My fiancee wants to have a Bachelor Party at the strip club. I do not understand why men go have ti ts rubbed in their face, days before their wedding. I just think its wrong, he has a woman at home who he's about to marry! Bachelor party without strippers would be kewl with me but i dont want him around all kinds of naked girls. I've heard horror stories about bachelor parties. Not to mention I am pretty jeleous as it is becuase he has cheated in the past. What do I do!? I know if he had one I would be a wreck up til the wedding and I shouldnt have to be, those should be the happiest days of my life. Please help me...how can I get him to understand why i dont want him to go to a strip club? I feel so strongly about this......OH and why do men want to have a bachelor party at a strip club???
2006-10-12 16:30:02 · 13 answers · asked by faery1219 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
"OH and why do men want to have a bachelor party at a strip club???"
This is a very simple answer and you really need to think twice before you walk down and marry him.
Men who want to see naked girls prance around, giving them lap dances and explore sexual with the girls are showing they are not ready for commitment to you nor marriage. They are not ready to let go the "party days" and settle down with their up-coming wife who they should be only interested in seeing truly naked.
For a guy to want to spend money on other girls prancing around naked and think it is "acceptable" to direspect you, pretty much he isn't settled enough for marriage.
You disagree with it and he should respect it. A guy who argue's is showing he is still in his party, "girls are sexual objects" stage in life still.
simple and too the point.
It is a form of cheating and it seems he isn't doing a good job at proving he wants to be and see only you.
You don't have to explain yourself. If he goes and you still marry him, then you made your bed by accepting he did it.
I personally would say "Have strippers. Then have no wedding". as I DO NOT take disrespect from a male like that. My fiance feels the same way as me and he thinks you need to think twice on what you really want and willing to accept from your own fiance.
Seeing naked girls has nothing to do with getting married. It is just some lame excuse to go out and have free ride of being exposed to sexual situations that males can't keep their hormons in check.
2006-10-12 19:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You need to tell him clearly how you feel. Maybe he'll understand and maybe he won't, but don't just assume he won't. Also don't' feel bad about objecting to it. You are right. He doesn't have to go to a strip club or have strippers, and it's okay for you to tell him the idea bothers you. He should love you and respect you enough to consider your feelings. Of course you can't force him one way or another, but you do need to communicate. Communication is critical to your marriage.
One thing I can tell you is I got married right out of high school and my husband had never been to a strip club or had a stripper before. As for the bachelor party, he really didn't care too much one way or another. But I wanted to be the cool, confident, and secure woman, so I practically encouraged him to go. So he did end up going with his friends and didn't even enjoy it. I on the other hand was incredibly hurt and it caused unnecessary hurt for both of us. He told me right after that I should have told him not to go and he wouldn't have. Yeah that sounds crazy, but I believe him. Aside from that he's been perfectly faithful to me in every way. I forgave him and got over the whole thing, but it was my own fault for not being honest with my husband. Don't make the same mistake. Be open and honest and tell him how you feel. Don't try to impress him. Be real.
2006-10-12 16:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by Consuming Fire 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They want to have a bachelor party there for obvious reasons. I know a guy who had never cheated while he was dating his wife and then ended up getting oral sex at his bachelor party. Isn't that some bull sh*t. Not to mention he began cheating on her after they got married. You can have your own party too and tell him there will be male strippers there and see how he handles that. You can't really stop the strippers because his friends are going to pay for them anyways. I agree with you. I always dread marriage because of the bachelor party. I just don't trust them. I'm sure you have talked to him about it and if he doesn't respect your feellings on it, then there really is nothing more you can do. That's why I say if he doesn't back down, tell him you are having male strippers but don't say it in a way that it's like you are only doing it because he is...say it casually.
2006-10-12 16:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're marrying a man who cheated on you? Big mistake to start with.
We just had our parties this weekend and my fiance had private dancers. I wish he had gone to a club instead (especially because we had discussed and it was not supposed to happen). I can tell you honestly, from experience, that it's not the girls in the club you have to be concerned with, it's the girls who do private shows that are a threat. I know because I used to bartend in the clubs.
But he should respect you and not go to a strip club.
2006-10-12 16:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you then he won't jeopardize the relationship. A stripper is a person doing their job like anyone else. Tell him to go out with the guys and have a good time...........but tell him to remember that he has to live with any decisions that he makes......and there could be severe consequences..........then hope for the best! Go out with the girls the same night and don't think about him. Have some clean fun..........it'll be your last 'free' night out!
2006-10-12 16:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by njsueb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men see the bachelor party as a tradition. Me? I would trust my man to go. If he had cheated on me? That would be a different story. But I wouldn't marry someone I didn't trust. If he knows it bothers you that much, he should be willing to skip the strip club for the sake of your sanity. Be careful though, you may drive him to just lying to you about it.
2006-10-12 16:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I almost don't know what to say... This is just crazy.
I take my man to the strip club on a regular basis and as soon as I see someone that we both thinks attractive I get him a dance. A lot of times the girl will dance on or for me and he will watch, and going home is then a GREAT time cause he loves it.
As far as your insecure feelings, good luck!
2006-10-12 16:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by UNapologetic! 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well just out of fun I actually set up a stripper for my husbands party. I had his best friend come with me to help pick her out. It was a total surprise and he loved it. They do get wild and they do touch. But he never cheated on me before and if he did that night what I don't know hasn't hurt our relationship. I know he hasn't after that night,
G'LUCK :o)
2006-10-12 16:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by timidlady2003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i didnt care that my man went to a strip club before our wedding, but he has never cheated and we have no trust issues. if you really dont trust him then why are you marrying him? a relationship without trust has no chance of thriving.
2006-10-12 16:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by moluvsmark 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-28 02:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋