I've been with my husband for 4 years. Then I saw my ex drive by me the other day, and my stomach lurched. Despite knowing that we are totally wrong for eachother and I could never have a good life with him, I'm still haunted by wondering how my ex is doing. Someone told me that you never forget your first love because the feelings are NEW and therefore seem more intense. Ok, I acknowlege that. But I was with my ex for 3 years, and never had any closure when it ended. Would I feel better by calling him out of the blue and getting some closure, or would it do more harm than good? As much as I love and am attracted to my husband, there was this intensity and connection with my ex, yet this nagging voice that he was the wrong guy for me. Ugh, I feel so stupid. Has anyone gone thru this?
2006-10-12 15:20:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PS my ex and I never even came close to sex. my husband is the only one.
2006-10-12 15:26:14 · update #1
Don't go backwards. You sound as though you have a nice life. Sometimes in stessfull times it is easy to think about that first intense relationship. That flip flop felling is because you had no closure. But do you want to hurt your husband to have it?
If you have run into him once you will run into him again. Next time wave down the street at some fantom person, when he looks your way, turn on your hells and WALK away. No matter what he does to try to get your attention...keep walking, you made the right choice.
2006-10-12 15:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by Beamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, was the sex that good? My advice is let it out but let your conscience know that HE is just a PLAY THING ok. DOnt let your hormone get attached to him. Look at him as a S.e.x Slave.
I know that is also called infidelity but if you can keep a secret and THINK it THAT WAY. You will be a stronger person knowing that YOU have the power here to control your life and HIS. Hence, OTHERS too!
2006-10-12 22:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by savio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. Believe me, don't do it. Remember why you two broke up? Yeah, it still hurts and he hasn't changed, you can't expect him to. Are you happy in your marriage? Is your husband a good man? Then don't give all that up just for a rush an connection with your ex. Good men are hard to find, I know. He's not worth it or you'd still be with him.
2006-10-12 22:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by Snickle Beast 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I truely believe that in order for anyone to move on, you have to have some sort of closure. If you think it would help you, give him a call and find out what you need to know.
2006-10-12 22:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just forget about him. That is the closure. I'm sure your husband would be happier that way than if you contacted him. Good Luck!
2006-10-12 22:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved with your ex in any shape or form. You will hurt your husband beyond what you can believe. Is it worth jeopardizing your future for a few minutes of curiosity. I think not.
2006-10-12 22:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a hurry to end your marriage I would suggest calling your "ex". If not, steer clear. You've already traveled that road to disaster.
2006-10-12 22:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your curiousity and sense of depravation are fueling a dangerous scenario, that can threaten your current happiness and leave you feeling cheap and empty.
Stay away!
2006-10-12 22:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you are stupid, dont call your ex unless you want to get get a divorce
2006-10-12 22:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by maxtrolle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him. I have had every serious ex call me and everytime I wish they wouldn't have.
2006-10-12 22:22:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋