I've spent years looking for my father, who I've never met. I'm about 98% sure that the phone number and address I have finally located are his but I cannot make myself call or write. I think I'm afraid that he may reject me again. Has anyone felt this way and how did you get past it to make the call?
2006-10-12 16:25:27 · 15 answers · asked by dodgecitykitty1966 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i also was in similar situation..a guy i have never seen in my entire life and i wanted to knwo him for starts...till today that phone number is with me i havent called him...if u are able to do it then do let me know...i am feeling he will never accept me...but in my heart i just want to see him even for once....wish........
2006-10-12 16:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by Vinny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt this way. I didnt know my father, at the time 17 yrs. I was about 6 months to getting married, and I thought he would like to know. I finally called after hours of dialing and hanging up, finally I allowed someone to pick up, and simply asked for him. When he got on the phone, I said, hello, you may not remember me, but im your daughter shawna. He sounded so happy to hear from me. I tried to call back a little before my wedding, and his wife of nine yrs said not long after he talked to me, he took off and never went back. I finally got over it. I have a step dad that loves me very much. Besides, my mom raised me, and I am just proud I had her.
2006-10-12 23:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by lil_carebear2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father left after 40 years and my mother never knew what happened.
My uncle found and address and I sent a letter.
He wrote back, asking to meet.
We met him three Easter ago in Healdsburg.
They got back together.
I sent the letter with a way to create a layer of deniability, because whether it was him or not, it was never for me, but for my mother
2006-10-12 23:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son in law saw his name on the internet and thought it was his birth mom looking for him, he responded but it was his stepsister, and he found out his mom had been murdered, but it was her last and only wish to find him, as she never wanted to give him up, but her parents made her. so the meeting with the stepsister was sort of a bittersweet thing, and sort of sad knowing he would never get to meet his birth mom, but it touched his heart that she had him in her every thought. i would make the call even it it meant rejection, because you will always wonder about the outcome if you don't make an effort.
2006-10-12 23:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very iffy situation. Just know that whatever happens you searched for it. Things can be great after that phone call or they can be hell. Just be prepared either way.
2006-10-12 23:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by UNapologetic! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just write down what you want to know just in case you forget. Then go for it . You won't be happy until you find out what could be instead of what could have been.
2006-10-12 23:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't reach out...he was dead by the time I was 23, never shed a tear.....If you want him in your life make the call.
2006-10-12 23:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's your father!
i bet he misses you too!
but im only 12 years old, and my parents never had issues. I have never had issues either, with my parents.
How long have you been far apart?
sorry about your situation TT,TT
2006-10-12 23:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so proud of you! Your Grand kids certainly have a perfect roll model in their life!
2006-10-13 01:06:28 · answer #9 · answered by GoneByDawn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes but luckily I was able to lose them again
2006-10-12 23:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋