I am 38 (female) and there is this hot little 25 year old(male) that calls and flirts. He called tonight and wants to hook up for tomorrow. Am I stupid to think it s for more than just one thing? I have been divorced and without any type of affection since Jan. 06 and he has been divorced and without since Feb. 06. Or do you think we just need to use each other as a **** buddy and try not to engage emotions. Help
2006-10-12 15:14:48 · 44 answers · asked by Stacy W 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He worked for me at a previous job and we always had chemistry but we were both married at the time..We always joked that we would hook up if we ever got a divorce. Well both have divorced now and maybe we both just need that transition relationship that helps us both put the ugly behind us and move forward. I think it is more of trust for us. We trust each other and respect but we both have needs that have gone unfulfilled...
2006-10-12 15:40:10 · update #1
have fun
2006-10-12 15:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by maxtrolle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can rationalize this any way you wish, but being the more "mature" person in the pair, I would suggest the hypocracy test - would you date a guy who is 51?
There is a lot of life between you two and would you wish to live those years over again? After all he has the right to be his age and go through the years coming in front of him.
Also, the fact you refer to him as a "this hot little" should really tell you how you feel about this. Not really a respectful term for a potential mate.
When I was 21, she was 34 - yup 13 years. She held my heart for almost 14 years, but would never commit. Many other relationships died to this on again/off again relationship. I am sure she aided in my growth and maturation, but I am also sure that may other life paths were not persued because of the hopes that lied in wait.
Would I want my son in a relationship like this? No way. Do I regret my time spent in this way? Not sure yet - ask me when I'm in the old age home.
2006-10-14 19:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by zdrgnslyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's all you want, and that's all he wants is a **** buddy, then go for it. Just remember to use protection lol. But if you both are looking for something more important, then go for it too. My brother has been happily married with his wife for 7 yrs. When they first started seeing each other, he was 20 and she was 36. Everything worked out for them. You will never know if you don't take the chance. If you are both attracted to each other, why not act on it, your both single. Good luck at whatever decision you make.
2006-10-12 15:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by skybluebabyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems to me that there may already be emotions involved on your part, I would make sure you would have a convo with him before doing anything to gage what his expectations are concerning this matter, it would NOT end well if you are on two different pages.
Going without affection is really alot easier then having your heart broke and frankly hardware to take care of the matter would be alot easier on the mind.
2006-10-12 15:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tread lightly on this one.... Eventually one of you will develop an attachment for the other one. It's something that happens even if the rules of non-emotional entanglement are clearly stated beforehand. Repeated physical encounters usually have an impact in the attachment process for both sexes.
2006-10-12 15:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by generic248 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't kid yourself. If you have any desire to be emotional fulfilled from a relationship you already suspect would be entirely physical, you're setting yourself up to get your feelings hurt. There is nothing wrong about seeking out a relationship that is only physical, if that is truly all you are looking for. It sounds like you are looking for something more than just a screw.
2006-10-12 15:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by Carole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, have a Happy Friday! There is only one way to find out - spend sometime together and see what happens. It's better than staying in and just wondering the what ifs. Either way it could be a good time.
2006-10-12 15:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by DBL L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its normal ... love is such a thing that age shoud not play a role in it. Go on and have fun u got nothing to lose! After all Ashton Kutcher & Demi Moore are getting along pretti fine! Though she's much older then he is. Go for it!
Good luck
2006-10-12 15:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start your relationship on the up and up and then no one will get hurt. I don't think the age thing has anything to do with it, it's the sexual thing that isn't right. Just use each other's bodies?eWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW Get to know the guy first. How can you go to bed with a guy just for the sex? Does love not have a part in it? That sounds like two animals in heat.
2006-10-12 15:21:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He only wants one thing. Do you really want to be the old lady that he banged? I myself am 40. What could you possibly have in common with him? I am sure that you are flattered by his attention but remember your reputation will be at stake. Don't waste your time on meaningless relationships. If your divorced, you already had some problems with one. Make good choices.
2006-10-12 15:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by roxy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for it chickee!!
If he is keen then keep him coming!! Yoiu need to get ur self some lovin!! Be it for a one nite stand or an on going fling!!
Whats wrong with a lil romance eh!! even if it doesnt last!! Have fun and let ya hair down!!
2006-10-12 15:18:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋