My parents just recently found out i'm bi, but they wont accept it. They think i might be confused or just think that because i hang out with some gays/lesbians. They also wont believe it because i've gone out with 11 girls...and they always see me talking with girls and giving them hugs. What can i do to make them understand that i'm not confused???
2006-10-12 15:29:07 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your parents have a perspective that you don't have. They have experience and a whole lot more trips around the block than you have in your brief life. However, from your perspective, like all kids, you think you are wise. You'll find out years from now what a foolish kid you are now, but right now no one can convince you. Right now you are clearly on the path toward homosexuality. No parent who loves their kids want them to be gay. A parent who sees this happen to their beloved child will feel anguish and heartbreak. They'll still love the child but you have brought pain to them. Of course, you don't care. It is all about "me". It is only about "me". Parents are the pits. The real truth is you are looking for acceptance (or love) in all the wrong places. Like any head strong child, you will pursue this path until calamity strikes. And calamity will strike. Parents don't take pleasure in seeing a child in pain. Your parents are only hoping that you will snap out if this. You on the other hand are determined to prove you are gay and not confused. Bi, my foot! The perversion will win out. I don't condemn you either. Perversion always wins out if we flirt with it. But it is not free. There is a price to pay. Of course there is. My advice to you is to do a complete 180 and save yourself a ton of grief. What good is this advice if you pay attention to it too late?
2006-10-12 15:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't. People will see what they want to see. I am sorry your parents are not accepting who you are. It takes a lot of courage to come out to someone and they are letting you down when you needed their support the most.
It may take time or it might even take never for them to admit to you and to themselves that you are a functioning individual who simply does not fit their mold of a normal person.
I strongly suggest you go to http://www.pflag.org/
PFLAG.org: Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
They can help you talk to family members and be a support system even if no one else will.
Good luck.
2006-10-12 15:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not going to convince them until they have had time to let it sink in. my neice is a lesbian and my sister to this day says she is confused and we have known for a couple years now. i knew a long time ago but she hadn't admitted it to the family at that time. eventually they will choose to accept the fact that you are bi or they will reject it forever. honestly there isn't much you can do.
2006-10-12 15:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by ohiocaglehead 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do your parents even need to know all about your sexuality. I mean really, who really cares what someones sexual preference is??? I don't sit around all day wondering who or what everyone is screwing. Take up a hobby or sign up for some classes--in fact, suggest your parents worry about their own sexuality---do something productive with your time. We didn't invent sex---IT HAS BEEN AROUND FOREVER! Good luck to you!
2006-10-12 15:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by MicG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people do not really understand what it means to be bi.
"Well, can't you choose one over the other?"
You may need to sit down with them and explain this in terms they can grasp, but don't go into sexually explicit stories.
2006-10-12 15:34:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time... They are just dealing with it. Once they see nothing has changed after a few months or even years they will realize they were wrong and see that you mean it.
2006-10-12 15:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by Some Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't understand, or accept, what they don't know.
Give them time. You can't make them accept it, you can't make them believe it. They need to come to terms with that in their own way and in their own time. Sooner or later they will understand that you are not confused, you are who you are, which is their child.
2006-10-12 15:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say mom and dad i luv girls and guys i and u have 2 deal with my decisions because i have a life 2 and i want it 2 be perfect by living guys and girls
will u go out wit me i am bisexual 2
2006-10-12 15:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by ALEX R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry which you're have kin worry and that they are ruling you existence. i become raised as a born lower back Christian and as quickly as I got here out it become not common and nevertheless is at cases. i think of that at 22 you're able to desire to be making steps on your own existence and as long as you're under your mothers and dads roof they are able to regulate what you do or the type you reside. shifting out would be not common and you're able to desire to easily be optimistic you are able to stay on the money which you get without help out of your loved ones, as they're going to greater suitable than probable with draw their help. As for shifting bypass state to be with your GF no count if it quite is what you opt for then do it existence is to short to be denied happiness. Make your plans organize how and what you would be taking value all of it up and then whilst it quite is time tell them and supply them all of the small print of the place you would be staying and touch information tell them you will call each night so they know you're risk-free. Then decrease the touch and luxuriate on your new existence packed with adventures.
2016-11-28 02:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've told them what your sexual orientation is you have to let it go.
Understand that they love you but they have to regroup and see a side to you they weren't aware of.
You've known how you are for a long time....give them time to catch up.
2006-10-12 15:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋