My sisters a drug addict..intervenous drugs, she has 3 kids but doesn't have them anymore.there dad has them, sleeps at a crack shack, steals to support her habit, is wanted by the police on warrants for not appearing in court..has already been in jail twice..I'm her younger sister by 15months..My question is because I know shes killing herself and am sickly worried about her , should I turn her in?..also because of where I live (small city) why haven't the cops picked her up yet, they know who she is..I try to stay out of her life cause she won't take advice or listen to anyone..any one have similar experiences?
2006-10-12 15:40:28 · 9 answers · asked by tazzle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know how you feel, my mother is a drug addict and has been for many years. She no longer has my two youngest siblings but only because I was the one that spoke up and had them placed in a foster home. I know this sounds bad but it was the best decision I have ever made. My sisters are safe, happy and their "foster parents" are really great people. As far as my mother "killing" herself....well this is her choice and nothing I say or do will change her mind about drugs. You cant force her to do anything, If she really wants to quit than it has to be when she is ready...she has to really want it. If you turn her in all thats gonna do is sober her up for a short period of time. I know that you are worried about her because I worry too and I wonder everyday if today is the day that I get the phone call...telling me my mom is gone. My only advice is to stay strong and worry about her children more because they are the ones that this is going to affect most.
2006-10-12 16:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by cassandra_aiyana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As bad as you want to turn her in don't. Your sister is an adult even though she may be an irresponsible one. She will have to answer to herself, and in a situation like this no intervention will really work until she's tired herself of living that life style! However, if it is absolutely important that you do something I would say find her (I am sure you know her where abouts) take her home clean her up and encourage her to do what's right (turn herself in and get clean) and give her a deadline (about 2 days tops) to make the decision and if she chooses other than what you expect then you can write her off and don't assist her in anyway (other wise you'll be an enabler). Addiction is a deceased mind, step in and do what your heart tells you and good luck. May blessing be upon you and your sister, prayer works in mighty ways, if your sister refuses to heed God's message (your the vessle for his message) than in due time she will but only after God humbles her (if you know what I mean).
2006-10-12 16:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately turn her in. It is called tough love. She will not be happy with you when it happens. If she were to clean up her act, she will then understand. Tough love is probably the hardest thing to do. We want to help those that we love, but to do the right thing can be painful all around. In the long run, it is worth it.
Sounds like she needs to be put in detox. Have you done an intervention on her?
There is a lot of facts that are not know here so I am answering the best I can with the info you gave.
Hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-12 15:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by Scrapper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is going to die. If telling the cops where she is gives her another chance to save herself then go for it. If you don't, when she does die, you are going to feel like you should have.
And I hope someone has told you that this is not your fault. At this point your sister is beyond able to control herself, but there isn't anything you could have ever done about it. Just love her and stay the hell away from her life. I'm sorry for your pain.
2006-10-12 15:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to Naranon - a 12 step program for friends & families of those addicted to narcotics. It should be listed in the phone book, perhaps under self-help. Or ask your local Alcoholics Anonymous meeting if they have info re that. If not, go to Alanon - for family & friends of alcoholics.
The -anon groups will have a lot of experience with dealing with addicts.
Good luck.
2006-10-12 17:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are truly in a heart breaking situation, and my heart goes out to you and her children. You can't make her care for herself. If you can call her and remind her, that you love her, that's about all you can do, unless she comes to you. I am not saying, give her money because it sounds like she would get a temporary fix, and then keep coming back for money. You can love her children and do whatever you can for them. I know they must be hurting. Take care of you. It doesn't sound like the local authorities are going to do anything. You "might" get some insight from the local AA chapter closest to you.
2006-10-12 16:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know if ur story is 4real or not but i live in a very snall town also and i have a sister on drugs w/kids just like u yes i turned her into the police and i felt bad 4awhile but now i know shes getting the help she needs shes currently been in jail for84days and its like i have my sister back finally
2006-10-12 15:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by sandy k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not going to change unless she wants to. If you turn her in and she finds out it was you, you will only alienate her more. You may want to stay on good terms with her so she knows that she can come to you if she decides to get clean.
2006-10-12 15:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would check her into rehab. She'll Thank u in the long run. :<)
2006-10-12 16:41:38 · answer #9 · answered by bob s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋