My boyfriend works second shift and he usually comes home right after work but all this week he has been coming home later and last night he came home 2 1/2 hours late. What has upset me is I don't come in the house at all hours of the night so why should he and so I told him he had to go and I put him out. Now he says he wasn't doing anything. He says he was just hanging out with the guys from work. Plus I was getting upset that he is taking me for granted. I cook, clean his clothes, take him back and forth to work, I was making myself available to him in the bedroom and he would only want me to be good to him and he would not want to be good to me---if you get my meaning. I would try to talk to him and tell him how I was feeling about our relationship and he would turn the conversation around to make it sound like I was blameing him and I wasn't blameing him for anything. I felt like he wanted me to be open with him but he wasn't with me and he would just throw me a bone whenever
2006-10-12 15:13:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I felt like he was trying to walk all over me and I wasn't going to let that happen. Am I over-reacting or justified in me breaking up with him?
2006-10-12 15:16:42 · update #1
well, i think that you made the right choice, you went with your heart and thats the most important thing to do for you. he had his chance to talk with you about this many times. and chose not to,so now he wants to ? well i think its to little to late. move on and find someone that will give as well as receive.in more ways than one.
2006-10-12 15:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this can only be a decision made by you. I can only tell you that I am going thru a very similar thing myself. If this is only been going on for a week, let it go. He could very well be just hangin out. But if its been an on going thing, go with your gut.
I'm kicking my man out also. The only difference is mine wasnt calling me, or would tell me he would be home at a certain time and then not come home for two or more hours, sometimes not at all. And getting drunk and "passing" out was usually the reason. Anyways, you want answers not someone else's problems. But I wanted to say go with your gut. I am.
2006-10-12 22:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to make yourself a doormat to find love in life. If he is treating you in a way that makes you feel less than, moove on. There is someone out there that will see you as the wonderful, feeling, caring person you are. If it is always you thats wrong, its no fun. part of the fun or arguing yourself, is that you get to win once in a while and then make up. But if its all on you, thats a dealbreaker. It starts to wear you down emotionally. not a good place to be.
2006-10-12 22:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by Beamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You kick him out because he is 2.5 hours late?
Damn I'd hate to know what would happen if he really messed up.
2006-10-12 22:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just let him sit on it for a while. If it is really meant to be then he will be patient and wait it out.
2006-10-12 22:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by sweethonesty1699 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE IT MIGHT BE NOTHING HE MIGHT BE TELLING THE TRUTH. i mean did u even try talking to him or are u letting your own fears and insecuritiesz getting the best of you. ma you need to relax
2006-10-12 22:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by luis_11211 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just shut up and put out some more
2006-10-12 22:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you cuz it probably would have only gotten worse!!
2006-10-12 22:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋