am i suffering social anxiety disorder?

Question

im i having this disordr?i kinda hate myself.i know im a serious person,but i can be a cheerful person most of the time,but i dont know whats wrong wit me,my friends,dont respect me,like they dont care what am i saying.if i talk to them,they just simply nodd thier heads,then dont say anything and then just turn away and talk to someone else.it hurts my feeling.i feel bad about myselt.what a pathetic.am i not mature thats why they dont want to listen to me?or maybe im not funny,i made bad jokes?all of my classmates are cheerful,except me.when i try to be like them,i just cant be...now im thinking bad bout myself.maybe i dont know how to talk to people.whn i was in early teenage,i seldom socialise cuz i kept studying.i spent most of my time raeding.but surely im not a nerd,i like socializing,it just that i didnt have time n now,a cant talk and not fun like any other teenagers of my age.im not fun..im afraid to make friends n be with my classmates cuz im afraid they ll get bored.help me

actually i used to get gred results in secondary school.best student.but now whan im here,college,i feel like im not mature enough compared to others.im now one of those who are unactive students

Answer 1

Making friends can be hard but being your self is the key to keeping real friends. You are a person with qualities all your own learn to identify them and love them. Alot of people aren,t funny or as outgoing as some others and alot of people tell rotten jokes(me for one). If you feel down in the dumps alot seek help. Tell your doctor, he or she can help.
Not everyone is the Social Butterfly types that some are-- don,t stress over it. Just do what is fun for YOU.
If socializing is hard for you then practice doing it ,you,ll get better at it if you become comfortable with it. Find your comfort zone . Chill out your cool--your you!!!!

Answer 2

I thought , and know I am unusually shy. However, to compound that...I used to get physically ill.... when I had to address people publicly, or speak in front of people. That made my life a nightmare, as I used to be a 'security design consultant', and had to do presentations, and teach groups on a regular basis. Earlier in life.... High school years, I was involved in music, and was never able to sing solos, or anything of that nature...and I had always thought music would be my life. Today...I work as a card dealer in a Resort Casino. Am 49 years old, and have to mentally prepare to walk out on the floor, and stand in front of the players. A ritual I have to do after every break. It is as difficult today, as it was 35 years ago. Will I ever overcome it...I doubt it. Does it control me...YES, to some degree. But I no longer have to throw up, before I have to go to my assigned table......... You are not alone..... just work thru it as far as you can. I minor step forward is a HUGE advance.

Answer 3

I've had this problem too. It was so stressful to be part of a conversation that I told myself it was okay not pretend to be funny or pretend to be cool. I decided that being myself was the best thing. I got a lot of friends that way. Just be yourself and you'll find out who your real friends are. It's not that you're not funny or not cool or not mature--you may just have to speak up a bit. dont talk so softly. Let it be known that what you have to say is important. If people cut you off, make an attempt to say it again.

Answer 4

It sounds like you have absolutely no confidence in yourself at all. I believe that you do have social anxiety disorder and you also sound extremely depressed too.

Have you gone to a therapist to talk about your problems? If not maybe you should. I believe that the Therapist will recommend you seeing a Psychiatrist for you to be put on medication for your problems. There is more going on inside of you than what you think.

If you read what you wrote everything in it is negative. Your friend don't like you, you are not funny, and the list goes on and on.

Do yourself a favor and have one of your parents make an appointment with a Psychiatrist so that you may start feeling better about yourself. I hope that with therapy you can get rid of that negative attitude. Good Luck

Answer 5

First don't ever try to be like someone else. Always be yourself.
There is nothing wrong with liking to read and study. You cant expect others to warm up to you if you dont like yourself. If your friends ignore you then they really arent worth your time any way and find some new friends. Join some after school clubs or since you are good at reading and like doing so you can always help out tutoring some kids with their reading and doing so you will meet all kinds of new people. Maybe the kids you now talk to act like that with you but others wont. Just be yourself and try not to force yourself on people and since you do alot of reading you must know alot of interesting things so why would others be bored? You dont have to be funny for people to like you either . You just have to be your self.

Answer 6

It sounds like u r young, and do not worry. U have outgrowed ur classmates--probably a super IQ. Do not worry, a year or two u will not care.
U sound like u are on a different level than the rest...........I was a loner in school--but A grades no problem.
It did not matter to me, because I was a loner at home also---all felt normal so I learned to be a loner.
Don't worry, as soon as u enter college it will be in your favor.
Remember to pick and choose whom u want to associate with, u r doing great, so try to cope and take control of your life.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

whoa!! slow down!! it sounds to me like you are thinking about this way to much!! first of all, be yourself no matter who u are around, trying to impress people will only harm you in the long run, you'll eventually grow tired of it and then (like now) you'll be so stressed about it that you'll actually lose sleep over something like this. Be who you know how to be and the friends that are right for you will naturally flock your way. Being around people who share your same interest is really what you're going for anyways right? so BE YOURSELF!!! and you'll be a lot happier

Answer 9

Please ask your parents to help you find a suitable mental health professional. You need to see a therapist or psychiatrist. Us yahoos are not qualified to help you.
However, I will give you some hope. Things do get better with time and work in therapy.

BTW: Yes you are suffering anxiety and depression (not sure if it's social anxiety).

Answer 10

the first answer was the best, go get help. i have the same problem but iam different i can take care of myself so if you can not figure it out yourself go get help.