How do i handle this?

Question

Im a fashion design major. I love clothes and i know clothes. Sometimes i may dress different but thats because i like it and i dont care what anyone thinks. Usually it comes in style a few months later anyway. Well i have a boyfriend and we were going to go out tonight. I came over wearing flat tall brown leather boots. And he looked down and was like those are ugly. First of all guys dont know anything about fashion. Second of all i do. Third of all that is rude. He has no right to tell me what is cute or not. He said he didnt want to go out anymore. And he finally told me it was because of my boots. We got into a huge fight. Oh and i used to tell him what i didnt like about his clothes he would wear but...im a girl...thats what we do. Besides, im good at it. And he did need some help. But i just think he was completley out of line. Thats just one thing you dont do, tell your girlfriend, especially who is a fashion major, that she doesnt know how to dress. What do i say to him

Answer 1

Short version : I bag his clothing choices all the time, he dared to question mine once - I want vengeace!
(Did I miss anything?)

Get over it.

Answer 2

Just because you are a fashion major doesn't make you an expert. I'm guessing that if your boyfriend told you the boots were ugly, they probably are, guys usually don't pay that much attention to clothing and accessories. Then again maybe he wanted to make you mad so he wouldn't have to go out with you. Maybe there is something more going on than just your ugly boots?!?

Answer 3

Just because you are a fashion major does not make you an expert. In fact, he is the expert here. I wouldnt have gone out and said those are ugly, but he is your man, and he is the one person most interested and best suited to judge how you look. He wants you to look good cos it makes him feel good. Who cares what you are going to school for, he is the one you are with. So what you say is that you understand all of what I just said, but in the future it would be nice if he was a little more tactful about it. And realize just cos you think something is nice looking does not mean everyone has to.

Answer 4

First off it's not what you should say to him...You've said enough already. Too much in fact. You find it rude and uncooth for him to say he thought your boots were ugly...but it is okay that you do just because you're a fashion design major? You sound mighty full of yourself and vain if not rude and uncooth yourself. I think you should look in the mirror and realize that you can't throw stones at glass houses. Not trying to be rude to deary....but I think you seriously need to focus more on how your portray yourself as a person and your additude before you play the "he was wrong" card.

Answer 5

It may not be right that he came out and said "that's ugly", but maybe he just got sick and tired of your criticism and wanted to give you a taste of your own medicine. You need to calm down with this fashion-nazi stuff. You also need to tell him that you're sorry that you've picked on him for something as small as how he dresses. If he likes his clothing and you like him, it shouldn't matter.

Answer 6

Apparently you were ragging him on his lack of your "fashion sense" and it was a little payback. You need to learn a little tolerance and maturity. If you care about him, apologize and he will likely do the same thing. If not, blow him off.
Make a deal with him, neither of you will rag each other about your outfits. Or is that asking too much?
P.S. Get over yourself, when you enter the real world you are going to find yourself among the platoon of unemployed fashion majors and rejection will be a daily fact of life. You don't appear equiped for that.

Answer 7

Maybe he honestly didn't like it regardless of what you think is "in". If the "in" thing is putting 1,000 bandaids on your body, are you going to do it and expect some other reaction than hating it?

He may have been a little immature about how he said it, but at least he was being honest. Would you have rather he lied and then made fun of you behind your back with everone else?

I'll take Honesty for $100, Alex....

Answer 8

well my dear, just because you are a fashion major and you know clothes does not mean that everyone will like it. you had no problem telling him what you liked about what he had on, so why should it be a problem the other way around? if you are planning on remaining a fashion major may i suggest that you learn how to deal with what is called constructive criticism. and get over your self!!!

Answer 9

I think you are right. A ton of guys don't know how to dress. Their moms have been picking out clothes for them probably even up to the age of 13. I think he was out of line especially saying he wouldn't even go out with you. It's one thing to think your boots are ugly and it's another thing to tell you he's embarassed of being with you out in public. I think you should tell him straight up what he did was wrong and hurtful and then not talk to him for a couple days..make him think over the crap he said..

Answer 10

its just boots!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that might be why he told u he wanted to brake up but there is more to it than that. if a man really loves u and cares about u he can over look some ugly boots. i think there is something deep down that he is not tell u.

Answer 11

Wow, well I don't know any guys that are seriously into that, and I don't know anyone but extreme feminists that would break up because of it, so i'm going to say there's another reason he's trying to break up with you, and is hiding it (rather poorly, though) behind shoes. If you want to try to see what it is go ahead, but be aware that it might hurt.