe-" But that's my question though..... WHY is that considered "funny looking"? I just want people's thoughts. There's no right or wrong answer.
2006-10-12 16:44:03 · update #3
"Marty K" Me being a black belt "sickens" you? You have issues buddy!
2006-10-12 16:47:48 · update #4
"kristin" Thanks! Yeah, I'm pretty proud of it and that's great that you are going for it too. I got it while living in Okinawa. I studied Shorin-Ryu. What form are you taking/going to take? It took me 2 years (usually it takes longer). It was hard work but I worked hard and busted my booty to get it!
2006-10-12 17:00:10 · update #5
"MAtt M" Your answer was so insightful and thought-provoking. Thank you for taking the time out to answer my question :o)
2006-10-12 17:13:10 · update #6
manny, i tip my hat to you, madam...for earning your black belt...way to rock the self-defense! ;) what style, may i ask?
and as for the height question... well, i'm only 5'4", and honestly, i would feel a bit "funny" if i was with a girl much taller than i, although it really *doesn't* matter... it's just a matter of personal comfort...
as for our society... oh, my cynical views of it...hhaha....i guess they view the short dude/tall girl as, well...they're not used to seeing that...they're used to the opposite... so when an "anti-norm" strolls along, they cock their heads and drool, or make rude comments... unfortunately.
i wish it wasn't so.
i s'ppose the man-protector-factor comes into play, certainly, as that is what "expected" of us gentlemen....to care and defend our ladies... it's only chivalrous! but i must admit...it is awesome to see a couple back to back, kicking *** together... (think Mr. & Mrs. Smith! hahaha) ;)
peace always
2006-10-12 16:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by j-man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think it has to do with natural human selection, for protection but people who are uncomfortable with you being tall and someone you're with being shorter thats their own insecurities. Oh I think thats great you have a black belt, one of my goals how long did it take?
2006-10-12 23:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by k.vee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im tall my self about 5'7 and when i wear my stilettos even taller and most of the guys i date are my height or taller but i do see where your coming from as long as your comfortable the hell with everyone else.
2006-10-12 23:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by MsKay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Most of our issues could be solved fairly easily, if we have our loved one supporting us.
If you are hurt by a former ex, well you just need to get yourself up and start searching for someone who deserves your love.
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2006-10-12 23:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I guess its the thought that men should be physically stronger and better than women.
2006-10-12 23:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by Koy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a chick who was 6 ft. tall; I'm 5'7"... I thought it was totally hot, and besides we we're really into eachother...who cares
2006-10-12 23:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by Duuuude no waaaay! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just like anything else in life....that which is uncommon will be ridiculed.
2006-10-12 23:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it does look funny in some cases- think about it,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, but really nobody gives a f uck who ur with ----- so its ok
2006-10-12 23:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋