I am feeling real sad and blue right now. first i was very very pissed off but now i am just so hurt and heart broken. my best friend that i have known and loved from childhood has just told me that she has been having an affair with my husband but wants to come clean and stop seeing him. what do i do?
2006-10-12 15:33:32 · 18 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry to hear about your situation. there is no reason to fight your feelings of hurt and heartache. you have every right to feel the way you do. give yourself some time and when you're ready, you'll be able to smile or laugh again.
hey at least you'll have two less xmas gifts to shop for.
2006-10-12 15:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by cst3e 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is quite a predicament. I think you should have a talk with the both of them and work things out. Maybe all three of you should visit a family counsellor if you feel as though you won't be able to handle them by yourself face to face...I know you probably want to settle your mind right now even though you can't help but to think about it so I'll tell you something that I found funny today...I was in my Management class, it was review for the final so it only lasted for an hour, anyway my friend missed the class and she called me right as the professor marked her as "absent'...I started laughing when I answered the phone and my professor asked if it was her cause she was the only one missing. Now, my professor is a hip old man, or so he thinks, so he asked me for the phone and said to my friend "yo, what da dealio, where are u?"....I was cracking up, I can't believe he did that...lol
2006-10-12 15:44:33 · answer #2 · answered by BaBy K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That makes me sad too. What deceit!
You are undoubtedly far more worthy than this ****!
You have to confront your hubby ( jerk #1) and inform him that he has violated a sacred vow that he took, and he is obviously not a man of his word. A man only has his word, and if it's no good, then he is no good, and undeserving of your respect.
You now have legal and religious grounds for a divorce.. . .if that's what you want.
Sure wish I could say something to cheer you up, dear, but this is a tough one! You will get through it, though! You need to talk it out with your minister, a counselor, or another good friend. Call your mother, and cry on her shoulder; that's what mom's are for! She'll understand.
2006-10-12 15:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, lose the husband. Then, find new friends. You will grieve for both -- especially the friend. Seek counseling, keep yourself busy with work or other things. Maybe take a trip and meet some new people.
2006-10-12 15:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by bibliophile31 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry to hear that...
What I do to cheer myself up is go to google video search and search for puppies, or kittens, or babies....
There are some really cute videos in there that really make me smile.
Best Wishes
p.s. this is my favorite puppy one: http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-2336001057263201649&q=puppies
---there is a longer version out there
2006-10-12 15:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, killing people comes to mind but having been thru it I can tell you to get out now. Cheaters don't change, they just get better at hiding it. Oh yea, he will probably twist it around and make you think it is YOUR fault, that is how cheaters work.
2006-10-12 15:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least she was honest with you but that totally blows. Take you hubbys toothbrush and rub it in the toilet. I know it is cruel, but you will smile when he comes out of the bathroom in the am.
2006-10-12 15:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by DBL L 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think all three of you need to sit down and get everything settled on this.
I am sorry for your circumstance; I cannot imagine the sense of double betrayal you are feeling.
2006-10-12 15:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
neither of them deserve your tears. loose them both. i do feel your pain and its just a process that we all need to go through to heal.i hope all works out. i know you might not want to do this but how bout going out with some real friends and hook up with some nice man for the night only. that was my cure when it happened to me. remember to, not to go back. they are old news
2006-10-12 15:47:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
in the eyes of the lord no matter wut a person does he says u should forgive them. for they will pay for there sins when comes judgement day. so you can TRY to forgive her with all your heart and exept her appology while also seeing if you can keep your hate and anger inside as much as you can.and this is NOT TARZAN this is his friend just so you kno. k? most guys would tell you to forget your friend but remember friends r forever no matter wut. besides she will see how bad of a friend she was compared to you. LOVE YOUR NEW FRIEND INEZ i have my own too incase you ever want to talk. just look me up.k?
2006-10-12 15:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by tarzan 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋