I have been dating a girl for about 14 months now. I can truly be myself around her, however, I'm not really physically attracted to her. I don't see her very often; we go to different colleges.I don't know if I love her or not. Is love possible without physical attraction? there are girls here that I am physically attracted to and also like their personalities. Am i wasting both of our time by continuing our relationship (should I break up and go after other girls) or should I try to stick it out with her?
2006-10-12 15:01:56 · 12 answers · asked by morgan b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask her if she would like to take a break. See how much you miss her. Date someone else.....see if it is more compatible with your personality type and see if you can also be physically attracted at the same time. If you miss your first girlfriend.....you will have more appreciation for her and tell her how much you missed her. If you don't miss her.....well there's your answer!
2006-10-12 15:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by yakimablueyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you describe it (unless there are some other information we do not know about) it seems as though you could date another girl and your first girlfriend would never find out. So why don't you make some sort of a transition here? Start seeing a new girl (without telling the first one) and see how your first girl reacts. Maybe she starts calling you more often, maybe she starts paying you visits... So, find out for yourself if this relationship is only a waste of time.
2006-10-12 15:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by zap 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes love is possible without physical attraction. You need to sit down with your girl friend and talk out where you think your relationship is going. If you are in different perspectives than perhaps it is time to let each other go. If you aren't meant to be together - then it will work out. Perhaps it's the distance apart that has you thinking this way.
2006-10-12 15:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You use the word "girlfriend", implying that there is a bond or a commitment between you and she. Yet, the text of your question implies that there is no true bond or commitment between you and she.
If you don't know the meaning of the word "commitment" then you are setting somebody up for a heartbreak. Commitment has noting to do with "physical attraction" as you say. Learn the meaning of this word.
2006-10-12 15:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a girl doesn't have to be physically attractive, if you love her, she should be beautiful to you on matter what, and if you can be yourself around her and still have a blast, i say keep her. And if you still aren't sure, then you need to sit down and talk to her, ask her where you both think your relationship is going. if you both feel its not working, then start seeing other people.
2006-10-12 15:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by gymbum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask your self one thing are you embarrassed to be with her if not try to make it work for you if it dose not then break it off and tell her the truth don't burn a possible friend that will always be there just to go get some A* s
2006-10-12 15:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by Guy 29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your heart. you can be the best of friends true, but dont ever think that the grass is greener on the other side. you are still young and have all the time in the world to be in love if you were in love you would know. she is probably a good homegirl that you enjoy spending time with when you do.
2006-10-12 15:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's whatever you feel is best. But remember you only live once, so why waste your time? You have alternatives and I suggest you take whatever you can. Looks aren't everything either. But I can see where your coming from. So go ahead, say good- bye and wish her luck. It's only a suggestion anyways.
2006-10-12 15:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by warhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why hang on to her when you don't have those kinda feelings for her?...you need to do her and yourself a big favor...and tell her that it just isn't working out, cause if you don't do it now your going to wish you had....because what your doing now is stringing her along and she deserves to know how you feel about her....you don't have to bring up the physical part but you do need to tell her how you feel...cause you don't want play with her feelings and lead her on do you? so yea if you ask me i think you are wasting your time and hers...i know you don't want to hurt her feelings....but she's going to be hurt...but she'll be even more hurt if you play with her feelings and lead her on....so if your really feeling like this....i think you need to let her go.
2006-10-12 15:17:21 · answer #9 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you deserve physical attraction and being able to be yourself around someone-hold out for it and break it to her gently
2006-10-12 15:04:23 · answer #10 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋