In a relationship, I often find that the arguments, bad emotions and breakups happen because of talking too much about everything (especially those things that are very negatively emotional). Most psychologists would agree that the problem is that we need to communicate MORE. Do you agree, or should we avoid talking sometimes? Explain.
2006-10-12 16:15:10 · 11 answers · asked by DN 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is a common misconception about the term, "talking". Your use "communicate" Is a a far better one. We frequently see complaints from girls that she is talking TO her man but he doesn't' communicate. She should be talking WITH her man; that is, carrying on a conversation that involves two-way listening, and not just one way "talking to".
Communication implies more than talking; it includes body language, and behaviors.
Words can mean one thing, but behaviors can betray the deceit in those words.
A common complaint is that girls want to talk an issue to death; boring the crap out of their guy. We have to be more tolerant of the female need to share every detail, while gently letting them know what we need to hear, and what is irrelevant!
2006-10-12 16:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only talk when your calm and have actually thought about what your arguing about.
if not, when you do have the fights, and you dont calm down... \
vicious things are said and feelings are hurt...
i think too much talking gets you no where- you just end up talking about how mad you are and repeating what was wrong... and what was or wasn't said or did..and more often then not you fight about what was said during the fight
so my final answer is- not so much to avoid the situation, but avoid the extra drama and take some time to think about the argument
2006-10-12 23:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by areyoureadyb? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you communicate if you don't talk?How can you fix a problem without admitting you have one?For a couple to move on to the next level of the relationship you HAVE to talk.
2006-10-12 23:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, depends on the matter. If you guys are both being negative and not solving the problem, you guys should leave each other alone until both sides cool down.
2006-10-12 23:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by Your Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that talking is bad however, HOW you talk about things can be bad. If you want to discuss a subject and you tone of voice sounds nasty, then the partner will take a nasty tone back.
2006-10-12 23:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by acedelux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is to balance it; don't talk about it immediately cuz everyone's still pissed at each other, but don't let them go sleep on it cuz then it's cemented as hurt, which then builds into later problems when people don't let things go.
2006-10-12 23:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by Startoshadows 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know a certain topic upsets one or brings up unpleasant emotions- only bring it up if you have to- and try to resolve as easy as possible- try to meet each other half way if it is reasonable-otherwise it is probably best to leave it alone-D
2006-10-12 23:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by Diane W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk! You just have not found that right person that will sit and listen till you fix your issues in a clam rational way.
2006-10-12 23:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by dots_1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
psychologists? do you even know these buggers like family? if you dont, i suggest you just stick to your own heart and brain in deciding whats right for the relationship.
2006-10-12 23:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends, if the other party is on fire, you should stay away for a while, judge the situation before deciding to talk to her/him.
2006-10-12 23:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋