Ever since i was a teenager it has never been an issue to have a one night stand, also for that reason it is hard for me to find a real boyfriend....I never considered myself "easy" it's more like, if I liked the way it feels- go with it. I never really said No, not even to the ugly guys... so after it was over I would get up first & just be like nothing really happened or no big deal.... BUT this weekend I was on the Strip, met a really cute guy & his 2 friends, they asked if I could give them a ride to thier car, the friends got out & drove away, we stayed in the car talking.. 1 thing led to another & I went back to his hotel room , we did NOT have sex... for some reason this was the first time I actually said no & stuck with it.. I went home & then I thought about him all this week...no real answer to this question, just give me your thoughts.....thanks for reading....
2006-10-12 16:25:03 · 8 answers · asked by growupandgetoveritnow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was just in town for the weekend & I gave him my #, I really doubt he would call, it been almost a week. in fact Im kinda glad he didnt give me his #, I probably would have called him the next day.
2006-10-12 16:32:42 · update #1
Possibly because you dont have any expectations of ever finding a love match, and this helps prevent you from feeling hurt and misunderstood. You enter this situation and leave as if it didn't happen and as if you don't have the desire to be close and loving with another person. I agree, it is hard to allow yourself the time to develop feelings, feel compassion, loving desire, burning passion, and finally have wild, sentious, and out of this world sex in a relationship you both have taken time to develop and also face the chance that you may still lose the first person you waited to put your heart out on the line for.
My girlfriend a few years back, educated, great personality & figure, positive outlook and pretty had it all going for her, but for some unknown reason she wasnt finding love, marriage, family , just jerks that went wacko after 3 months time and quit showing respect and compassion. She thought long and hard and she came to the conclusion that this time she would wait 3 months to have sex with the next man she found desirable to date. She knew she had a probelm holding back and usually gave it up within a couple dates and she figured that was getting her nowhere. (We have all heard about people married yrs & yrs that had sex right from the beginning, yada, yada, yada). The next guy came along and she waited almost the full 3 months and marriage followed a year later. The main point is that she did find a compassionate man who had the opportunity to appreciate her beauty from the inside out.
I, like you, have had those times when I second guessed myself, if I had fallen into his arms or been more sexy maybe he would have called....but the truth is, he is probably a shallow person that wouldn't have called you either way. One thing I know for sure, sex is so much better when you have a bond and trust with the person you are sharing yourself with. Maybe you could try this?
2006-10-12 16:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by willyrabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women find sex comes with an emotional attachment. Some women do not associate love and sex so closely, like me. Sex is just a physical thing. Love is an emotional one. I don't connect the two that closely, but I know some women (and some men) who disagree. Everybody's different. That's all.
2016-05-21 21:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitly know how you feel.
I was never a loose girl, but after being hut in so many relationships and with the person I gave my virginity to... I lost the emoption attached to sex. I seperated sex and love until I met my current boyfriend. Instead of immediatly doing anything sexual, I waited until the last possible moment.
What was great was that, while we weren't prematurely having sex, we created a real honest respect and trust for the other. Now its a year later, and I am in a strong and committed relationship, with someone I love.
It's called growing up. Keep going with how you feel. Learn about this guy, let him get to know the internal you first. Maybe you've met a great guy!
2006-10-12 16:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by moderncutthroat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would appear that you have no respect for your self. otherwise you would consider you well being at the very least. You said nothing about protection, or the fact that you do not know anything about the men you bed. You are very fortunate that you have not been hurt, perhaps you attitude gives them no need to overpower you as you just lay back and let things happen. You apparently have no fear and nothing to loose but your life, and that is a very sad state of affairs, as for suggestions I am all out of ideas sorry
2006-10-12 16:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way, and the same thing happened to me. I met a guy and we actually dated for awhile BEFORE having sex, I am marrying him next year. Anyways, I always found it easier to have no strings attached sex as well. Theres nothing wrong with it, and you seem to be aware of when there is or might be something more and you acted accordingly. I say your perfectly fine, have fun with this guy and see where it leads.
2006-10-12 16:29:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it might be you dont really value sex. Or cherish it. You just think of it as something you do to feel good. But maybe if you start thinking about it as something special that you do with someone you really care about you wouldnt want to have sex with random guys. For me, sex is emotional because i only share it with someone i love. You can always start somewhere. Start making sex special to you and see where it takes you....just a thought....good luck!
2006-10-12 16:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by amtech33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have been neglected and want to be loved, even if it's just sex. You sound like you need some confidence and have little to no self-esteem.
2006-10-12 16:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM baby plz
2006-10-12 16:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by SKINNY BONES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋